-Delile
- Yiba khona
- Khetha indawo engathathi hlangothi
- Zigade indlela yokuziphatha
- Yabelana ngokunakekela
- Shiya okwedlule ngemuva
Uke ubuke umlingani wakho futhi uzibuze ukuthi ngabe bezwa ngisho igama elilodwa olishoyo? Ngabe ukhuluma ulimi olufanayo? Uma ufana nemibhangqwana eminingi, uke waba nalezo zikhathi lapho ungakhulumisani nje. Akuhlangene ngalutho nothando lwakho komunye nomunye kodwa konke kuhlobene nobudlelwano bakho.
Ukuxhumana yindlela umlingani wakho akwazi ngayo, ukuthi ufunani futhi udinga ini nokuthi yini ebalulekile kuwe. Ukukhulumisana okuhle kudinga okungaphezu kokuba sebudlelwaneni. Uyakhuluma noma uyaxhumana? Ngabe uxhuma ngokunengqondo futhi wabelana ngendlela engena kuleyo ndawo esondelene ngokomzwelo lapho kuhlala khona ukuqonda kwangempela?
Ukuzizwa unqamukile kumlingani wakho noma kunzima ukuzwakala kuyinkomba enhle yokuthi ukuxhumana kwakho kungadinga usizo. Uma unqekuzisa ikhanda lakho njengamanje, khona-ke lawa masu wokuxhumana azamile futhi ayiqiniso emibhangqwana ingeyakho!
Yiba khona
Akukho lutho olubi njengokuzama ukukhuluma nomuntu ophazamisekile noma ongenandaba. Ukuba khona kusho ukuthi unikeza umlingani wakho ukunaka kwakho okugcwele futhi okungahlukanisiwe, ulalele futhi uphendule okunenjongo. Ukuba khona kudlulisa inhlonipho futhi kuthumela umyalezo wokuthi “ubalulekile kimi.”
Ukuba khona kusho ukuba lapho ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Beka phansi umakhalekhukhwini, cisha i-TV, thumela izingane kugogo kusihlwa uma kudingeka. Lapho umlingani wakho ezwa ukuthi ukhona okwamanje nabo, maningi amathuba okuthi uzwe futhi uzwiwe.
Khetha indawo engathathi hlangothi
Kwesinye isikhathi ukushintsha kwenkundla kungabeka ingxoxo enenjongo. Lokhu kungaba yiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma kube nokungezwani okuningi endaweni yakho ejwayelekile. Izimbangela ezindala, izinkumbulo noma iziphazamiso lapho kungenza kube nzima ukuzama indlela entsha.
Cabanga ngokuya ngandlela thile lapho nobabili nizozizwa nikhululekile. Kungaba yipaki, isitolo sekhofi esiyintandokazi noma indawo ethule enabelana ngayo nobabili. Eminye imibhangqwana ithola ukuthi “ukuhamba nokukhuluma” kuyasiza kakhulu. Into ebalulekile ukuthola indawo emnandi ongakhululeka kuyo futhi uyixhume.
Zigade indlela yokuziphatha
Ukumemeza akwenzi umlingani wakho akuzwe kangcono. UDitto ekhomba ebusweni babo, ukubiza amagama, noma ukushaya itafula. Eqinisweni, lezo zinhlobo zokuziphatha zenza kube lula ukuthi umlingani wakho azokukhiphela ngaphandle. Kungani? Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuxhumana nokuhlukumezeka, ulaka noma ukunganaki. Njengabantu, sigwema okubukeka kuyingozi.
Umlingani wakho kungenzeka ukuthi azimisele ukukhuluma ngezinto uma uhlala uphethe. Ufuna umlingani wakho azi ukuthi kuphephile ukuxoxa ngenkinga nawe. Nayi ibhonasi: lapho uzolile, kukhuthaza umlingani wakho ukuthi ahlale ezolile. Kunzima ukuthethisa umuntu ozolile nolawulayo.
Cabanga ngaphambi kokuba ukhulume. Amazwi amabi asike enhliziyweni futhi uma eseshilo, awakwazi ukubuyiselwa emuva. Zizohlala engqondweni yomlingani wakho isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuthi ingxabano isiphelile. Ukunaka imikhuba yakho ngesikhathi sezingxabano zomlingani kubalulekile ekugwemeni isimo esibi futhi ngokuqinisekile kungenye yezindlela zokuxhumana ezibalulekile imibhangqwana okufanele izicabangele.
Futhi, ungesabi ukuvuma uma wenze iphutha. Ukuvuma amaphutha akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kuwuphawu lwamandla nobuqotho.
Yabelana ngokunakekela
Kwesinye isikhathi ungaba nokuningi ongakusho, uzizwe uphuthuma ukukukhipha konke ngasikhathi sinye. Umlingani wakho naye angazizwa ngendlela efanayo. Kunoma yikuphi ukushintshana okunenjongo, kubalulekile ukuthi umuntu ngamunye azizwe enethuba lokukhuluma, lokulalela kanye nokuphendula. Lokho ngeke kwenzeke lapho nobabili nifuna ukulawula ingxoxo. Impendulo ukwaba.
Ziningi izindlela zokwabelana nesikhathi onaso. Eminye imibhangqwana iyashintshana noma ibeke isikhathi esithile sokuhlanganyela ngaphambi kokuthatha ikhefu ukuvumela abalingani babo ukuthi babelane. Abanye bakhawulela isikhathi abazoxoxa ngaso okuthile noma babhale phansi imicabango yabo ngomunye umuntu. Zama ukubona ukuthi yini okusebenzela kangcono kakhulu.
Shiya okwedlule ngemuva
Melana nesilingo! Uma inkinga yakudala ibingeyona inkinga emahoreni angama-24 edlule, kungani isebenza manje? Ukuletha okwedlule kuphambuka kumagazini wamanje futhi kukunikeze izingqinamba ezimbili okufanele ubhekane nazo manje. Ukungcwaba okwedlule nokugwema ukubhekisa ezinsukwini zakudala ezingangabazeki akungabazeki ukuthi amasu wokuxhumana ahlakaniphe kunayo yonke imibhangqwana engabheka futhi ijabulele ukusimama kobudlelwano bayo isikhathi eside.
Ukuletha okwedlule kuthumela umyalezo wokuthi awusoze wavunyelwa ukuthi uqhubeke. Kuthiwani uma ukhunjuzwa ngawo wonke amaphutha owake wawenza? Leso isimemo sobumunyu, intukuthelo, nokudumazeka. Kungani uzihlupha ukukhuluma ngalokho okungenakuxolelwa noma ukuxazululwa? Khuluma ngombulali wezokuxhumana!
Kwesinye isikhathi kunezinkinga ezingaxazululeki ezidinga ukunakwa. Uma uthola ukuthi okwedlule kuqhubeka kuvela, kungasiza ukufuna usizo. Okwamanje, noma kunjalo, bhekana nodaba olusondele.
Isexwayiso: ukufuna usizo lwangaphandle AKUSHO ukuthi ubandakanya umama wakho, i-BFF yakho noma abantu obaziyo bazothatha uhlangothi lwakho. Ungamxolela umlingani wakho kepha labo abakuthandayo kungenzeka bangamxoleli. Lokho kungqubuzana okusha ngokuphelele. Ukufuna usizo lwangaphandle kusho umuntu ongathathi hlangothi ofanele ukukusiza uthole isixazululo (isb., Umeluleki wabashadikazi).
Uma uhlome ngamakhono amahle okuxhumana nothando lwangempela nokuhloniphana, ungagcina ubudlelwano bakho buqinile futhi buqinile, ukwazi ukubekezelela izikhathi ezinzima kakhulu. Awusoze wenza iphutha uma ulalela ukuqonda lowo omthandayo.
Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi amasu ama-5 okukhulunywa ngawo wezithandani angasiza ekuthuthukiseni ubudlelwano bakho? Tshela!