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- 1. Zimele
- 2. Yiba isilaleli esihle
- 3. Vumelanani ukungavumelani
- 4.Khulumisana - yazi 'uLimi Lothando' lomlingani wakho
- 5. Ukwamukela
- 6. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo
- 7. Ungalokothi uthathane kalula
- 8. Usuku lwasebusuku
- 9. Faka ezothando
- 10. Gcina ukusondelana kuphila
- 11. Izincomo
- 12. Bheka imizwa ethambile
- 13. Dedela ifantasy
- 14. Musa ukulawula
- 15. Ungalokothi usebenzise igama elithi D
Ubungeke uthande ukwazi isosi eyimfihlo emshadweni ojabulisayo nohlala isikhathi eside, ikakhulukazi kulabo bantu abashadile abajabule nabenze ubuciko bokuhola ubudlelwano obujabulisayo?
Sembula izimfihlo eziyi-15 zomshado ophumelelayo ozokusiza ukuxazulula izinkinga ezikhona emshadweni, ukuvimbela umuntu oshade naye izingxabano futhi akusize wakhe futhi ugcine umshado ophumelelayo.
Noma ngabe usanda kushada noma uzibiza ngo ‘Ball 'n' Chain wakudala, 'yonke imishado inezabelo zayo ezinhle nezimbi. Yize kungazwakala kufana, ukuxegiselwa kanye namaphethini wokujwayeleka kungokwemvelo ekwehleni nasekugelezeni kwempilo yomshado.
Izikhathi zokuxineka, isithukuthezi, kanye nokuxhumana okungafanele kuyingxenye yesifundo.
“Umshado uyasebenza.”
Umshado uyawuthatha umsebenzi, futhi njenganoma yini enye empilweni, kufanele wenze umsebenzi ukuze uthole umvuzo. Kepha umsebenzi womshado awufani nokuhlanza indlu yangasese nokukhipha udoti.
Umzamo ongena emshadweni ophumelelayo (funda ujabulile, uyasebenza futhi uyanelisa) wuhlobo lomsebenzi ongajabulisa futhi welaphe.
Ocwaningweni ebesilwenza, sicele imibhangqwana ejabulayo ukuthi iveze izihluthulelo zomshado ophumelelayo.
Funda ukuze wazi izeluleko zabo eziyi-15 zomshado ophumelelayo nojabulisayo.
1. Zimele
Ukuzimela kukalwe 'kubaluleke kakhulu' emshadweni.
Ukuze sijabule ebudlelwaneni, kumele sijabule kuqala. Lokho, empeleni, kuyisihluthulelo sobudlelwano obuyimpumelelo. Unalokho engqondweni, amakhosikazi nabayeni kufanele baqhubeke nokuzinika isikhathi sabo, bajabulele izinto abazithandayo, futhi ngokuvamile, bachithe isikhathi esithile behlukene.
Ukungabi khona nje kuphela kwenza inhliziyo ikhule ithanda, kepha ngesikhathi esisichitha sodwa, sihlangana futhi nohlangothi lwethu olungokomoya, siphinde simise imizwa yethu, futhi singene ngokuthuthuka kwezintandokazi zethu, izinhloso, kanye nempumelelo yethu. .
Ukuncika, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunciphisa ukuzimisela kwakho namandla akho okuqhubekela phambili njengomuntu ocabangayo okhululekile.
Lapho sigcina imizwa yethu yokuzimela, siyohlala sinokuthile esizokhuluma ngakho etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa, futhi sihlala siqine ngokwengeziwe, sinempilo futhi siheha kakhulu kozakwethu.
2. Yiba isilaleli esihle
Sidinga ukukhuluma.
Iningi lozakwethu liyasaba lo musho kepha uyazi ukuthi uma uzibuza ukuthi ungaba kanjani nobudlelwano obuyimpumelelo ukudala inkundla yezingxoxo ezinempilo yindlela okufanele uhambe ngayo?
Yize bonke abesifazane kufanele basebenze kubuciko bokulalela okusebenzayo, sigcizelela lokhu njengendawo enakwa kakhulu abesilisa. Imvamisa, abesilisa ababoni ukuthi konke okudingwa ngumlingani wabo kuyindlebe elalelayo.
Lokhu kungenxa yohlelo lwabo nendlela abafundiswa ngayo ukuxhumana nabanye.
Khumbula ukuthi ukulalela nokuzwa akufani. Ukulalela kuhilela izinhliziyo zethu. Vula okwakho, uzwe ukuthi uthini, umbuke ngenkathi ekhuluma, ubeke ngenye indlela, futhi uqinisekise.
Ukulalela kuyisihluthulelo sangempela somshado ojabulisayo, ngalokho, kubo bonke ubuhlobo.
3. Vumelanani ukungavumelani
Ukulunga ndawonye akusho ukuthi imibhangqwana iyavumelana ngayo yonke into encane. Iningi lemibhangqwana esixoxe nayo empeleni ibinezinhlobonhlobo zengqondo, imibono, kanye nezinkolelo; futhi babe nemibono ephikisanayo ezindaweni ezinkulu kwezinye izimo.
Yonke imibhangqwana kufanele ibe nezinga elithile lokungezwani kwenye indawo. Imibhangqwana ephumelelayo nenothando yahlonipha umbono womunye nomunye futhi yaba nokuhlekisa ngamaphoyinti abo okuxabana.
Khumbula, inhlonipho ingesinye sezici eziyinhloko zomshado ophumelelayo.
Yazi ukuthi ngemibono emibili ephikisanayo, omunye wabo akudingeki ukuthi ube neqiniso.
4.Khulumisana - yazi 'uLimi Lothando' lomlingani wakho
Kunezincwadi eziningana laphaya eziLimini Zothando. Lokhu kwasungulwa ngomqondo wezengqondo wokuthi umuntu ngamunye unendlela yakhe ehlukile lapho bekhuluma khona ngothando.
Ngokwazi okuthandwa umlingani wakho nezinto azithandayo, izingathekiso zingasetshenziswa ekuxhumaneni okuhlobene nokuthile umuntu akuqonda kahle.
Bheka indlela ngokomzimba umlingani wakho akhombisa ngayo uthando futhi uzokwazi ukuthi yini eyenza umshado uphumelele.
Lokhu kungaba, ukugeza imoto yakho, noma ukuqoqa izingane. Kusuka kuye, kungaba ukugcina izinto zokugeza zigcwele futhi zi-ayine amahembe akhe. Kwabanye, amagama ayo, izincwadi, nothando.
Izeluleko zethu zomshado ophumelelayo? Khombisa ulimi lothando lomlingani wakho ukuze uhlale wazi ukuthi uzokhuluma kanjani naye. Izilimi zothando kukhulunywa kakhulu ngazo kepha imibhangqwana ayikunaki kangako lokhu kunokuba kufanele.
Ukuqonda ulimi lothando lomlingani kuyimfihlo yobudlelwano obujabulisayo.
5. Ukwamukela
Umbulali omkhulu wobudlelwano, ukuntuleka kokwamukelwa kuyisici esivame ukubhekiswa kwabesifazane, abaziwa ngokuxokozela kwabo. Khumbula, sashada umlingani wethu ukuthi wayengubani ngaleso sikhathi, nokuthi ungubani manje. Noma besifuna ukumshintsha manje, asikwazi.
Isihluthulelo somshado ophumelelayo silele ekuboneni lokhu ngokushesha okukhulu.
Lapho umncenga noma umncenga, ubheka kuphela ubuthakathaka noma izinkinga zakhe. Shintsha umbono wakho ngokushesha bese uqala ukugxila ezimfanelweni ezinhle esikhundleni salokho.
6. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo
Kulula kanjalo futhi kungenye yezimfihlo zomshado ophumelelayo. Uma ubamba iqhaza kuphrojekthi, zenzele umthwalo wempumelelo yakho nokwehluleka kwakho.
Lapho wena nomlingani wakho ninokungaboni ngaso linye noma ingxabano, khumbula ukuthatha umthwalo wezenzo zakho, kufaka phakathi noma yini oyenzile noma oyishoyo, ikakhulukazi uma ibuhlungu, ingacabangi noma idala ubunzima.
7. Ungalokothi uthathane kalula
Ukuthathelana kalula kungaba yi-pathogen enobuthi kunazo zonke. Lapho sebenethezekile, kulula ukuthi imibhangqwana iqale ukungena esimweni sokunganaki - kanye nefomu lokulindelwe.
Lokhu empeleni kumane kuyindaba yesimo somuntu, njengoba sikhululeka ngokujwayelekile, kepha emshadweni, akufanele neze ufike endaweni lapho uthatha khona umlingani wakho.
Zibophezele ukuhlonipha umlingani wakho unomphela noma ngabe kunjani. Gwema ukucabanga, futhi unikele ngokwenza izinto ezinhle kumlingani wakho lapho kungenzeka khona. Imishado eminingi ephumelelayo inabalingani abafakazela lokhu.
8. Usuku lwasebusuku
Phakathi kwezinye izeluleko zomshado ophumelelayo, le thiphu iyona enganakwa kakhulu futhi enganakwa imibhangqwana, ikakhulukazi labo asebeshade isikhashana. Akunandaba ukuthi umbhangqwana wenzani ngobusuku bawo bosuku.
Ukuba nobusuku nje lapho bechitha isikhathi sabo bodwa bodwa kuqinisa isibopho futhi kusigcine ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uma unobusuku bosuku, kufanele ucishe izingcingo zakho uzibeke kude ukuze ungabi neziphazamiso.
Bukela i-movie ekhaya nama-popcorn noma hiking izintaba noma i-rollerblading ndawonye. Yishintshe kaningi futhi ube wusizo futhi unikeze umbono omuhle komunye nomunye. Ubusuku bobusuku obuthandanayo nobucabangayo akuyona nje enye yezinyathelo eziya emshadweni ophumelelayo kepha futhi ungomunye wezithako eziyinhloko zomshado ophumelelayo.
Kubalulekile ukuhlela lokhu njalo ngenyanga uma kungenjalo masonto onke ukuze kugcinwe ukuphendula futhi kusungulwe indlela yokubaluleka maqondana nobusuku besikhathi.
9. Faka ezothando
Uzibuza ukuthi ungenza kanjani umshado uphumelele? Iya esikoleni esidala ngezothando lwakho. Izenzo zothando zingaba ziningi - zama ukumnika imbali ngelinye ilanga noma ubeke inothi lothando esikhwameni sakhe esikhwameni noma ubhaka. Umumangaze ngesidlo asithandayo, noma ubuke ukushona kwelanga ndawonye.
Azishodi izeluleko nemibono yomshado, futhi uzomangala ukuthi uthando oluncane luya kude kangakanani ekuqiniseni ubudlelwano.
10. Gcina ukusondelana kuphila
Ucansi lubaluleke kakhulu emshadweni onempilo. Ubulili kufanele bube njalo, futhi abelaphi basikisela ukuthi ukwenze noma ungekho esimweni sengqondo!
Siphakamisa ukukugcina kuthakazelisa ngokukhuluma ngalokho okukujabulisayo nokungeza noma ikuphi ukudlala indima, izindawo, noma izinsiza zokulala ongafuna ukuzethula ukuze kugcine kujabulisa.
Kakade, uyini umshado ophumelelayo uma ungakuvumeli ukuba uthole lokho okufisayo?
Umqeqeshi wempilo uGiovanni Maccarrone ukhuluma ngokuthi ukuthatha lesi sinqumo esisodwa ngaphambi kokushada kungasiza kanjani ekwenzeni umshado uphumelele.
11. Izincomo
"Ukuncoma usuku kugcina ummeli wedivosi engekho." Ukwamukela izimfanelo ezinhle zomlingani wakho nsuku zonke, nokukhokha izincomo, kungasiza kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Hlala unombono oqondile, futhi ugcine lokho okwenziwa umlingani wakho kahle. Lapho izinto ziba nzima futhi kuvela izimfanelo zakhe ezingezinhle kangako, kunokugxila kokubi, zama ukushintsha amagiya, bese ukhomba izinto ezinhle esikhundleni salokho.
12. Bheka imizwa ethambile
Ngemuva kwayo yonke imizwa "enzima" kuyinto ethambile; lo umqondo ofundiswa izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo.
Lapho sizwa intukuthelo, kuvame ukufihla omunye umuzwa ngemuva kwayo, njengokudabuka, ukudana, noma umona. Imvamisa sisebenzisa intukuthelo njengokufihla ukuvikela ubuthakathaka bethu.
Ukufuna imizwa “ethambile” noma ebuthaka ngaphansi kokubonisa kanzima komunye umuntu ngentukuthelo kuzokusiza ukuthi uhlale uxhumekile njengoba ukulungele kangcono ukuzwelana nemizwa yangempela yalowo muntu.
Sivame ukufuna amathiphu omshado ukuze sibe nobudlelwano obuphumelelayo kepha sehluleka ukubona ukuthi into elula njengokukhomba ubuqiniso bemizwelo ingasigcina sisendleleni efanele.
13. Dedela ifantasy
Ngeshwa, sihlangana nabantu ukukholelwa ekugcineni kwezinganekwane futhi singahle sithwale imibono engamanga ngokoqobo size sibe ngabantu abadala. Sidinga ukuqaphela ukuthi, yize umshado ungaba yinto enhle, awunamandla, futhi awusoze waphelela.
Yiba nokulindela okungokoqobo futhi ungabi isisulu sezinganekwane - ungazithola udumele kakhulu. Lesi akusona kuphela sezici ezinkulu zomshado ophumelelayo kepha futhi sidlala indima enkulu enjabulweni yakho njengomuntu futhi.
14. Musa ukulawula
Abantu abashadile bavame ukufika endaweni lapho beqala khona ukulahleka khona, bavumele umona noma imizwa yokungafaneleki, noma bakhohlwe ukuthi bangabantu abahlukene kude nabalingani babo, futhi bangazama ukulawula abalingani babo.
Isikhathi esiningi lokhu kwenziwa kungahlosiwe, njengoba okulindelwe kungakhula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Okwenza umshado uphumelele ukuxhumana, isikhathi esizimele, nokuzitika okunempilo okuzogcina noma yimuphi umbhangqwana endleleni. Uma ubona ukuthi uyalawulwa noma uyisilawuli, thola isibambo kuyo noma wenze i-aphoyintimenti yomeluleki womndeni.
15. Ungalokothi usebenzise igama elithi D
Uma ucabanga ukuthi awufuni ngempela ukuthola isehlukaniso, ungasongeli. Imibhangqwana esebenzisa i-D-word noma ekhuluma ngokuhlukana ngesikhathi sezimpi isebenzisa lokhu njengendlela yokulawula. Imibhangqwana eyisebenzisa ngendlela esongelayo maningi amathuba okuthi ihlukanise ifezeke.
Ukwenza izinsongo akuyona isu elivuthiwe lokuxazulula noma iyiphi inkinga, ngakho-ke ungayenzi.
Imibhangqwana eminingi ejabule ifunga ngalezi zeluleko zomshado eziphumelelayo. Landela lezi zeluleko zendlela yokuba nomshado ophumelelayo; ngeke nje ukwazi ukusindisa umshado wakho kepha futhi uzokwazi ukujabulela ophumelele kakhulu.