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- Ubudlelwano obunobuthi abuhlali buqala ngaleyo ndlela ngaso sonke isikhathi
- Kusuka kokuhle kuye kobuthi - kwenzeka kanjani lokhu?
- Ubudlelwano obunobuthi: incazelo
- Ungabuguqula ubuhlobo obunobuthi?
- Uma ubudlelwano bakho bunobuthi uzizwa kabi, ngaso sonke isikhathi
- Awuzikhulumi ngoba unomqondo wokuthi 'kusizani?'
- Umlingani wakho akenzi mzamo futhi uhlolwe ebudlelwaneni
Sizwa igama elithi "ushevu" liphonswa cishe kancane kulezi zinsuku. “Ngikhulele emndenini onobuthi”, noma “Isimo emsebenzini sinobuthi nje obucayi”, yizinhlobo zezisho esizisebenzisayo lapho sifuna ukudlulisa umbono wokuthi okuthile akuphilile.
Kepha uma sithi ubudlelwane bunobuthi, sisho ukuthini ngalokho? Ake sibone ukuthi singabhidliza yini okwenza ubudlelwano bube yingozi.
Ubudlelwano obunobuthi abuhlali buqala ngaleyo ndlela ngaso sonke isikhathi
Obunye ubudlelwano ngokusobala bunobuthi kusukela ekuqaleni.
Uwele indoda eshadile. Noma uqaphela khona manjalo ukuthi umlingani wakho unenkinga yokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa. Noma i-narcissist. Lezi zinhlobo zezimo zinobuthi kusuka ekuhambeni, futhi kufanelekile ukuthi uhlole okukuwe okukuheha ezimweni ezinjalo ezingekho empilweni.
Okwamanje, ake sihlole ukuthi ubudlelwano bungasuka kanjani busempilweni futhi bulinganiselwe buye ekubeni obungenampilo futhi obungalinganisanga ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kusuka kokuhle kuye kobuthi - kwenzeka kanjani lokhu?
Ubudlelwano buyakhula, izinto eziphilayo. Njengesitshalo nje. Futhi njengesitshalo, ubuhlobo budinga ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa. Ngazo zombili izinhlangothi.
Kwesinye isikhathi, njengoba ubudlelwane buqhubeka, izinto zihamba kabi ngenxa yezinguquko koyedwa noma kubo bobabili abalingani. Ukuxhumana kunganqamuka, futhi intukuthelo, intukuthelo, umona, nokulimala konke kungahamba kungabonakali, kwakha umuzwa onobuthi ebudlelwaneni.
Uma umbhangqwana ungakhulumi ngezinkinga ezibalulekile, izingqinamba ezithinta isibopho esijoyina laba bantu ababili, ubuthi buyenzeka.
Isibonelo: Uzwa umlingani wakho engakunaki. Ukuthatha kalula, angalokothi athi ngiyabonga ngobuningi bezinto ezinhle omenzela zona nsuku zonke: okusanhlamvu akuthandayo okuthengayo ngesidlo sakhe sasekuseni, ukumlungiselela idina elihle lapho ebuya emsebenzini, eqinisekisa ukuthi amahembe akhe kucoshwe ezitsheni zokuhlanza ezomile.
Akakutshelanga ukuthi ukwazisa kangakanani eminyakeni edlule. Kepha esikhundleni sokuhlala phansi uvule ingxoxo enenhlonipho ngalokhu, uqala ukudlala ngothando nalo mfana omuhle osemsebenzini obeze kuwe ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule.
Uqala ukwamukela izimemo zakhe zekhofi, noma iziphuzo ngemuva komsebenzi. Uyakujabulela ukuzwa ukuncoma kwakhe (okuthile umlingani wakho eyekile ukukwenza, noma kubonakala kanjalo). Uqala ukucasula umlingani wakho wangempela bese uqala ukungenzi mzamo ngaye.
Ubudlelwano buya kancane buqonde ebuthi, lapho uthukuthele isikhathi ngasinye lapho uzungeze umlingani wakho. Uyaqaphela ukuthi ubuye ube nomsindo omfushane nawo wonke umuntu okuzungezile.
Ubudlelwano obunobuthi: incazelo
Uma ubudlelwano bakho buthinta umuzwa wakho wokuzihlonipha, injabulo yakho nendlela ozibheka ngayo nobudlelwano bakho, hhayi nje eyakho eyinhloko, kepha nalabo abanomndeni wakho nabangane bakho, kungahle kube nobuthi.
Ungabuguqula ubuhlobo obunobuthi?
Uma uzizwa unemali eningi oyitshale ebudlelwaneni futhi ufisa ukuzama ukuyilungisa, kufanelekile ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho futhi wabelane ngemicabango yakho ngalesi simo.
Kwesinye isikhathi umoya onobuthi ungasuswa ngeseshini enhle yokwabelana, ngamunye wenu anikeze izwi kulokhu okukuphazamisayo. Kungasiza futhi ukwenza lokhu ngomshado wobungcweti noma ngongoti wezithandani, umuntu onamakhono okukuqondisa kule ngxoxo.
Ingabe lobu budlelwano kufanele bulungiswe?
Lo ngumbuzo wamarandi ayizigidi. Yini engcupheni uma usebudlelwaneni obunobuthi?
Uma ubudlelwano bakho bunobuthi uzizwa kabi, ngaso sonke isikhathi
Hhayi kuphela kumlingani wakho, kepha nasemhlabeni jikelele. Ubudlelwano obungenampilo bubala yonke into empilweni yakho. Ungazizwa ucindezelekile, uvuke ekuseni ungenawo amandla akho avamile namandla.
Ubona eminye imibhangqwana ibambene ngezandla esitolo, noma ngenkathi ihamba emgwaqweni, futhi uyakhunjuzwa ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho aninaso isifiso sokuxhunywa ngaleyo ndlela. Ungalokothi ubukhathalele ubuhlungu obuzwayo lapho ubheka imibhangqwana ingaqabuli emphakathini.
Indlela osebenzisana ngayo nomlingani wakho iqeda ukuzethemba kwakho, injabulo yakho nokuzethemba kwakho. Ukwenza uzizwe sengathi awulutho.
Awuzikhulumi ngoba unomqondo wokuthi 'kusizani?'
Uzwa sengathi izinto azisoze zashintsha. Ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, sikhululekile ukuveza izidingo zethu ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulelwa, ukugconwa noma ukunganakwa.
Eqinisweni, yindlela osebenza ngayo ubudlelwano obunempilo: izingxabano kubhekwana nazo ngaphambi kokuba zibe izingqinamba ezinkulu, futhi kuvuselelwe umuzwa omusha wobudlelwano. Lapho ubudlelwane sebuphenduke ubuthi, awunawo amandla wokuzama nokuxoxa nganoma yikuphi ukungqubuzana.
Uyazi ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ukuthi kungadlulela empini ebabayo, noma kuhlangatshezwane nempendulo "yendlela yami noma umgwaqo omkhulu" evela kumlingani wakho.
Ngakho-ke ugcina konke ngaphakathi futhi kudla inhlala-kahle yakho.
Umlingani wakho akenzi mzamo futhi uhlolwe ebudlelwaneni
Ukuthi nizichaza njengabantu abashadile akusho ukuthi lobu budlelwano.
Uma wenza konke ukuphakamisa okunzima ngaphandle kokuqaphela, lokho kusho ukuthi "kuyingozi." Uma enza utshalomali olungenalutho ekukhuleni kobani njengombhangqwana, lokho nakho kusho ukuthi "kunobuthi." Kungumzwangedwa ukuba wedwa osebenzayo ukugcina ubudlelwane buqhubeka. Cishe yisikhathi sokuhamba.
Usazibuza ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho bunobuthi yini? Thatha lokhu kuhlolwa, bese uthatha isinyathelo.