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- Lo mbhangqwana usebenza ngokweqile
- Isikhathi esisodwa-esisodwa siyathinteka
- Ukusondelana nokwethembana kuyancipha
Ngokubona kwami, ingcebo yezinto ezibonakalayo, ingcebo, nokuhaha kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo akumele kube yinto oyithandayo. Kodwa-ke, ngemali enkulu kuza umthwalo omkhulu. Uma uke waba sebudlelwaneni obukhulu uyazi ukuthi kunemiphumela yezinqumo ezingahlakaniphile ezithinta bobabili abantu abathintekayo, ikakhulukazi uma lo mbhangqwana ushadile. Ngokungazelelwe, ukusetshenziswa kabi komuntu oyedwa kuthinta omunye futhi ukuzinza kuba yinto yesikhathi esidlule.
Imali ingesinye sezizathu eziphezulu zokuthi kungani abantu behlukanisa. Ukwedlula ukuhaha, umona, nokunye okunjalo kubalulekile, kepha lapho ukungaziphathi kahle komunye umuntu kulimaza omunye noma umndeni wabo, akunzima ukubona ukuthi kungani lokho kuba yinkinga epharadesi. Akungabazeki ukuthi imikhuba yokusebenzisa imali ngokungenangqondo, isikweletu nokungazinzi kwezezimali kungaphazamisa ukwethembana nenduduzo ebudlelwaneni.
Ngifuna ukuhlola inani elikhokhwayo elitholwa yisikweletu ebudlelwaneni obuningi nokuthi nginqanda kanjani ukungezwani okungadingekile ngenxa yamakhono angaqondakali okuphatha imali. Mhlawumbe, ngokuzilungiselela kusengaphambili, singavimbela izinxushunxushu ekuhlaseleni lokho esinakho nabantu esibathanda kakhulu.
Lo mbhangqwana usebenza ngokweqile
Nginomngani onomndeni onezikweletu ezinkulu. Usebenza aze afike emathanjeni nsuku zonke ngenxa yezinqumo zokuchitha imali ngobuwula azenza yena nomkakhe futhi akasitholi isikhathi sokulala. Usebenza usuku lonke, afike ekhaya, bese eyolala ngoba akakwazi ukukhokhela.
Vele, lokhu akuphilile. Ungivumile ukuthi uphuthelwe yingxenye ebalulekile yezimpilo zezingane zakhe ngoba bekufanele asebenze kakhulu. Isimo esibucayi kakhulu somndeni wakhe besilusizi ngenxa yemikhuba yokusebenzisa imali ngobuwula eyenziwe ngumkakhe naye, kanti inzalo ehlanganayo ezikweletini zabo yenze izinto zaba zimbi kakhulu.
Isikweletu senza ukuthi imibhangqwana isebenze ngokweqile. Lapho uhlala imali yokukhokha ukuze ukhokhe, kungabonakala sengathi ayikho enye indlela. Uma ngabe nguwe lo, ngincoma ukuyeka izindleko ezincane bese ngikubeka esikweletini sakho. Esikhundleni sobusuku obumnandi obufana nobusuku, oshade naye futhi kufanele nithathe uhambo oluya pikinikini. Ungahle ukwazi ukunciphisa ezinye zezindleko zakho zokuphila. Ngiyazi abantu abaningi, nami uqobo, abakhononda ngemali kodwa abangacabangi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi bakhokha kakhulu imali yerenti. Uma ungenayo indlu, cabanga ukuthola indawo engakwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho ngenkathi ikuvumela ukuthi unciphise ukucindezeleka kwezezimali. Yiba nobuciko bendlela ongonga ngayo imali, futhi mhlawumbe ngokuzayo ngeke kube yisithiyo esikhulu kuwe.
Isikhathi esisodwa-esisodwa siyathinteka
Ngishilo ukuthi umngani wami uhambe isikhathi eside engawuboni umndeni wakhe ngenxa yesikweletu abebenaso kwazise ubesebenza kanzima ukuze angahlali. Futhi nezingane ezimbalwa kwakunzima ukuthi unkosikazi wakhe asebenze isikhathi esanele ukusiza ngezimali.
Mangikucacise, angisho ukuthi ukusebenza ngokweqile noma ukukweleta kuzodala isehlukaniso. Kodwa imibhangqwana idinga isikhathi sayo sodwa. Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba kubalulekile ekugcineni ukuxhumana okunempilo.
Ngisho nasempilweni yami uqobo, ngibuke ukungabi nesikhathi sodwa kuthinta ubudlelwano bamalungu omndeni asondele. Lapho ningachithi isikhathi ndawonye, niyakhohlwa ukuthi nizokuxhumana kanjani. Amalungu athile omndeni wami awaphikisi noma axoxe kahle ngezinkinga nabalingani babo futhi ngikholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi ukusebenza kwabo ngokweqile kuvimbele inqubekelaphambili ukuthi yenziwe.
Uma uzithola ungenaso isikhathi sokuchitha nomuntu oshade naye, noma ukhathele kakhulu ukuxoxa ngezingxabano phakathi kwakho, leyo yinto ofuna ukuyishintsha futhi uyithole ngokushesha. Ngiyazi ukuthi akulula kangako, kepha ukuhlala ubusuku obuthile ngesonto elilodwa (nobabili nilahla amashejuli enu) kungaba umehluko phakathi komshado osondelene nalowo odabukisayo.
Ukusondelana nokwethembana kuyancipha
Ukwethembana yilokho bonke ubuhlobo obuhle obusekelwe kubo. Imikhuba emibi yokusebenzisa kabi imbandakanya abalingani abangacabangi. Lokho nje kukodwa kungaphula ukwethenjwa, kepha futhi kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi ukusebenzisa kabi imali kubambiswano kuvame ukufaka ukungathembeki.Awukho umbuzo okufanele ubuzwe: ukungabi nokuhlakanipha ngemali yakho kungalimaza ukwethenjwa kwakho noshade naye, futhi kuvame ukwenzeka.
Muva nje intombi yami ingitshele ukuthi izwa ukuthi angiyibheki kangako nokuthi sengibe yisicefe ekwenzeni lokho. Akalungile - ngisebenzisa isikhathi sami esiningi ngobugovu futhi nginomkhuba wokuba matasa futhi isikhathi sethu ndawonye siba yinto ejwayelekile futhi ejwayelekile. Cabanga nje ukuthi bekungaba kubi kanjani lokho ukube besishadile futhi sabelana ngomthwalo wethu wezezimali. Ukuzizwa sengathi othile akakucabangi kakhulu futhi kukubeka engcupheni yokulahlekelwa ukuzinza kwakho? Kanye nokukhawulela inkululeko yakho nobumnandi bakho? Lokho akusilo uhlobo lobudlelwano obakhelwe ekwethembaneni - lobo budlelwano lapho ukwethenjwa kwephulwa khona.
Ngikuthola kudingekile ukuthi ngihlale ngisebenza ukwethembeka nokusebenza obala ebudlelwaneni ukuze konke ukwethemba kuhlale kunganyakazi. Ngomlingani wakho, senivele nibophezele impilo yenu yonke ndawonye. Kepha uma ungathembeki noma ungabacabangeli ngemali yakho nabo, lokho kungathembeki kunemiphumela engokoqobo oyithola ngokushesha.
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URobert Lanterman
URobert Lanterman ungumbhali ovela eBoise, ID. Uvezwe kumawebhusayithi ahlukene angaphezu kwama-50 mayelana nebhizinisi, umculo, nezinye izihloko eziningi ezahlukahlukene. Ungamthinta ku-Twitter!.