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- Umelaphi womshado vs. Psychologist
- Kungani kufanele ngicabangele ukwelashwa komshado nokwomndeni?
- Ukuthola umelaphi omuhle womshado nomndeni
- Zingaki izikhathi engingazilindela?
Mhlawumbe wake wezwa ngokwelashwa phambilini, kepha bewazi ukuthi kunezinhlobo noma amagatsha amaningi ahlukene? Ukwelashwa komuntu ngamunye kwaziwa kakhulu, kepha mhlawumbe okungaziwa kakhulu ukwelashwa komshado nokwomndeni.
Ngakho-ke yini ukwelashwa komndeni? Noma kuyini ukwelulekwa ngomshado?
Kalula nje, incazelo yokwelashwa komshado neyomndeni ukuthi uhlobo noma igatsha le-psychotherapy elisebenza nemibhangqwana noma imindeni khuthaza ushintsho oluhle.
Izinhlelo zokwelashwa komshado nezomndeni bezilokhu zikhona isikhathi eside, ngokungahlelekile nangokuhlelekile. E-U.S. Yaqala ngawo-1940. Njengoba ukwelashwa komshado kufakazelwe kuwusizo eminyakeni edlule, sekutholile ukuthandwa.
Ngokwenhlolovo eyenziwe yiPsychology Today, abantu abadala abangaphezu kwamaphesenti angama-27 bafuna usizo kumelaphi othile eminyakeni emibili eyedlule (ingxenye yalokho kungokwelulekwa ngomshado nokwakhiwa kwemindeni).
Kusukela ngeminyaka yama-1970, isibalo sabeluleki bemishado sibe nokwenyuka okuphindwe ka-50, futhi belapha abantu abacishe babe yizigidi ezimbili.
Ingabe ukwelashwa komshado nokulungisa umndeni kukulungele? Nayi eminye imininingwane engasiza.
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Umelaphi womshado vs. Psychologist
Okokuqala, kungasiza ukwazi umehluko nokufana phakathi kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomuntu onelayisense womshado nongumelaphi womndeni.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, ngokwe-American Psychological Association, ngumuntu oye esikoleni waphinde waqinisekiswa ukuthi wenza njengodokotela wengqondo.
Ngokuvamile baneziqu zemasters noma zobudokotela, kanye neminyaka emibili yokuqeqeshwa komtholampilo. Kukhona cishe izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezinamalayisense ezingaba ngu-105 000 ku-Psychologist yase-U.S. Ezisiza abantu ukuthi babhekane nezinkinga ezivela empilweni noma ezinkingeni zempilo yengqondo.
Bangakwazi ukuxilonga futhi banikeze ukwelashwa. Izikhathi zokwelashwa yilapho bekhuluma khona ukuze baqonde izingqinamba bese beza nezixazululo.
Abelaphi bomshado nabomndeni bafana kakhulu nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo. Kodwa-ke, baqeqeshelwe ukuphatha izindaba ngaphakathi komongo womshado nomndeni.
Ngokusho kwe-American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, baneziqu zemasters noma zobudokotela neminyaka emibili noma ngaphezulu yokuhlangenwe nakho komtholampilo ngaphambi kokuqala umsebenzi wabo wobungcweti.
Bangakwazi futhi ukuxilonga futhi baphathe izingqinamba ezingokomzwelo nezinkinga zokuziphatha. Abelaphi bomshado nabomndeni banesithakazelo empilweni yesikhathi eside yombhangqwana nomndeni, kanye nomuntu ngamunye.
Ngakho-ke ngenkathi izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo nabahlengikazi bomshado nabomndeni benamanani afanayo okufunda esikoleni nokuqeqeshwa komtholampilo, abakufundiswayo kuyahlukahluka.
Abelaphi bomshado nabomndeni bakhethekile kakhulu ekusebenzeni nemisebenzi yokwelashwa komndeni ebhekana nezinkinga emshadweni noma emndenini, futhi bayazi kahle ukusebenza ngamandla abantu abaningi abathintekayo odabeni.
Kungani kufanele ngicabangele ukwelashwa komshado nokwomndeni?
Lo ngumbuzo omuhle okufanele uzibuze wona, futhi izinzuzo nobubi bokwelashwa komndeni kuzohluka kumuntu ngamunye.
Uma unenkinga emndenini wakho noma emshadweni ongenakubonakala sengathi uyasebenza, futhi akuhambi ngokwakho, umelaphi womshado nomndeni kungaba ngumbono omuhle.
Izingqinamba ezingaba khona umelaphi womshado nomndeni angasiza ngobubanzi ngokubanzi. Bangasiza ekwelapheni izingqinamba zempilo yengqondo ezinjengokudangala, ukukhathazeka, noma ezinye iziphazamiso ezinomthelela ezindabeni ezikhona emkhayeni noma emshadweni.
Noma kungaba yizinkinga ezingahle zihlobene nezinhlekelele umndeni noma umbhangqwana ozibekezelele, njengokulahlekelwa yingane, noma isehlukaniso.
Ngokwengeziwe, lezi zinhlobo ze abelaphi bangasiza ekwelapheni labo ababekezelele ukuhlukunyezwa, noma bangasiza imibhangqwana enezinkinga ngokusondelana.
Lokhu akukhona nje ukwehla nokwehla nje kwempilo. Lezi yizinkinga ezinkulu ezingathinta impilo yomzwelo isiyonke yomshado noma yomndeni.
Ngenkathi singasebenza okuningi sisodwa ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga, kulungile ukubona ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi ungadinga usizo lwangaphandle.
Okuhle kakhulu ngomelaphi womshado nomndeni ukuthi banolwazi lokusiza imindeni kanye nemibhangqwana eshadile njengakwakho.
Ngokwe-American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, amaphesenti angama-90 amaklayenti abika ukuthuthuka empilweni yabo engokomzwelo ngemuva kokuthola ukwelashwa.
Ukuthola umelaphi omuhle womshado nomndeni
Akubona bonke abelaphi abafanayo — abanye banolwazi oluningi noma oluncane, kanti abanye basebenzisa izindlela ezahlukahlukene ukufeza imiphumela ethile.
Lezo yizinto ezimbili okufanele uzicabangele nakanjani lapho ufuna umelaphi okulungele wena. Kepha nangaphezulu, abantu bayabona ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthola umelaphi eninaye nonke.
Ukwelashwa kuyinto yomuntu siqu, ngakho-ke umelaphi kufanele kube umuntu nonke enizizwa nikhululekile ukukhuluma naye, futhi nomuntu enimethembayo ukuze nizokwazi ukulandela izeluleko zabo.
Okukodwa kwe izindawo ezihamba phambili zokuthola umelaphi omuhle ukudluliselwa. Inkinga yalokho abanye akusho ukuthi basakaza iqiniso lokuthi baya kumelaphi.
Kepha uma wazi noma ngubani oke wabuza, ngobuhlakani ubuze ukuthi ngubani angamncoma. Ungase futhi ukwazi ukufunda izibuyekezo zabelaphi abahlukahlukene online.
Ekugcineni, ungahle udinge ukuya ekwelashweni kuqala ukuze uthole ukuthi imuphi umelaphi okulungele. Ungazizwa kabi uma zingasebenzi, futhi udinga ukuthola omunye umuntu. Akuwona wonke umuntu ozolungela yonke imindeni noma izithandani.
Zingaki izikhathi engingazilindela?
I-Oklahoma Association for Marriage and Family Therapy ithi lolu hlobo lwezokwelapha luhlala isikhathi esifushane.
Imibhangqwana eshadile noma imindeni iza nenkinga ethile abafuna ukuyilungisa, futhi kukhona umgomo wokugcina engqondweni. Ngakho-ke izikhathi ze-9-12 zivame ukuba yisilinganiso.
Kepha eziningi zingathatha izikhathi ezingama-20 noma ezingama-50. Kuya kuphela ngabashadikazi noma umndeni kanye nodaba olusondele.
Ushintsho lunzima futhi lungathatha isikhathi, ikakhulukazi lapho abanye abantu behilelekile. Ngakho-ke ungalindeli ushintsho ngobusuku obubodwa, kodwa futhi wazi ukuthi ukwelashwa akuhlali njalo unomphela. Kukhona lapho uyidinga, noma ngabe yiseshini eyodwa noma izikhathi zokuphila konke.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abelaphi bomshado nabomndeni ngokuvamile basebenzisa uhhafu wesikhathi sabo ukudala umuntu ngamunye ngamunye, nengxenye eyodwa nomndeni noma kuhlanganiswe nowakwakhe.
Kukhombisa ukuthi ukukhuluma eqenjini kuyasiza, kepha kanjalo ukungena wedwa. Uma uhamba ngalo mzila, ngokuvamile, kungahle kube nezikhathi eziningi ezithintekayo.
Ukwelashwa komshado nokwomndeni kuyindlela yokuthi imindeni noma imibhangqwana ikhulume nodokotela oqeqeshwe ngokukhethekile ngezinkinga ezikhona empilweni yabo.
Eminyakeni edlule, eziningi izinzuzo zokwelulekwa ngomshado kufakazelwe; ikhule ngokuthandwa. Ingabe kulungile kuwe? Uma ubulokhu ucabanga ngakho, kungani ungazami?