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- 1. Sebenza nochwepheshe
- 2. Cabanga ngezinketho zakho
- 3. Gcina izingane zakho zingangeni ezingxabanweni zakho
- 4. Zinike isikhathi
- 5. Funa ukwesekwa kubantu obathandayo
- 6. Sebenza nommeli ofanele
Isinqumo sokufaka isehlukaniso akufanele sithathwe kalula noma senziwe ngaphandle kokucutshungulwa ngokucophelela.
Akunakwenzeka ukweqa umphumela ongokomzwelo ngokungangabazeki isehlukaniso esiyoba nawo kuwe nasemndenini wakho. Manje yini ongayenza ukuze usinde esehlukanisweni ngokomzwelo futhi uqhubeke nempilo ngemuva kwesehlukaniso
Kulesi sihloko, sikunikeza izeluleko ezilandelayo ezifundwe ngesikhathi zokusinda kwesehlukaniso nokuqhubekela phambili empilweni yakho edlule.
1. Sebenza nochwepheshe
Ukusinda isehlukaniso kungaba nzima; ngemuva kwezinyanga noma iminyaka uzizwa unqanyuliwe koshade naye, ungavele uzitshele ukuthi isehlukaniso ukuphela kwendlela ongakhetha ngayo.
Kuyamangaza ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi inquma ukuhlukanisa ngaphandle kokufuna ukwesekwa kumndeni noma kumeluleki wabashadikazi.
Ngaphambi kokudivosa, kufanele usebenzise zonke izinketho zakho ukulungisa ubuhlobo bakho.
Akunamahloni okufuna usizo lochwepheshe ukuzama ukuxazulula izingqinamba zakho. Abelaphi kungenzeka babone izingqinamba ezijulile ezibangela ukwahlukana kwakho futhi bakunikeze amasu awakhayo okubhekana nezinkinga zakho.
2. Cabanga ngezinketho zakho
Akuzona zonke izehlukaniso ezidinga isikhathi esichithwa enkantolo phambi kwejaji. Uma wena noshade naye senifikile esinqumweni esiqondile sokuthi isehlukaniso silungele nina nobabili, qiniseka ukuthi uzifundisa ngezinketho ongazithola.
Ukulamula kuyindlela evumelekile kulabo abanobudlelwano bokuthula futhi abakwazi ukuxhumana ngempumelelo nabalingani babo.
Qiniseka ukuthi ukhetha ifemu yabameli enikezela ngezinsizakalo zokulamula nezamacala lapho uhlangabezana nezingxabano othola kunzima ukuzixazulula.
Ummeli wakho kufanele akwazi ukusebenza nawe ukukusiza ukulungisa izinto ngokuthula, kepha futhi kufanele bakulungele ukukulwela.
3. Gcina izingane zakho zingangeni ezingxabanweni zakho
Kubazali abafaka isehlukaniso, kufanele wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukugcina izingane zakho zingangeni ezinkambisweni zesehlukaniso ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kwesehlukaniso kungalimaza impilo engokomzwelo nengqondo yengane.
Akunandaba ukuthi uneminyaka emingaki, ukucelwa ukuthi uthathe uhlangothi esehlukanisweni sakho kungalimaza ukwethembana kwabo kanye nobuhlobo bakho nawe noma oshade naye phambili.
Izingane akufanele zicelwe ukuthi zinqume ukuthi izindaba zokubeletha zizophathwa kanjani noma ukuthi zizohlukanisa kanjani isikhathi sazo phakathi kwabazali.
Ukubhekana kahle nalezi zinkinga, wena nomzali wakho kumele nifunde ukusebenzisana, futhi kuzodingeka nisungule ubudlelwano obusha obuzonivumela ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zezingane zenu eminyakeni ezayo.
4. Zinike isikhathi
Kuvamile ukuthi imibhangqwana izibuze ukuthi isehlukaniso yinto efanele yini. Ukuzihlalela kungakwesabisa, ikakhulukazi kulabo asebeneminyaka beshadile.
Ukuqala impilo entsha ungazizwa ungakhululekile ekuqaleni, futhi uzodinga ukusungula izindlela ezintsha futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uzokwazi ukuzondla ngokwezimali.
Uma uzithola ungabaza ngesinqumo sakho sokuhlukanisa, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kungani wena noshade naye nikhethe ukuqeda umshado wenu.
Kungathatha izinyanga noma ngisho neminyaka ukwazana nempilo yakho entsha, kepha ngokuthatha isikhathi sokukhathazeka ngokulahlekelwa ngumshado wakho bese unquma izindlela ezinhle zokuqhubekela phambili, ungathola injabulo ekufanele.
Buka le nkulumo elandelayo ye-TED lapho uDavid A. Sbarra, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye no-Associate Professor of Psychology e-University of Arizona, echaza ngocwaningo lwakhe lwakamuva ngesehlukaniso nokwelashwa ngemuva kokwehlukana komshado.
5. Funa ukwesekwa kubantu obathandayo
Njengomlingani, kungenzeka uthembele kumlingani wakho ukuze akusekele ezindaweni eziningi zempilo yakho. Ukulahleka kwalobu budlelwano kungakushiya uzibuza ukuthi ubhekephi, ikakhulukazi lapho ubhekene nobunzima bemizwa yesehlukaniso sakho.
Yize kungaba nzima ukucela usizo, kufanele ubhekise emndenini wakho nakubangane bakho bese uthola ukwesekwa okudingayo ukuze usinde esehlukanisweni futhi uqhubeke ngemuva kwesehlukaniso.
Lokhu kungazizwa kukusha futhi kungakhululeki ekuqaleni, kepha ngohlelo lokusekela olufanele, ungazama ukudlula isehlukaniso futhi uqhubeke nempilo yakho futhi unqobe ngempumelelo izinselelo obhekene nazo.
6. Sebenza nommeli ofanele
Njengoba uqhubeka nesehlukaniso sakho, ungahle ungazi ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga ozodinga ukubhekana nazo noma lapho kufanele ufune khona usizo.
Njengommeli wehlukaniso waseDuPage County, ifemu yami isebenze namakhasimende amaningi - amanye anobudlelwano obunokuphikisana ngokweqile kanti amanye avele ahlukana.
Isipiliyoni seminyaka yethu engama-25 sisisizile safunda ukuthi noma ngabe ninobudlelwano obunjani, isehlukaniso singaba ngesinye sezimo ezinzima kakhulu umuntu angabhekana nazo.
Ngommeli ofanele wedivosi ngasohlangothini lwakho, ungaqiniseka ukuthi izindaba zomthetho zizosingathwa ngendlela efanele.
Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi ugxile ekwelapheni nasekuhlangabezaneni nezidingo zakho, futhi ungaphuma ngakolunye uhlangothi uqine kunanini ngaphambili.