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- 1. Xoxani ngokuthandayo nangakuthandi
- 2. Xoxani ngezindlela zokuvimbela inzalo
- 3. Xoxani ngokwedlule kwezocansi
- 4. Xoxani ngama-STD / ama-STI
- 5. Xoxani ngezinye izindlela kunokuhlinzwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane
- 6. Xoxani ngokukhulelwa nokusondelana
Ukusondelana ngokomzimba kuyisici esibalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo noma ngabe usanda kuqala ukuthandana noma usebenzise isikhathi sonke sempilo sijabulelana ndawonye! Kepha-ke, ngenxa yamahloni noma amahloni, abesifazane bavame ukubuya ekukhulumeni ngempilo yabo yezocansi nenhlalakahle nabalingani babo.
Khumbula, ukuxhumana njalo kubeka isisekelo sobudlelwano obunempilo kwezocansi. Vula isiteshi sokuxhumana ngokukhuluma ngezihloko ezibalulekile zezempilo yocansi nomlingani wakho, ezibandakanya kepha ezingagcini kuzikhombi ezilandelayo:
1. Xoxani ngokuthandayo nangakuthandi
Umthetho wokuqala nowokuqala wegeyimu ukhuluma ngokuncanyelwayo kwakho kwezocansi.
Impela, kunemisebenzi oyithandayo futhi kukhona imisebenzi ekwenza ukhungatheke. Ukuthi usebudlelwaneni nothile akusho ukuthi uzohamba nokugeleza kuphela ukuze umjabulise futhi uhlupheke ngokuthula. Ukukhuluma nomlingani wakho ngemikhuba yakho yezocansi, okuthandayo nokungathandeki isinyathelo sokuqala sokwakha ukwethembana nokuzethemba. Lokhu yikho okwenza ukwenza uthando kube yinto ejabulisayo kini nobabili. Kuzosiza futhi nobabili ukuba nihlangane ndawonye kunanini ngaphambili.
2. Xoxani ngezindlela zokuvimbela inzalo
Ukuvimbela inzalo nobulili obuvikelwe yisihloko sokuqala okudingeka ubhekane naso njengoba ungeke uthathe izingozi ezifana ne-STD / STI noma ukukhulelwa. Qala ngokusho ukuthi udinga ukukhuluma ngocansi oluphephile noma ukhulume ngalokho okucabangayo ngalesi sihloko ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe igebe! Njengesinyathelo esilandelayo, ungavakashela udokotela wezifo zabesifazane ndawonye ukuthola izinketho zokuvimbela inzalo futhi uthole ukuthi yikuphi okulungele kangcono. Khumbula, kungumsebenzi owabiwe futhi udinga ukuwuhlola ndawonye.
Njengoba kunezinyathelo eziningi zokuvimbela inzalo, thatha iphoyinti lakho bese ukhetha elilodwa, eliphumelela kakhulu wena nomlingani wakho.
3. Xoxani ngokwedlule kwezocansi
Umlando wakho wezocansi ungakucasula uma ungavuleki ngakho noma ukufihlela kumlingani wakho wamanje. Ngasikhathi sinye, kubalulekile futhi ukufunda umlando wabo wezocansi futhi ukuze ungabi sengozini. Asikho isikhathi “esihle” sokukhuluma ngakho. Mane uthole isikhathi lapho ungakhuluma khona kabanzi ngesihloko. Qala ngokusho ngokunganaki ubudlelwano bakho bangaphambilini bese ubuthatha lapho. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ususe umthwalo esifubeni sakho futhi wazi ukuthi umlingani wakho uthini. Lokhu kuzokwenza futhi nithenjane kakhulu.
4. Xoxani ngama-STD / ama-STI
Izifo Ezithathelwana Ngocansi kanye Nezifo Ezithathelwana Ngocansi kungamafulegi abomvu kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo futhi kunikezwe ukuthi kucace ngalesi sihloko kusengaphambili ukugwema imibono engaqondakali.
Futhi, kuwumkhuba omuhle ukuthi nobabili nihlolwe ama-STD kanye nama-STI ngaphambi kokusondelana. Lokhu kungaba iseluleko esisindisa impilo ngoba nobabili kungenzeka ukuthi anisazi isifo esiyimbangela futhi nisidlulisele komunye nomunye ngesikhathi sokusondelana ngokomzimba.
Sampula lokhu, cishe Umuntu oyedwa kwabangu-8 abane-HIV bangazi ukuthi banesifo. Futhi, ezinganeni ezineminyaka engu-13-24, cishe amaphesenti angama-44 abo atheleleke nge-HIV bebengazi ukuthi bathelelekile.
Futhi masingakhohlwa ukuthi lezi zifo kanye nokutheleleka nakho kudlulela nakubantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo ngoba noma ngubani angathinteka yilesi sifo. Eqinisweni, abesifazane bathinteka kalula kuma-STD kanye nama-STI kunabesilisa. Isizathu sokuba ulwelwesi oluncane lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, esivumela ukuthi amagciwane nama-bacteria adlule kalula ngokungafani nesikhumba esiqinile sowesilisa.
Kodwa-ke, ungabi nesibindi ngenkathi usondela kulesi sihloko ngoba kungabonakala njengokuhlasela kwemfihlo yomuntu. Khuluma nabo kuso ukuze bazizwe bekhululekile futhi bathambekele ekuthatheni isinqumo esinolwazi njengokuhlolwa.
5. Xoxani ngezinye izindlela kunokuhlinzwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane
Kuvamile ukuthi izingxenye zakho zezintokazi zikhululeke ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile. Ngenkathi kunezindlela eziningana zokubuyisa ukunwebeka, ezinye zihlala unomphela ezinye zingezesikhashana, kufanele uhlale ukhetha okulungele wena esikhundleni salokho okudingayo "ukuhlaba umxhwele" umlingani wakho!
Abesifazane abaningi bakhetha ukuhlinzwa esithweni sangasese, okungaba nemiphumela emibi. Ngokusobala abazi ukuthi kunezinye izindlela ezifana nenduku eqinisa isitho sangasese sowesifazane. Akunasidingo sokukhetha ukuhlinzekwa nokukhwehlela inqwaba yemali ukukhokhela okuthile okungenakuhlala unomphela!
6. Xoxani ngokukhulelwa nokusondelana
Uma usanda kuthola isitho sangasese sowesifazane, kunamathuba okuthi kuzodingeka uyeke ukuya ocansini okungenani amasonto amane ngemuva kokubeletha. Ngalesi sikhathi, usengasondelana nomlingani wakho ngokuzitika nge-foreplay. Lokhu kuzokunikeza isikhathi sokululama ekukhulelweni nasekubelethweni.
Funda kabanzi: Ukunqoba Izinkinga Zomshado Ngesikhathi Sokukhulelwa
Futhi, ngale ndlela, ukoma kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, amabele amathenda noma ukuvuka kancane, okuvame kakhulu ngalezi zikhathi, ngeke kufike phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho! Ukukhuluma ngempilo yezocansi akudingeki kube nzima uma uzama ukuvulela isithandwa sakho kancane. Thatha nje isinyathelo esisodwa ngesikhathi, futhi nobabili niyokwazi ukuthi ningenza kanjani omunye nomunye anethezeke. Lokhu ekugcineni kuzosiza ubudlelwano bakho bukhule!
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