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- Uyacelwa ukuthi ungakuhumushi ngokungafanele ukwazisa ngokukhohlisa
- Ukuntula ukwazisa kuyalimaza ngempela ubuhlobo
- 1. Ngiyakuthanda
- 2. Ngiyakujabulela ukuba nawe
- 3. Imizwa yakho, imizwa, nemibono yakho ibalulekile kimi
- 4. Ubukeka umuhle
- 5. Ngijabule kakhulu ukuthi ngishade nawe
Ungaqhubeka isikhathi esingakanani usebenza emsebenzini ngokuzinikela okungagudluki, ngobuqotho, nangokuzinikela ngaphandle kokwazisa okwanele noma imivuzo efike ngesikhathi?
Ngaphandle kwalezi zinto, iningi labantu lihlushwa ukushiswa amandla, lizizwe lingenantshisekelo, lingenayo intshisekelo futhi kancane kancane noma kancane kancane liqala ukufuna kwenye indawo ukuze ligcwaliseke. Imvamisa abantu abanjalo balahlekelwa ukulinganisela kwempilo yomsebenzi futhi basala befuna usizo lokuthi “ungawusindisa kanjani umshado wakho”.
Njengoba udinga umuzwa wokufeza okuthile kanye nomvuzo wezezimali emsebenzini, ukwazisa nemivuzo kubaluleke kakhulu ukusindisa umshado wakho.
Izinkinga eziningi zikhula ngokungaziswa ebudlelwaneni, njengokuthile, ukukhungatheka, ukuphikisana nentukuthelo. Size siqale ukuzibuza ukuthi ngabe lobu budlelwano buhloselwe ukusebenza noma cha! Akukona ukuthi umshado wakho kufanele uphathwe njengomsebenzi, kepha kuyakhokhela ukubheka ukuthi ezinye zezifundo zokuphatha ozifunda emsebenzini zingasetshenziswa kanjani ukwenza ngcono nokusindisa umshado wakho.
Uyacelwa ukuthi ungakuhumushi ngokungafanele ukwazisa ngokukhohlisa
Amagama anezinyosi adlulisa ubuzenzisi futhi uma ebanjwa umlingani wakho, angalimaza ubudlelwano obuhle. Ochwepheshe be-psychology bagcizelela ekuboniseni ukwazisa ebudlelwaneni, kepha ngokwethembeka okukhulu nangobuqotho.
Yazisa umlingani wakho ngesikhathi nangayo yonke inhliziyo yakho, noma ngabe uthola imisebenzi yabo iyimvunge.
Ukuqonda ukubaluleka kokuthi 'kungani uncoma umlingani wakho' ukusindisa umshado wakho, ake sibheke isimo esilula kakhulu, esingajwayelekile kwabaningi abashadile laphaya.
Oshade naye uhlala ewisa izingane zakho esikoleni, aze agijime imisebenzi yasendlini futhi akwenze ube ikhofi elihle kakhulu emhlabeni lapho ubuyela ekhaya. Oshade naye ubekwenza isikhashana futhi ehamba yedwa ebonga, awuzange uthathe isikhathi sokubona zonke lezi zinto.
Manje ake ucabange ukuthi oshade naye uyeka ukwenza zonke lezi zinto!
Ungadinga-ke ukulala kwakho nsuku zonke bese uphuthumisa izingane zakho esikoleni, uze uzijahe uye emsebenzini, mhlawumbe weqe uhlelo lwakho lwe-TV oluthandayo futhi uphuthelwe injabulo yokunikezwa inkomishi yekhofi eshisayo esanda kwenziwa, lapho ubuyela ekhaya ukhathele!
Ngabe usabona sengathi akubalulekile ukukhombisa ukubonga kumlingani wakho ukusindisa umshado wakho?
Ukuntula ukwazisa kuyalimaza ngempela ubuhlobo
Ukwazisa kuyisihluthulelo, kufanele uzame kanye, ukusindisa umshado wakho futhi ungavumeli ubudlelwano bakho budlule.
Ukwazisa indoda yakho noma oshade naye kungabenza bazizwe kahle ngabo, bathuthukise ukuzihlonipha kwabo futhi ngaleyo ndlela bavuselele noma yibuphi ubudlelwano obumi ndawonye.
Ungathathi ukwazisa njengomsebenzi noma isenzo esingajwayelekile saphezulu.
Ungaqala ngezinto ezilula njengokusho ukuthi, 'Ngiyaluthokozela usizo lwakho nokusekelwa kwakho' noma ngisho upheqa ukuthola 'imiyalezo yokwazisa ngaye' noma ubheke eminye imibono ukukhombisa ukwazisa, uma 'indlela yokubonisa ukwazisa ebudlelwaneni' ikudida noma kukushiya ulungisa!
Futhi, uma ungumuntu ongakholelwa nje ekukhulunyweni ngomlomo kothando nothando, futhi ungafisi ukubheka incwadi yesandla noma uthathe izeluleko ongazicelanga, ungahlala usho okulula 'Ngiyabonga' ngezinto ezincane ezenziwa umlingani wakho.
Qiniseka ukuthi ubheka iso noshade naye ngenkathi uzwakalisa ukubonga kwakho.
Ngakho-ke, uma imibuzo efana nokuthi 'ungakhombisa kanjani ukwazisa esokeni lakho', 'ukuthi ungayibonisa kanjani intombi yakho ukuthi uyayithanda', 'ukuthi ungayibonisa kanjani ukwazisa kumkakho,' ukuthi ungayibonisa kanjani ukwazisa intombi yakho ', beyikukhathaza futhi uma usesho lwakho lwe-Google beluchichima 'ngezindlela zokubonisa ukwazisa kumyeni wakho' noma 'imibono yokubonisa ukwazisa' noma 'ngezindlela zokusindisa umshado wakho', hlola lezi zinto ezinhlanu ezilula ezizokhombisa oshade naye ukuthi uyazazisa.
Awudingi ukusho lezi nsuku zonke kepha ngokuqinisekile, izikhathi ezimbalwa ngenyanga.
1. Ngiyakuthanda
Ukubonakaliswa okulula kothando kuhamba ibanga elide. Iningi labantu, ikakhulukazi labo asebeshade isikhashana, balahlekelwa ubukhazikhazi ababekade benabo. Ukuveza uthando akufanele neze kube yinto eyenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile. Akufanele uthathe umlingani wakho kalula noma ucabange ukuthi ngenxa yokuthi ushadile, awusadingi ukuveza uthando ngamazwi.
2. Ngiyakujabulela ukuba nawe
Uyalukhumbula usuku lwakho lokuqala noma izikhathi ezimbalwa zokuqala ochithe amahora amaningi uxoxa, udla, futhi uzijabulisa?
Khumbula ukuthi kukangaki usho ukuthi ukujabulele ukuba naye? Udinga ukuveza leyo njabulo yokuba ndawonye nje, kungakhathalekile ukuthi nineminyaka emingaki nishadile.
3. Imizwa yakho, imizwa, nemibono yakho ibalulekile kimi
Kwesinye isikhathi kulula ukwenza ukucabanga nje bese uqhubekela phambili ngaphandle kokungena ukuze ubone ukuthi omunye umuntu uzizwa kanjani. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi lapho usemshadweni wesikhathi eside futhi usuwele emikhubeni.
Kodwa-ke, abantu bayashintsha ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi imibono yakho, imibono yakho, nemizwelo yakho ibalulekile koshade naye.
4. Ubukeka umuhle
Abashadile bavame ukuzibona njengoba bebona abalingani babo bebabona.
Ukutshela oshade naye ukuthi babukeka bebahle ngeke nje kukhulise uthando lwakho futhi kujabulise oshade naye, kodwa futhi kuzokwenza nomhlaba omuhle wokuzethemba kwabo.
5. Ngijabule kakhulu ukuthi ngishade nawe
Ukwazisa ubuhlobo obuhle kunenjongo emangalisayo.
Zikhumbuze wena noshade naye ukuthi yize kunezinselele empilweni, ubudlelwano benu bube bobabili izimpilo zenu zanothisa futhi zafeza.