-Delile
- Zenzele isikhathi
- Qalisa ukuboniswa kothando
- Landisa ngendlela entsha
- Thuthukisa ukuxhumana
- Funda izindlela ezintsha zokuxhuma ukwenza futhi uthole amakhono amasha
Ngabe ubudlelwano bakho bothando sebuphelile futhi buyinsakavukela? Ngabe uzizwa sengathi unomuntu ohlala naye onobungane (noma cha) Sebenzisa amathiphu ambalwa ngezansi ukuvusa izinto futhi.
Ezinye izimpawu ezijwayelekile zokuthi izinto sezihambile: ukungabi nentshisekelo nokuzizwa unesithukuthezi, ukuzwa isizungu ngaphakathi komshado wakho, ukungabi nangqondo yokuxhumana (akukho ongakhuluma ngakho) noma ukuxhumana, nokukhula kokungezwani okungakukhathazi ukukhuluma ngakho .
Yeka ukukushaya indiva lokhu hlakazeka okuhamba kancane futhi uthathe umzamo wokuxazulula lezi zinkinga ezivamile. Siyazithanda ukuthi izinto zizoba ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kanti akukho okuguqukayo. Ngeke; udinga ukuthatha isenzo esithile.
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuphefumula impilo ibuyele ebuhlotsheni bakho.
Zenzele isikhathi
Owokuqala uzwakala uphikisana, kepha akunjalo.
Lapho niqala ukuphola, beningabantu ababili abahlukene abanezintshisekelo nobuntu obuhlukile. Sivame ukuzama ukuthi "sibe munye" futhi sithambekele ekulahlekelweni kithina ebudlelwaneni. Nisengabantu ababili abahlukene futhi kubalulekile ukuchitha isikhathi kude komunye nomunye nisebenza izinto zokuzilibazisa, niye emcimbini nomngane, noma nibamba iqhaza eqenjini enilithola lijabulisa. Lokhu kukunikeza okuthile okusha ongakhuluma nomlingani wakho ngakho lapho ujoyina kabusha. Kubalulekile ukugcina ubungqayizivele bakho. Khumbula ukuthi ichibi elimile limila ulwelwe, kepha umfula ogelezayo ugcina amanzi ehlanzekile. Letha okuthile okusha etafuleni ozokhuluma ngakho.
Qalisa ukuboniswa kothando
Uyalwazi ulimi lothando lomlingani wakho? Encwadini kaGary Chapman, Izilimi Ezinhlanu Zothando, uthi sithola uthando ngalokhu okulandelayo: Izenzo Zokusebenza, Izipho, Amazwi Okuqinisekisa, Isikhathi Esisezingeni kanye Nokuthintwa Komzimba. Kubalulekile ukwazi ulimi lothando lomlingani wakho, kepha uthando nobulili kuvame ukufunwa yibo bobabili labo bantu ngezinga elithile.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ebuhlotsheni sidayisa izimvemvane ngobungani, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi asikwazi ukuvusa inkanuko futhi noma sibe nempilo eyanelisayo yothando. Ngokuba nenhloso yokuxhuma ngothando ungagcina amalangabi evutha. Ukugona nokuqabula, ukubingelela nokuvalelisa usuku ngalunye kuyisiqalo esibalulekile, kodwa futhi hlela izikhathi zokuya ocansini uma umatasa kakhulu. Khulumani ngalokho enikufunayo komunye nomunye! Angikwazi ukukutshela ukuthi izithandani zingitshela kangaki ukuthi azikhulumi, ziyahayiza noma zicabanga ukuthi kufanele zazi. Uma udinga usizo ngalena, bheka owelapha.
Landisa ngendlela entsha
Phuma enkambisweni efanayo kusihlwa bese uxhuma omunye nomunye ngendlela ezwakalayo. Zama ukuba nengxoxo engafaki, umsebenzi, izikweletu, izingane, imisebenzi yasekhaya, njll .Cisha i-TV bese udlala umdlalo wamakhadi. Noma setha isibali sikhathi imizuzu eyi-10 bese ngamunye wenu ephendula lo mbuzo ngenkathi omunye elalele. "Yikuphi okukhumbula okuhle kakhulu ngesikhathi sethu sindawonye?"
Esikhundleni sokuphazamisa noma ukwethula ngasohlangothini lwakho, zama ukubeka ngenye indlela okushiwo umlingani wakho ngokubaphindisela. Bese ubuza nabo ukuthi ngabe ukulungile yini. Lokhu kubizwa ngokulalela okusebenzayo futhi imibhangqwana eminingi izizwa ixhumeke kakhulu lapho ikwenza lokhu.
Thuthukisa ukuxhumana
Zama le fomula lapho ukhuluma nomlingani wakho. Uzakwethu olalelayo udinga ngempela ukulalela (ukulalela okusebenzayo) hhayi ukuzivikela. Funa ukuqonda.
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Ngenkathi ungena izolo ebusuku, wangangibingelela waqonda ngqo ehhovisi lakho, bengicabanga ukuthi uyangidina noma kukhona okubi engikwenzile. Ngangizizwa ngithukuthele ekuqaleni bese ngiba nohlobo lokukhathazeka ngokuthi ubusuku bethu buzohamba kanjani. Ngokuzayo ungavele ungibingelele ungazise ukuthi kufanele uthathe leyo kholi yenkomfa khona manjalo.
Funda izindlela ezintsha zokuxhuma ukwenza futhi uthole amakhono amasha
Uma ufuna ukujulisa ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho, akukaze kusheshe kakhulu noma kwephuze ukuhlangana nomelaphi wezithandani. Ungalindi ukuza ukwelulekwa kwezithandani ngenkathi isikhathi eside sokuxabana nokunqamula kunonile futhi kulimaze. Esikhundleni salokho, lapho izinto ziqala ukonakala noma unenkinga yokuxhumana, ukwelashwa kwabashadikazi kungaba ngumthombo omkhulu wokubuyisela emuva ithrekhi. Cabanga ngokwelulekwa kwezithandani njengendlela yokufunda amakhono amasha njengoba wakha ubambiswano lwakho futhi wehlise ingxabano. Njengoba nje ungafuna ukuthuthukisa ithenisi yakho ngokuthola izifundo singafunda izindlela ezintsha zokuba nobudlelwano obuhle ngokwelulekwa. Uma ukhathazeka ngokutshalwa kwemali, cabanga ukuthi isehlukaniso esijwayelekile singaba yizinkulungwane noma amashumi ezinkulungwane zamarandi kanye nengcindezi nobuhlungu obukhulu.