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- 1. Ukungazizwa ngokwanele
- 2. Abalingani abangahambisani
- 3. Intukuthelo engaxazululwa, noma imizwa eyeqile njengokudabuka noma ukwesaba
- 4. Ukungabi namasu okubhekana nezinkinga
- 5. Izinkinga zokunamathiselwe
Isitatimende esilula kepha esibanzi ukusho ukuthi akekho umuntu othokozela ukungqubuzana ebudlelwaneni babo. Futhi ebudlelwaneni obuningi lokho kuyiqiniso. Iningi lingathanda kakhulu ukugcina ukulingana, imvamisa lizonda izikhathi zesiyaluyalu. Vele, bayazi ukuthi ukungqubuzana kobudlelwano kuyinto ejwayelekile nenempilo (ngokulinganisela). Kepha kukhona abanye abantu abaphumelela ngokungqubuzana ebudlelwaneni babo - abakwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwabo.
Noma ngabe abantu, noma imibhangqwana ephumelela ngokungqubuzana kobudlelwano, kungenzeka ukuthi iqinisekise ukuthi ayifuni lolu lwazi, futhi nabo, bangathanda ubudlelwano obunokuthula. Kubukeka sengathi noma ngabe bazama kanzima kangakanani, abakwazi ukukufeza. Kubenza baphile impilo yezinxushunxushu, futhi kwezinye izimo bazibuze bona, noma ubuhlobo babo.
Nazi ezinye zezimbangela - ezinye zingahle zivame kakhulu kunezinye, kepha noma kunjalo, uma uthola ukubhuza, imfihlo, noma ukuzijabulisa unecala, noma uhlobo oluthile lokuqinisekiswa kokuthandwa nokwaziswa ngenxa yengxabano yenu, bese wena Mhlawumbe ngizohlobana nesinye salezi zizathu sokuthi kungani ukujabulela ukungqubuzana ebudlelwaneni bakho.
1. Ukungazizwa ngokwanele
Abanye abantu bangaba nomuzwa onamandla wokungalungi ngokwanele ukuthi baye bakha isu lokungazi lokuxosha umuntu. Bazuza lokhu ngokuhlola kwabo ngokuziphatha okuphikisayo, ngokucindezela izinkinobho zabalingani babo, noma ngokucekela phansi isipiliyoni esihle. Futhi ngokwenza njalo, baqinisekisa ukuthi abalungile ngokwanele.
Imvamisa okuvela kokuhlangenwe nakho kobuntwana, amasu anjalo angasizakali angavela kolunye uhlobo lwengxabano yobudlelwano ebangelwa umona, ukugxekwa, noma ukudala izingxabano ngalutho.
2. Abalingani abangahambisani
Vele, ezinye izingxabano zobudlelwano zenzeka ngenxa yokuhlangana nomlingani ongahambelani, futhi oveza okubi kakhulu kithi.
Lezi zinhlobo zobudlelwano zinzima ngoba ngenkathi kungenzeka kube nothando olukhulu phakathi kwala maqembu womabili, awahambisani kakhulu ukwakha impilo ndawonye. Futhi kungangcono ukugwema ukuqhubeka kwezingxabano ebudlelwaneni babo ngokuqhubekela phambili. Isibonelo esiphelele sesisho esithi 'uma uthanda umuntu othile, myeke ahambe'.
3. Intukuthelo engaxazululwa, noma imizwa eyeqile njengokudabuka noma ukwesaba
Imibhangqwana eminingi ebhekana nosizi ingakuthola kunzima ukuhlala isondelene njengoba ifuna ukuxazulula ukudabuka kwayo. Okungabazeki ukuthi kubangela ukungqubuzana kobudlelwano, kanye nebanga phakathi kwabo bobabili abalingani ebudlelwaneni, okuthi kwezinye izimo kube nzima ukubuya kubo. Ezinye izimo zingakhombisa ebudlelwaneni obunesiphepho, lapho intukuthelo ingamandla amakhulu okushayela. Noma ngokungqubuzana okuqhutshwa ibanga, nokuzihlukanisa, okungadalwa ukucindezeleka.
Ukufuna ukuxazulula imizwa eyeqile necindezelwe kuzoxazulula inkinga ngokushesha.
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4. Ukungabi namasu okubhekana nezinkinga
Kwesinye isikhathi, asazi nje ukuthi singaziphatha kanjani ngisho nezimo ezilula kakhulu. Njengokuthi 'kungani akhulume nentombazane engahleliwe esitimeleni?'. Ungabonisana kanjani ukuthi ubani osebenzisana nokuthi imiphi imisebenzi ebudlelwaneni. Ungayiphatha kanjani ingane entsha kanye nezinye izinhlobo ezifanayo zenkinga yobudlelwano.
Imvamisa, inkinga ivela ngoba asifundanga ukusingatha izimo ezinjengalezi ebuntwaneni bethu, futhi amakhono ethu okuqonda, okunengqondo, noma wezemizwa kungenzeka athuthukiswe kulesi simo.
Lokhu kuxazululwa kalula, kepha kuqala ngokwazi ukuthi yini ebanga ukungqubuzana kobudlelwano bakho. Ngemuva kwalokho kudinga umzamo oqondile wokufunda ukusisingatha lesi simo esithile. Futhi-ke, amasayithi afana naleli, ayindlela enhle yokuqala ukufunda nokuthuthukisa amakhono anamandla okubhekana nobudlelwano.
5. Izinkinga zokunamathiselwe
Ukuphazamiseka kokunamathiselwe kuvela ngenxa yokuthi sakhuliswa kanjani lapho siseyinsana.Ukube besinikezwe ipulatifomu evikelekile yokufinyelela nokuhlola umhlaba, futhi zonke izidingo zethu zidingidwe ngokuphelele futhi ngokwemvelo lapho-ke ngeke sibe nalesi sifo. Kulesi simo, isitayela sakho sokunamathiselwe 'sizovikeleka'.
Kepha uma isici esithile sokukhulisa kwakho singakhanjiswanga kahle, ngenxa yezizathu eziningi ezinjengokuthi; amaphutha alula okukhulisa abazali bakho, abanye abantu bafundisa abazali bakho isiyalo ebesingasizi ngalutho, kusukela ekucindezelekeni kwangemva kokubeletha, ikhaya elingazinzile eligcwele izingxabano, futhi-ke, ukunganakwa nokuhlukunyezwa.
Ngokuya ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, ungahle uhlakulele isitayela sokunamathisela okukhathazayo, isitayela esichazayo, noma isitayela esesabekayo.
Imvamisa, isitayela esichazayo nesesabekayo sizonxenxa ukungaziphathi nokuzikhethela ebudlelwaneni. Isitayela esikhathazayo sizovame ukuvela ebudlelwaneni ngomona nangokukhathazeka ngokuthi umuntu uhlobana kanjani nalowo muntu ngesitayela esikhathazayo. Futhi njengoba ungacabanga, lokhu kungaba yimbangela yezingxabano eziningi zobudlelwano. Okungahlanganiswa kalula lapho siheha isitayela sokunamathisela esifanayo noma esiphambene.
Ithuba elihle kakhulu ubudlelwano obungaba nalo kulesi simo, ukuzixazulula ngokwemvelo uma umuntu oyedwa evikelekile kwisitayela sakhe sokunamathiselwa kanye nekhono lokusingatha noma yikuphi ukungqubuzana kobudlelwano okuvela kulesi simo.