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- Imiphumela yesikhathi eside nesikhathi esifushane yokuhlukunyezwa obuseduze
- Yini ongayenza ukuqonda nokulwa nemiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa?
Kwesinye isikhathi ukuqonda into eyinkimbinkimbi njengokuhlukumeza kunzima. Izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zivame ukuvela ebudlelwaneni bungekho ukuxhumana kwangempela nokuziphatha okuhlukumezayo, futhi izikhathi eziningi ukuhlukunyezwa kufihlwe kakhulu, kunzima ukukukhomba nokwelapha. Incazelo elula kunazo zonke, ukuhlukumeza ukuphathwa ngonya nangodlame komunye umuntu.
Ngenkathi incazelo ibonakala icace kahle, leli gama lingabhekisa enanini elikhulu lokuziphatha nezenzo, eziningi zazo ezikhona ngasikhathi sinye ebudlelwaneni obuningi.
Isici esisodwa, noma kunjalo, sihlala sinjalo: inhloso yesenzo ukulimaza omunye umuntu.
Yini le ngozi engaba khona ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, umthelela uvame ukuba bucayi futhi uthinte ikhono lokusebenza kwesisulu elijwayelekile.
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, ngokwengqondo, ngamazwi nangemizimba ngamaqembu aphambili lapho ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo kuhlukaniswa khona. Incazelo eyisisekelo noma izinto ezifanelekayo zingahluka ngokuya ngompetha oqedele ukuhlolwa. Lokhu kungenxa yengxenye ngoba izici zohlobo ngalunye zivame ukufana noma zidlulele kwezinye izigaba.
Isibonelo, umuntu ohlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokocansi kumlingani wakhe noma umlingani naye kungenzeka ukuthi uhlangabezana nokuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi. Ezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza zibandakanya ukunganakwa nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi; ngakunye kwalokhu kuvame ukubhekwa njengohlobo oluthile lwe- ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba ngokususelwa ekufaneni abelana ngakho nesigaba esibanzi.
Imiphumela yesikhathi eside nesikhathi esifushane yokuhlukunyezwa obuseduze
Ulwazi lobuchwepheshe nolomuntu siqu lokuhlukumeza akumele luphele ngezimpawu zokuxwayisa namafulegi abomvu. Ukwazi imiphumela yesikhashana neyesikhathi eside yokuhlukunyezwa kubalulekile ekuqondeni indlela efanele yokusondela ekwelashweni.
Ukulimala ngokomzimba njengokulimala, ukusikeka, ukusikeka, amathambo aphukile, kanye nokuqubuka eminye yemiphumela yokukhubazeka kwesikhashana. Eminye imiphumela ifaka noma yini ethikameza amandla omuntu okusebenza ngokujwayelekile (ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo), ukuntuleka kokuqina noma amandla okubuyela emuva ngemuva kokuhlukumezeka, ukuhoxa kulabo ababazungezile, kanye nokwanda ukumelana nokwelashwa okusemthethweni.
Le miphumela kwesinye isikhathi ingaba yesikhashana futhi ixazululwe ngokushesha, kepha kwesinye isikhathi lokhu kuba yisikhathi eside ngokwengeziwe kuthinta lowo muntu ngokungaguquguquki. Ingozi yale miphumela iphakeme kakhulu lapho umuntu ehlangabezana nokuhlukunyezwa kaningi nokuphindaphindiwe.
Imiphumela enomthelela esikhathini eside ngakunye imvamisa ifana ngesici kepha iba namandla kakhulu ezingeni labo lomthelela. Ukuhlukumezeka okuvame ukuvela ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo kungaholela emiphumeleni eminingi yesikhathi eside njengokuhluleka ukwethemba abanye, ukukhathazeka ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, ushintsho olukhulu ekudleni noma emikhubeni yokulala, kanye nokuntuleka kwezindlela zokuxhumana ezinempilo.
Imvamisa, ikhono lomuntu lokusungula nokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo lincipha kakhulu. Eminye imiphumela yesikhathi eside ingabandakanya ukuhlaselwa ukukhathazeka, imizwa yokulahlwa, intukuthelo, ukuzwela ukwenqatshwa, impilo enciphile (ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba), ukungakwazi ukusebenza noma ukusebenza, ubudlelwano obubi nezingane noma abanye abantu obathandayo, kanye nengozi eyengeziwe yokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa .
Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa ayigcini kulowo ohlukunyezwayo wokuqala.
Uma izingane zibandakanyeka, nazo zingathinteka kanzima, noma ngabe bezingebona abathola ngqo udlame.
Izingane ezivezwe ekuhlukunyezweni komzali kungenzeka ukuthi:
- Sebenzisa udlame esikoleni noma emphakathini njengendlela yokusabela ezinsongweni ozibonayo
- Zama ukuzibulala
- Sebenzisa izidakamizwa noma utshwala
- Yenza ubugebengu
- Sebenzisa udlame njengendlela yokubhekana nokuzethemba okuphansi, futhi
- Yiba ngumhlukumezi ebudlelwaneni babo.
Yini ongayenza ukuqonda nokulwa nemiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa?
Lapho wena noma umuntu omthandayo ehlangabezana nokuziphatha okuhlukumezayo, kaningi kunzima ukukhumbula ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi usizo olunengqondo kakhulu luvela kulowo ozimisele ukulalela ngaphandle kokwahlulela; nguyena osekela ngaphandle kokuchema noma ngombono. Uma umuntu omthandayo eke wahlukunyezwa, linda ukuthi akulungele ukukhuluma ngakho. Lapho bekwenza, kholwa abakushoyo.
Qinisekisa ukuphinda ubumfihlo - kulula ukuthola ukwethenjwa futhi kulula ukukulahla uma wabelana ngalokho othile okutshele kona ngokuzethemba. Qiniseka ukuthi uyaqonda futhi uyavuma ukuthi iziphi izinsiza ezingatholakala edolobheni lakho; lungela lapho othile eza kuwe ezokusiza! Khumbula, noma kunjalo, ukuthi kufanele njalo wethule izinketho futhi ungathatheli umuntu isinqumo.
Ungagxeki, ungahluleli, noma usole isisulu ngoba lezi zingabonakala zinolaka futhi zivame ukubekwa endaweni engeyiyo. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, noma kunjalo, njengombukeli kubalulekile ukuthi ungesabi ukuzibandakanya. Ngaphandle kokubeka ukuphepha kwakho engcupheni, sebenzisa noma yiziphi izinsiza onazo ukuze unikeze usizo kulowo ohlukunyezwayo.