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- Ukwelashwa buthule uma kuqhathaniswa nomentshisi wokumemeza
- 1. Qiniseka ukuthi nabo bayazi ngenkinga
- 2. Vuma ingxenye yakho yecala
- 3. Sebenzisa ulimi lwakho bese ulusho
- 4. Qiniseka ukuthi abakuqondi kahle
- 5. Thatha isikhathi esithile
- 6. Cela usizo lochwepheshe
- 7. Thanda izinkinga zakho
- Isoka alihlangabezani nezidingo zakho
“Angikhulumi nawe”
- "Kwenzenjani?"
- / ukuthula /
- “Ngenzeni?”
- / ukuthula /
- “Ungachaza ukuthi yini ekuphathe kabi?”
- / ukuthula /
“Angisakhulumi nawe, uyajeziswa, unecala, ungonile, futhi kubi kakhulu futhi kubuhlungu kimi ukuthi ngikuvalele zonke izindlela zokuxolela!
“Kungani ngisebenza ebudlelwaneni bethu kanti abenzi?
Kungani ngiye phambili bavele bahlale phezu kwemigomo yabo nentukuthelo, bangazinaki izidingo zobudlelwano? ”
Lapho ukufinyelela ngokomzwelo kumlingani wakho kuvaliwe, lapho kungasekho kuwe, lapho bekuziba nje nenkinga uqobo, uzizwa ungenalusizo ngokuphelele, unesizungu, ulahliwe, futhi ulahlwe ngumlingani ongasekeli.
Ungazizwa unganakiwe futhi uthukuthele, futhi uzwe ukungakwazi ukuveza ngqo, umuzwa wokuba yize, nokungahloniphi.
Futhi uma abazali bakho bebejwayele ukunikezana ukuthula ngesikhathi sezingxabano nokuxabana, ukuba nguzakwethu ongasekelani komunye nomunye esikhundleni sokulungisa izinto ebudlelwaneni lapho useyingane, ungadideka, ukhathazeke futhi uze uthuke .
Ukwelashwa buthule uma kuqhathaniswa nomentshisi wokumemeza
Angikhulumi nawe → angikunaki → Awukho nje.
Ngiyamemeza futhi ngiyamemeza → Ngithukuthele → Ngiyakubona futhi ngisabela kuwe → Ukhona.
Lolu hlelo alusho ukuthi kufanele ungene esikhundleni sokuthula ngokukhala okungathi shu futhi ukubheke njengokusebenza ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Kodwa-ke, kusho ukuthi ukungathulisi kuvame ukuba kubi kakhulu kunokuthukuthela, ukumemeza, ukuxabana nokuphikisana.
Inqobo nje uma ushintshanisa imizwa - noma ngabe inhle noma iyimbi - ngandlela thile uhlala uxhumekile nomlingani wakho.
Inqobo nje uma uqhubeka ukhuluma - noma ngabe izingxoxo zakho zigxile ku-I noma zilandela imithetho evela ezincwadini zezengqondo - noma kunjalo, uqhubeka nokuxhumana.
Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuzibandakanya enkingeni. Kepha kuthiwani uma umlingani wakho engeke asebenze ebudlelwaneni bakho? Kuthiwani uma unomlingani ongasekeli- unkosikazi noma indoda enqaba ukuxhumana.
Ngakho-ke, ungabulungisa kanjani ubudlelwano bakho?
Nazi izinyathelo eziyi-7 ongazithatha ukukhuthaza umlingani wakho ongasekeli ukuthi achithe isikhathi namandla abo ebudlelwaneni bakho:
Lapho umyeni enqaba ukuxhumana ngezinkinga
1. Qiniseka ukuthi nabo bayazi ngenkinga
Kungazwakala kungenangqondo kepha umlingani wakho angahle angazi ngenkinga oyibonayo ebudlelwaneni.
Khumbula, ukuthi sonke sihlukile futhi ezinye izinto zingamukeleki kokunye kepha kujwayelekile komunye.
Gcina uhlelo lwabo lwamagugu, ukucabanga, kanye nokubukwa komhlaba engqondweni bese uya esinyathelweni sesi-2.
2. Vuma ingxenye yakho yecala
Kuthatha okubili ukuya ku-tango - nobabili nobhekene nenkinga evelile.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuqala ukuzwakalisa uhlu lwakho lwezikhalazo, vuma necala lakho elikhulu noma elincane lecala futhi.
Yithi kubo: “Ngiyazi ukuthi angiphelele. Ngiyavuma ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi ngiyazicabangela / ngingahloniphi / ngigxile emsebenzini. Ungangitshela ezinye izinto ezikulimazayo? Ungakwazi ukwenza uhlu lwamaphutha ami? ”
Lesi yisinyathelo sokuqala ekusondeleni, ekuqwashiseni, nasekuthembeni ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ngemuva kokuthi uqale ukusebenza ngamaphutha akho futhi umlingani wakho akubona lokho, ungabacela ukuthi bakulungise ukuziphatha futhi bese wethula uhlu lwakho lokukhathazeka.
Buka futhi:
3. Sebenzisa ulimi lwakho bese ulusho
Iningi labantu alikwazi ukubuza futhi likhulume. Bagcwele ukukhohlisa ukuthi umlingani wabo angaqagela imicabango yabo kanye nemood intuitively.
Kodwa-ke, ukudlala umdlalo wokuqagela kuyindlela embi kakhulu yokuxazulula impikiswano noma ukubenzela okuhle. Imvamisa kugcina kwenza umuntu azizwe ukuthi unomlingani ongasekeli.
Akwanele ukwabelana ngenkinga yakho. Kuyadingeka futhi ukusho ukuthi yini ngempela umlingani wakho angakwenza ukukusiza:
UNGENZI: “Ngidabukile” (kukhala)
Ngakho-ke, yini okufanele ngiyenze?
YENZA: “Ngiphatheke kabi. Ungangigona? ”
UNGENZI: "Ubulili bethu buyadina"
YENZA: “Ubulili bethu buyadina kwesinye isikhathi. Ake senze okuthile ukukunonga? Isibonelo, ngibone ... ”
4. Qiniseka ukuthi abakuqondi kahle
Ungalalelwa futhi uzwakale kanjani?
Ungaqiniseka kanjani ukuthi bakuqonda kahle nokuthi bazizwa kanjani ngakho?
Zama le ndlela:
- Khetha isikhathi nendawo efanele ingxoxo yakho. Isimo esikhululekile nomoya omuhle uphelele.
- Babuze ukuthi bakulungele yini ukukhuluma.
- Tshela zonke izinkathazo zakho ngefomethi egxile ku-I: "Ngizizwa ngiphatheke kabi ngoba ... Leso senzo sakho singikhumbuze ... Ngifuna wenze ... Sizongenza ngizizwe ... Ngiyakuthanda"
- Manje babuze ukuthi yini abazwile futhi bayiqonda. Bayeke baphinde bakhulume lokho okushilo. Ungamangala kakhulu ukuthola kulesi sigaba ukuthi umlingani ongasekeli angawatolika ngokuphelele onke amagama akho.
Wena uthi: “Ungachitha isikhathi esengeziwe nami?”
Bezwa ukuthi: “Ngiphatheke kabi futhi ngikusola ngokuchitha isikhathi esiningi emsebenzini”
Kepha awushongo futhi ubungaqondile!
5. Thatha isikhathi esithile
Ngemuva kwengxabano noma ngemuva kokuxoxisana ngenkinga yakho, zinike isikhathi sokwehlisa umoya, uyicabangisise kahle, futhi ungasho into ecasulayo.
Isixazululo sivame ukuvela emcabangweni ongahleliwe.
6. Cela usizo lochwepheshe
Ukuze ubone isimo kusuka kolunye uhlangothi, funda ukuziqonda wena, unake imizwa yomlingani wakho, uthole indlela nezimpande zenkinga.
Funa usizo lochwepheshe ukuze nikwazi ukusebenzela ebudlelwaneni benu ndawonye, noma ngabe nobabili, noma omunye wenu uzizwa enozakwethu ongasekeli.
7. Thanda izinkinga zakho
Ungesabi ukuvuma ukuthi unezinkinga ebudlelwaneni bakho. Akunasizathu sokuzenza sengathi konke kuhamba kahle.
Noma iyiphi inkinga iwuphawu lokuthi izithandani zakho zikhuphukela kwelinye izinga - futhi sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo ukwenza lolu shintsho, sekuyisikhathi sokuphendula umbuzo ophuthumayo bese uphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka.
Ukuba nenkinga akukwenzi ube mubi - kukwenza uguquke njengabashadikazi.
Unkosikazi wenqaba ukusebenza ngomshado
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuthi ungenza kanjani ubudlelwano bakho busebenze futhi ubandakanye nobabili ku-tango:
- Ungagxili esiphethweni. Kungcono ubabuze ngezwi elingathathi hlangothi: “Usho ukuthini ...? Ngabe ufuna ukusho lokho ...? Asixoxeni ... ”
- Ungayikhipheli kumlingani wakho. Akunasidingo sokuwanyathela ngenhlabathi. Ubuhlungu obubangelayo buzoqeda kancane kancane imfudumalo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
- Khuluma. Lapho uphuza itiye, embhedeni, ngenkathi ugeza phansi, ngemuva kocansi. Xoxani ngakho konke okukuphazamisayo.
- Ungagijimeli esiphephelweni sobudlelwano bakho. Hlonipha indawo yakho yangasese futhi unikeze inkululeko kumlingani wakho. Ibhizinisi elihlukile, noma izinto zokuzilibazisa, noma abangane kuyindlela enhle yokugwema ukuxhomekeka okungenampilo.
- Musa ukushaya isicabha ememeza ethi “Ngiyahamba”. Kuzokwenza umphumela othile kumlingani wakho kuphela izikhathi ezimbalwa zokuqala.
Isoka alihlangabezani nezidingo zakho
Ingabe kufanelekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ukusebenzela ubudlelwano?
Yiziphi izimpawu zokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokushiya lapho umlingani wakho engahlangabezani nezidingo zakho?
Kwesinye isikhathi, akukufanele ukusebenza ebudlelwaneni noma ngabe nisathandana.
Uma uqonda ukuthi izivikeli zentuthuko yakho zilandela izinkomba ezihlukile, ungenza isinqumo esivumelekile esijwayelekile uku nikezane ithuba lokujabula, kodwa nabanye abantu nakwezinye izindawo
Kwesinye isikhathi, kungabonakala ukuthi awusenawo amandla okulwela lokhu. Noma ungabe usaba nesifiso sokuba nomlingani ongasekeli. Noma akusekho okumele sikulwele.
Ngabe kulungile uma:
- angakunaki?
- ukukuthethisa noma ukuthuka?
- ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nabobulili obufanayo "abangane nje"?
- angikuzwa futhi angikhulumi nawe?
- ayiphenduli imibuzo yakho?
- banyamalale izinsuku ezimbalwa bese bethi bebematasa nje?
- uthi “Angikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwakho” bese kuthi ngemuva kwesikhashana athi “Angikudingi”?
- uchithe isikhathi, uxoxe, futhi ulale nawe kodwa ungakhulumi ngobudlelwano bakho?
- uphawule ngokubukeka kwakho, imizwa, imizwa, ukuzilibazisa, izinqumo ngendlela ecasulayo?
Esikhundleni sokubuza le mibuzo, phendula omunye. Ingabe kulungile kimi?
Uma kulungile kuwe - landela amathiphu ethu futhi ulwele ubudlelwano bakho. Uma kungakulungele - vele uhambe.