-Delile
- Gcina ubungani obuhle
- Bhekani umhlaba ndawonye
- Hlonipha ukwehluka kobuntu
- Dlula impikiswano ngokushesha
- Yiba isilaleli esihle
- Xolisa ngendlela efanele
- Yenza oshade naye azizwe ekhethekile
- Beka ukwethembana komunye nomunye
- Khumbula izikhathi ezimnandi
Yonke imibhangqwana ikholelwa “enjabulweni yaphakade” ngenkathi ibopha ifindo. Bacabanga ukuthi bazohlala ndawonye kuze kube phakade. Nokho, akuyona yonke imishado enenganekwane ephela.
Ngeshwa, imishado eminingi iphela ngesehlukaniso. Kungaba nezizathu ezahlukahlukene zobudlelwano obungajabulisi ngenxa yokuthi akuyona yonke imishado ebenzayo. Ukuhlanganyela ebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo, ngakho-ke, kuyingxenye ebalulekile yempilo egculisayo.
Umbuzo ovelayo yilowo obeka imishado emifushane ngaphandle kwaleyo ehlala iminyaka engama-50 noma nangaphezulu.
Yebo, ngokusho kwezithandani ezigubha iminyaka engama-50 yenjabulo eshadile kanye nochwepheshe ababone lobu budlelwano budlondlobala, kunemithetho ethile yegolide. Kunezici ezithile zempilo yomshado ehlala isikhathi eside futhi emnandi ekhulisa amathuba okuthi umbhangqwana ube ndawonye eminyakeni eminingi kamuva.
Okulandelayo ngamagama ahlakaniphile nezindlela ezinhle zokwenza umshado wakho uhambe ibanga
Gcina ubungani obuhle
Enye yezinto ezibalulekile emshadweni ohlala isikhathi eside ukuthi nibe ngabangane abahle. Njengoba isisho esidumile sithi: “Kuthatha okubili kuya ku-tango.”
Kususelwa ngokuphelele ebunganeni hhayi esibophweni lapho abantu ababili bevuma ngokuzithandela ukwenza okuthile ndawonye. Akuvamile ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi abantu abathandanayo bangabangani abahle ngokuzenzekelayo.
Ubungani obuhle phakathi kwabathandi ababili benza ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye into ethokozelwa yibo bobabili amaqembu nababheke phambili kuyo.
Bhekani umhlaba ndawonye
Ubudlelwano obenelisa kakhulu benzeka lapho umbhangqwana uqonda ukuthi umshado umdlalo weqembu. Kumele babuyele emuva, babheke ngaphandle.
Singabantu ngabanye kodwa sifeza okuningi ngokubambisana. Khumbula umshado akuwona umncintiswano; ungalokothi ugcine amaphuzu.
Hlonipha ukwehluka kobuntu
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwamukela umlingani wakho ngenxa yokuthi bangobani. Akufanele neze ucabange ukuthi ungashada nendoda namuhla bese uguqula izindlela zayo kusasa.
Ukufana ncamashi ngeke kusebenze, futhi ngokunokwenzeka uzogcina ufisa sengathi ngabe usenayo imodeli endala, enamaphutha owathandile.
Dlula impikiswano ngokushesha
Imvamisa imininingwane emincane yokuphila kwansuku zonke enquma ukuthi umshado uyimpumelelo. Amagama entukuthelo angaba nobungozi ebudlelwaneni bakho, futhi umphumela ungalimaza kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuba nesandla esivulekile lapho nixabana.
Phikisana okuningi, kepha hlala njalo.
Imishado ayibushelelezi ngaso sonke isikhathi, kepha kufanele ihlale ihlonipha. Qaphela ngenkathi ukhuluma ingqondo yakho futhi ungasho noma wenze noma yini engatholakali.
Yiba isilaleli esihle
Lokhu kuzithoba okuhle kuyawenza umehluko. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda umbono womlingani wakho. Umshado omuhle ususelwa ekukhulumisaneni okuhle nasekhoneni lokuxazulula inkinga ngaphandle kokuletha amathonya angaphandle.
Nikela isikhathi sakho ekuqondaneni.
Ukwenza umshado usebenze, yonke imibhangqwana idinga ukuthola ukungafihli nokwethembeka ukuze ixoxe ngezinkinga eziningi. Izinkulumo ezigwenywayo eziba umsuka wezinkinga eziningi.
Xolisa ngendlela efanele
Akekho umuntu ophelele. Kuyimvelo yomuntu ukwenza amaphutha.
Ukuze ube nomshado onempilo, ukuxolisa ngaphandle kokuvuma ukuthi akuyona into ongakhathazeka ngayo.
Ukuthi uxolo akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi kusho ukuthi ubungalungile. Kungabhekisa ekudabukeni ngokuziphatha kwakho, amagama, futhi mhlawumbe ukumemeza.
Kwesinye isikhathi kuhle uma uvuma ukungavumelani bese uqhubeka. Imibhangqwana engabeki eceleni ama-egos ayo ibeka ubudlelwano bayo engcupheni, ibenze bube nezinhlekelele.
Yenza oshade naye azizwe ekhethekile
Ubudlelwano obuhlala isikhathi eside abufiki ngaphandle kokuzidela okuncane.
Kuyadingeka ukubeka umlingani wakho phambili ngezikhathi ezithile. Yazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi ucabangani futhi ubakhathalele kanjani. Hlela usuku lwedina noma ubamangaze ukubenza bazizwe bekhethekile futhi befunwa.
Beka ukwethembana komunye nomunye
Ukwethenjwa kuyingxenye ebalulekile yobudlelwano obunempilo nobenelisayo. Ukuthemba othile kuyisinqumo osenzayo.
Kubalulekile ukuthi abalingani bathembane njengoba kuyisisekelo ubudlelwano bakho obungasinda phezu kwabo ezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu.
Ukunikezana isikhala somuntu siqu sokungathembani kungenye yezizathu zokuthi ubudlelwano buhlukane.
Khumbula izikhathi ezimnandi
Hlala ukhumbula ukuthi izimpikiswano zingezesikhashana.
Zama ukukhohlwa izici ezimbi zobudlelwano futhi ukhumbule izikhathi zakho ezinhle nomunye. Ungahle ungabi nalo ikusasa nomuntu omthandayo.
Noma yibuphi ubuhlobo budinga ukubekezela nokuzikhandla. Akunakwenzeka ukusebenza ubuhlobo obunenjongo ngokungenaphutha. Ngakho-ke, namathela komunye nomunye ezikhathini ezimbi futhi ukhumbule ukuphila kwakho nsuku zonke, njengoba kungukugcina kwakho.