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- Ucansi lungaphezu kwesenzo somzimba nje
- Ukusondelana kwangempela akuyona nje imizimba emibili ehlangana ndawonye kwezocansi
- Ubulili buyindlela nje yokusondelana
- Ucansi ngokushesha kakhulu ebudlelwaneni akululungele ubudlelwano
- Ukusondelana kwangempela kungaphezu kocansi
- Injabulo yokuqala izophela ngesikhathi esithile
- Manje uthando luyeka nini?
- Khumbuza izikhathi ezimnandi lapho izinto zimuncu
Sonke silangazelela ukusondelana, futhi ukuthintana ngokomzimba kungavela njengokusondelana, okungenani okwesikhashana. Futhi yize ucansi luchazwa njengesenzo esisondelene; ngaphandle kokusondelana, asikwazi ukuzwa ngokweqiniso konke uNkulunkulu ayehlose ukuba sikuzwe.
Ungaphuthelwa ukusiqonda, sonke senzelwe "i-Quickie" ngezikhathi ezithile. Angithi ibhayibheli lasho encwadini yomShumayeli ukuthi, “To everyinto, ikhona inkathi nesikhathi sayo yonke injongo ngaphansi kwezulu: ”. Ngakho-ke, uma ungenaso isikhathi esiningi, kufanele wenze lokho okufanele ukwenze.
Ucansi lungaphezu kwesenzo somzimba nje
Asifuni ukuthi impilo yethu yezocansi iguquke ibe isenzo somzimba ngaphandle kokusondelana nothando. Akunandaba ukuthi sinocansi olungakanani, uma singakhulisi uthando lweqiniso nokusondelana ngaphambi kocansi, khona-ke ngeke kube khona ngemuva kocansi.
Ukusondelana kwangempela akuyona nje imizimba emibili ehlangana ndawonye kwezocansi
Kwabase-Efesu 5:31 (KJV) Ngalesi sizathu indoda iyoshiya uyise nonina, futhi iyohlangana nomkayo, futhi bobabili bayoba nyamanye.
Ukubili ukuba munye kungaphezu kocansi nje lomzimba. Bangaki abashadikazi abenza ucansi, babelana ngemizimba yabo kepha hhayi izinhliziyo zabo? Kungenzeka ukuthi bashadile, balala ndawonye, baya ocansini, kodwa nokho bazizwe bebodwa.
Kungani?
Ubulili buyindlela nje yokusondelana
Njengoba nje ipayipi lengadi lingewona umthombo wamanzi, kepha liyinkulumo noma imoto yalo kuphela; ngakho-ke ubulili abuyona imbangela yokusondelana, kepha kumane nje kuyindlela yokubukisa.
Uma engekho amanzi echibini, lapho-ke ngeke kube khona amanzi aphuma ngepayipi lensimu.
Ngokunjalo, uma lungekho uthando nokusondelana ezinhliziyweni zethu, lapho-ke ngeke kube khona okuphuma esenzweni senyama socansi.
Imibhangqwana eminingi izozibandakanya ocansini ngaphambi komshado ngoba inomuzwa wokuthi lokho kuyindlela yokubonisa uthando lwayo ngomunye nomunye. Kepha ezimweni eziningi, empeleni abenzanga ubuhlobo obuseduze. Empeleni, iningi lale mibhangqwana ingaqhubeka nokuya ocansini kepha empeleni, ivimbela ukukhula kwayo kubheke ebudlelwaneni obusondelene kakhulu.
Ucansi ngokushesha kakhulu ebudlelwaneni akululungele ubudlelwano
Yize lezi zithandani zingahlala ndawonye zize zishade, ubudlelwano bazo buvele bube bobomzimba, futhi bayeke ukwabelana ngolwazi olujulile. Baba yizithandani noma umshado ohamba ngothando kodwa balahlekelwe yimizwa yothando; ukusondelana.
Empeleni, imibhangqwana engena ngokushesha ebudlelwaneni bezocansi ingathola ubumnandi bocansi, kepha imvamisa ayikaze isondelane ngempela ngoba iyayeka ukwabelana ngolwazi. Ubudlelwano buchazwa yisenzo somzimba socansi.
Ukusondelana kwangempela kungaphezu kocansi
Kuyavunywa, ucansi luyingxenye yesisho esisondelene, kepha akusikho ukusondelana. Ubulili bungaba ukubonakaliswa kothando okusondele kakhulu futhi okuhle, kepha siyazikhohlisa nje lapho senza sengathi ucansi luwubufakazi bothando.
Baningi kakhulu abesilisa abafuna ucansi njengobufakazi bothando; baningi kakhulu abesifazane abanikeze ucansi ngethemba lothando.
Siphila emhlabeni ogcwele abasebenzisi lapho sihlukumezana khona ukuze sinciphise ubuhlungu bokuba wedwa. Futhi ngeshwa abantu abaningi kakhulu bazosebenzisa ucansi njengendlela yokufeza intshisekelo yabo kunokuzwakalisa intshisekelo yabo.
Encwadini yethu “Uthando Lokuqala, Uthando Lweqiniso, Uthando Olukhulu”, sixoxa ngokuthi uthando olwalukade lukhona, alusekho. Ubudlelwano obabuthandana kakhulu futhi obusondelene kakhulu buncishiselwe abantu abenza imikhuba yothando ngokuhamba phambili, noma sekube nokuziphatha okunenzondo nokulimazayo noma okubi kakhulu.
Cishe yonke indawo, lobu budlelwano buqala ngokujwayelekile kokuthokoza kokuqala, ukuthokoza, injabulo, ukujabula, nenjabulo. Bathola umuzwa omnandi ngokwedlulele nangokomzwelo wenjabulo njengoba beya besondelana ngokwengeziwe.
Injabulo yokuqala izophela ngesikhathi esithile
Okubuye kucishe kufane nendawo yonke ebudlelwaneni bethu, ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi leyo mizwa yokuqala yenjabulo, injabulo, injabulo, injabulo, nokujabula akusekho lapho.
Imibhangqwana eminingi inendaba emnandi yokuthi bahlangana kanjani okokuqala futhi bathandana kepha imvamisa abakwazi ukukhomba lapho beqala ukuthandana. Bangakhumbula amaphuzu ahlukahlukene lapho baphoxeka noma balimala khona, kepha umzuzu lapho uthando lwaqala ukufiphala ngokuvamile awutholakali.
Isambulo 2: 4 (KJV) Noma kunjalo nginezinto ngakuwe ngoba ushiye uthando lwakho lokuqala.
Manje uthando luyeka nini?
Cha, asikhulumi ngezocansi; ngoba imibhangqwana eminingi iyaqhubeka nokuya ocansini ngokomzimba yize uthando lwayo seluphelile.
Uthando luyaphela lapho siyeka ukwabelana ngolwazi olusondelene nomunye nomunye, futhi lapho siyeka ukwenza izinto ezisondelene esisebenzisana ngazo.
Isambulo 2: 5 (KJV) Ngakho khumbula lapho uwe khona, uphenduke, wenze imisebenzi yokuqala; uma kungenjalo, ngizakuza kuwe masinyane, ngilususe uthi lwesibani sakho endaweni yalo, uma ungaphenduki.
Lokho uNkulunkulu afuna sikwenze ukukhumbula nokuphenduka. Lapho sicela izithandani ukuthi zisitshele ukuthi zaqala nini ukuhlangana, usuku lwazo lokuqala, ukuthi zaqala nini ukuthandana, nangosuku abashada ngalo — bahlala bemomotheka lapho bekhumbula izinkumbulo ezimnandi zesikhathi esidlule. Noma ngabe imizuzu edlule ngesikhathi sokwelulekwa babephakathi komqala. Omunye wake wathi, “uNkulunkulu usinike inkumbulo ukuze sikwazi ukukhumbula iphunga nobuhle bama roses ngoDisemba.
Khumbuza izikhathi ezimnandi lapho izinto zimuncu
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Manje njengoba sesikhumbule ukuthi izinto zenzeka kanjani, ukuthi kungani siqale ukuhlangana, inhloso namaphupho esijwayele ukuba nawo — manje yisikhathi sokuphenduka. Lokho wukuthi, buyela emuva noma ubuyele emuva ekwenzeni izinto esijwayele ukuzenza ngenkathi sijabule.