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- 1. Lisho ukuthini igama elithi ‘isithembiso’?
- 2. Kumele izifungo zibe zinde kangakanani?
- 3. Ingabe zikhona izindlela ezehlukene zokwenza izifungo zomshado?
- 4. Ngubani ohamba phambili - umakoti noma umkhwenyana?
- 5. Ungazibhalela izifungo zomshado?
- 6. Athini amazwi ezifungo zomshado wesintu?
- 7. Yini ukubaluleka kwamasongo ezifungweni zomshado?
- 9. Lisho ukuthini igama elithi ‘umshado ongcwele’?
- 10. Kungani abanye abantu bevuselela izifungo zabo?
Uma wena nabathandekayo bakho nicabanga ukuthatha izifungo zomshado noma kunini, ungahle uzibuze ngezinto ezimbalwa, futhi ungahle ube nemibuzo engqondweni yakho. Ngakho-ke le ndatshana izofuna ukuphendula imibuzo eyishumi ebuzwa njalo ngesihloko sezifungo zomshado ngale ndlela elandelayo:
1. Lisho ukuthini igama elithi ‘isithembiso’?
Ngaphambi kokwenza noma yiziphi izifungo, kuhle wazi kahle ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukwenza lolu hlobo lwesimemezelo. Ngokuyinhloko, isithembiso isethembiso esibophezelayo nesibophezelayo esenziwa ngumuntu, futhi esimweni sesifungo somshado kulapho abantu ababili bethembisana omunye nomunye, phambi kofakazi ukuze bakwazi ukushada ngokusemthethweni nangokusemthethweni. Lezi zifungo zivame ukwenzeka ngesikhathi somcimbi obe kuhlelwe ikakhulukazi ngenhloso yokwenza nokushintshana ngezifungo. Kuhle ukwazi kahle futhi uzilungiselele ngaphambi kokwenza isifungo, ikakhulukazi isifungo somshado, ngoba akuyona into ongayihoxisa kalula uma ushintsha umqondo ngemuva kwalokho.
2. Kumele izifungo zibe zinde kangakanani?
Yize izithembiso zomshado zibalulekile futhi zinesisindo, akudingeki ukuthi zibe zinde. Eqinisweni, cishe imizuzu emibili umuntu ngamunye ngokuvamile anele ukwenza amaphuzu abaluleke kakhulu ngokulandelana, ngaphandle kokuhudula uqhubeke. Khumbula ukuthi izifungo ziyizethembiso eziqondile nezishaya emhloleni, kuyilapho ngokuvamile kuzoba nesikhathi sezinkulumo ezinde emkhosini wokubungaza ngemuva komkhosi wangempela.
3. Ingabe zikhona izindlela ezehlukene zokwenza izifungo zomshado?
Indlela okhetha ngayo ukwenza izifungo zomshado wenu iyindaba yomuntu uqobo eningayithatha. Ngokuyisisekelo kunezinketho ezintathu umbhangqwana ongazikhetha, futhi kwesinye isikhathi kuhlanganiswa izindlela ezimbili noma ngaphezulu. Okokuqala, ungahle uthande ukubhala noma ukhethe izifungo zakho bese uzifunda noma uzikhulume. Okwesibili ungafuna ukuthi umuntu osebenza naye asho izifungo kuqala, ibinzana nebinzana ngenkathi uziphinda. Okwesithathu, ungakhetha inketho lapho umphathi wakho ebuza imibuzo bese uphendula ngokuthi 'Ngiyakwenza'.
4. Ngubani ohamba phambili - umakoti noma umkhwenyana?
Emicimbini yomshado wesintu, imvamisa umkhwenyana wayesho izifungo zakhe kuqala bese umakoti elandela. Kwezinye izimo umbhangqwana ungakhetha ukusho izifungo ngokuvumelana. Izethembiso izikhathi eziningi bezizokhulunywa njengoba izithandani ziphendukelana zabambana ngezandla, zabukana emehlweni njengoba zikhuluma ngobuqotho nangokuzwakalayo izethembiso ezijulile ezizenza komunye nomunye.
5. Ungazibhalela izifungo zomshado?
Yebo, imibhangqwana eminingi ikhetha ukubhala izifungo zayo, ikakhulukazi uma izwa ukuthi ingathanda ukuveza uthando lwayo ngomunye nomunye ngendlela eqondene nabo. Kungaba wumqondo omuhle ukuthatha amagama ezithembiso zendabuko uwaguqule ngandlela thize avumelane nobuntu bakho nemizwa yakho, ngaleyo ndlela ugcine isisekelo siqinile kepha usenze esakho ngasikhathi sinye. Noma ungathanda ukwethula futhi wakhe okuthile okuhluke ngokuphelele futhi kube ngokwakho. Kunoma ikuphi, khumbula njalo ukuthi wusuku lwakho nomshado wakho ukuze ukwazi ukukhetha ukwenza noma yini ekwenza uzizwe ukhululeke kakhulu.
6. Athini amazwi ezifungo zomshado wesintu?
Amagama azamile futhi athembekile ezifungweni zomshado wendabuko angokulandelayo:
“Ngi ... okubi kakhulu, kokunotha noma kwabampofu, ekuguleni nasempilweni, ukuthanda nokubonga, size sehlukane nokufa, ngokomthetho ongcwele kaNkulunkulu; futhi ngiyazibophezela kuwe. ”
7. Yini ukubaluleka kwamasongo ezifungweni zomshado?
Ngemuva kokuba izifungo sezikhululiwe, kujwayelekile kwamanye amasiko ukuthi izithandani zishintshane ngezindandatho njengophawu noma uphawu lwesivumelwano abasenzile nomunye. Indandatho ngokwesiko imele ingunaphakade njengoba isiyingi singenasiqalo futhi singenasiphelo. Emazweni asentshonalanga, kuyinto evamile ukugqoka indandatho yomshado emunweni wesine wesandla sobunxele. Lapho lo mkhuba uqala okokuqala, bekukholelwa ukuthi kukhona umthambo othile, obizwa nge-vena amoris, owawusuka ngqo emunweni wesine uye enhliziyweni. Kwamanye amasiko iringi yokuthembisa nayo iyagqokwa, noma indandatho yangaphambi kokuthembisana kwesinye isikhathi ebizwa ngokuthi yiringi yesithembiso.
8. Siyini isimemezelo somshado?
Lapho umakoti nomkhwenyana sebeqedile ukusho izifungo zabo zomshado umpristi noma umphathi uzokwenza isimemezelo somshado esingahamba kanjena:
“Manje njengoba u ... ukunikezwa nokwamukelwa kwezindandatho, ngithi bangamadoda nenkosikazi, eGameni likaYise neleNdodana nelikaMoya oNgcwele. ”
9. Lisho ukuthini igama elithi ‘umshado ongcwele’?
“Umshado Ongcwele” elinye igama noma igama elisetshenziselwa umshado, futhi kubhekiswa eqinisweni lokuthi umshado wagcotshwa futhi wasungulwa nguNkulunkulu njengobudlelwano bempilo yonke phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane. Umshado (noma umshado ongcwele) uyisipho esivela kuNkulunkulu futhi ubuhlobo obuseduze nobungcwele bomuntu obungenzeka phakathi kwabantu ababili.
10. Kungani abanye abantu bevuselela izifungo zabo?
Ukuvuselelwa kwezifungo zomshado kuyinto ejwayelekile kwamanye amazwe namasiko futhi kungaba nezizathu ezahlukahlukene zokwenza lokhu. Ngokuyisisekelo kungukugubha umshado ngemuva kweminyaka ethile ndawonye - mhlawumbe ishumi, amashumi amabili, amashumi amabili nanhlanu noma ngaphezulu. Lo mbhangqwana unomuzwa wokuthi ungathanda ukuqoqa abangane nomndeni ndawonye futhi uphinde uqinisekise noma uzinikele komunye nomunye esidlangalaleni. Lokhu kungaqhamuka ngemuva kokusinda emaphethelweni amabi ebudlelwaneni babo, noma njengesitatimende sokubonga nokugubha ubudlelwano obuhle ababujabulelayo ndawonye.