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- 1. Khumbula ukuhloniphana
- 2. Thumela omunye nomunye incwadi yothando encane
- 3. Vele uthi "Ngiyakuthanda" nsuku zonke
- 4. Khulumani ngezinto ezinenza nijabule nobabili
- 5. Cabanga ukuthi ungubani komunye nomunye
Ngisho nalabo abajabule kakhulu badinga amathiphu wokuxhumana wemibhangqwana ewusizo ngezinye izikhathi. Lapho impilo iba matasatasa futhi uzizwa unengcindezi, uvame ukulahlekelwa umbono womuntu oshade naye. Yize nithandana futhi nikhona lapho nithandana, kwesinye isikhathi niyakhohlwa ukukhuluma omunye nomunye. Ungahle ukhishwe ngokwengqondo noma udinga nje isikhathi esithile wedwa, futhi kulula kakhulu ukuthathelana phansi ngalezo zikhathi.
Uma ningakhulumi nodwa, niphuthelwa isisekelo esiyinhloko somshado wenu — futhi sekuyisikhathi sokubuyisela izinto esimweni esifanele!
Ukukhuluma komunye nomunye akudingeki kube umsebenzi. Kungaba mnandi, kungajabulisa, futhi ungabuyela esikhathini lapho ingxoxo ibilula futhi ingenamthungo. Ngenkathi niqala ukuthandana kungenzeka nachitha amahora amaningi nixoxa nomunye, futhi ungaba njalo futhi emshadweni. Ungakukholwa, kepha ngomzamo ofanele nokugcizelela engxoxweni enhle, ungakhuluma kakhulu emshadweni kunanini ngaphambili. Ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuthi nobabili nisekhasini elifanele nokuthi nenza ukuxhumana kube yinto ebaluleke kakhulu ndawonye, kepha amathiphu amahle kakhulu kulula ukususwa bese uqala ngokusebenza njengeqembu.
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuxhumana emibhangqwana emikhulu akusiza ukuthi ukujabulele lokho kuxhumana futhi uzizwe ujabule ndawonye futhi.
1. Khumbula ukuhloniphana
Kuzwakala sengathi kufanele kube ngokwemvelo, kepha abaningi bethu balahlekelwa inhlonipho endleleni. Kungahle kube ngenxa yesizathu esithile esibalulekile noma ngenxa yokuthi nithathana kancane. Abesilisa badinga inhlonipho njengabesifazane badinga uthando, futhi ngokweqiniso sonke sidinga ukuzizwa sihlonishwa ngumlingani wethu.
Uma ningenza izidingo zomunye nomunye zize kuqala futhi nikwazi ukucabanga ngokuhle nokuhle ngalomuntu enishade naye, khona-ke ukuxhumana kuza kalula ebudlelwaneni futhi nibeke phambili inqubo.
2. Thumela omunye nomunye incwadi yothando encane
Kukwenza umamatheke kangakanani uma uthola umbhalo wothando ovela kumlingani wakho? Noma ngabe sekuyisikhashana, bathumele umyalezo othi ucabanga ngabo. Bashiyele inothi lothando ekuseni kungabikho ndawo, futhi ngaphandle kwesizathu esithile.
Faka inothi ekudleni kwabo kwasemini noma ubhale okuthile okuhle encwadini yokubhalela abazokuthola. Amanothi othando okuzenzakalela athola ukusabela okuhle kuwo, futhi ngokuqinisekile azofuna ukuphindisela. Uma ufuna ukuphinde ukhulume futhi, bese ubabamba bese uvumela lesi senzo esincane senze usuku lwabo lube ngcono.
3. Vele uthi "Ngiyakuthanda" nsuku zonke
Enye yezeluleko zokuxhumana zemibhangqwana eziwusizo kakhulu ukutshelana ukuthi niyathandana kaningi. Uyazi ukuthi kuhamba kanjani — nobabili niyashesha ekuseni futhi ningaphuza ngokushesha kodwa kuphelele lapho. Thatha isikhathi sokubheka oshade naye emehlweni bese uthi "Ngiyakuthanda" futhi ubuke ukuthi konke ukuziphatha kwabo kuguquka kanjani.
Baqala ukucabanga ukuthi bakuthanda kangakanani futhi baqala ukukhuluma nawe kakhulu. Isenzo esihle kabi futhi esilula okufanele ngabe usenza noma ikanjani. Thatha nje isikhathi sokwabelana ngothando lwenu, nibukane emehlweni, niqabulane isikhashana, futhi ngalezi zenzo kufika ukuxhumana okugeleza ngokukhululeka kakhulu kunakuqala.
4. Khulumani ngezinto ezinenza nijabule nobabili
Uma uthanda ukukhuluma ngemicimbi yamanje noma imibono yezepolitiki, yenza lokho. Uma kunenza nithokoze nobabili ukukhuluma ngemisebenzi yenu noma ngemboni noma ngemakethe yamasheya, khona-ke kwenzeleni lokho.Akukho okulungile noma okungalungile lapha, thola nje uhlobo oluthile lokuvumelana ozoqala ngalo izingxoxo.
Impela ukukhuluma ngezingqophamlando noma okufeziwe kwengane yakho kuhle, kepha thatha igxathu eliya phambili. Khuluma ngezinto ezikuxhumanisayo nezikuhlanganisile kwasekuqaleni — uma ukhuluma ngezinto ezijabulisayo kuzokwenza izingxoxo zibe lula kakhulu futhi zijabulise ukuqhubekela phambili.
5. Cabanga ukuthi ungubani komunye nomunye
Uma nishade ngenjabulo nibe ningabalingani, abalingani, uhlelo lokuxhasana, iqembu, futhi niyathandana. Yize ungalahlekelwa yindlela yakho ngezinye zalezo ngezinye izikhathi, zinike isikhathi sokucabanga ngalezi zindima. Cabanga ukuthi impilo yakho ibizohluka kanjani ngaphandle kwalowo omunye umuntu, bese usebenzisa lokhu njengamandla ahamba phambili ukuya phambili.
Enye yezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu zokuxhumana ngemibhangqwana ukubheka ukuthi ingcono kangakanani impilo yenu komunye nomunye — futhi-ke ukukhuluma akusiseyona into esetshenziswayo kepha kunalokho kuyinto othokozela ukuyenza nomuntu omthandayo futhi oyidinga ngempela empilweni yakho!