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- 1. Yazisa imizwa yakho
- 2. Prakthiza ukuxhumana okuvulekile
- 3. Vuma izidingo zakho
- 4. Funda ukuxolisa
- 5. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo
- 6. Yiba nozwela kumlingani wakho
- 7. Zijwayeze ukuthethelela
- 8. Phatha okulindele
- 9. Beka umshado wakho kuqala
Ukuthukuthela kungumzwelo onamandla okuthi, uma uyekwa ungalawulwa, ungabhubhisa umshado wakho. Ukusuka ekuzweleni ngathi unakekela izingane ngaso sonke isikhathi ngenkathi umlingani wakho ephuma, ukufuthelana ngaleso sikhathi bavumela umama wabo athathe i-Thanksgiving, izinhlungu zingasheshe zakhe futhi zibe ngamafu amnyama aqeda okuhle emshadweni wakho.
Intukuthelo ingafiphaza ukwahlulela kwakho futhi ikushiye ungazizwa lutho kepha ubutha kumlingani wakho kuze kuthi, ngolunye usuku, kudle konke okuhle nomshado wakho usematheni. Umcabango omuhle owesabekayo, ha? Ngokujabulisayo, akudingeki ulinde intukuthelo ukuze isebenze ububi bayo emshadweni wakho. Landela lezi zeluleko eziyi-9 eziphezulu ukunqanda intukuthelo ekuqedeni umshado wakho.
1. Yazisa imizwa yakho
Intukuthelo ithola amandla amakhulu lapho imizwa ishiywa ukuba ikhule. Imishado ebonakala imnandi ingabhidlika ngenxa yeminyaka yokulimala nokuthukuthela.
Intukuthelo ekhanda icishiwe ngokudlula ngokwazisa imizwa yakho lapho ivela. Melana nesilingo sokugwinya imizwa enzima futhi unethemba lokuthi izophela - ngeke, futhi umshado wakho ungaba nenkinga ngenxa yalokho.
Vuma futhi ubhekane nemizwa yakho njengoba kwenzeka ukuze ukwazi ukuya phambili.
2. Prakthiza ukuxhumana okuvulekile
Intukuthelo engaka ivela ezintweni ezingashiwongo. Kulula ukungena kumkhuba wokucabanga ukuthi umlingani wakho kufanele "azi nje" uma ungajabule, kepha abayona imilingo.
Esikhundleni sokuvumela izinto zibile, hlala phansi ube nembumbulu, inkulumo enenhlonipho nomlingani wakho nganoma yini esemqondweni wakho. Zama ukungasoli noma uthukuthele - vele usho imizwa yakho ngomoya ophansi bese ubuza ukuthi ningakwazi yini ukubambisana ngezinto.
3. Vuma izidingo zakho
Izidingo ezingagcwaliswanga zingaba umthombo wentukuthelo embi emshadweni. Uma ungakaze uzinikeze isikhathi ngenkathi umlingani wakho ezihlalela nabangane babo, noma ugcina usenza konke ukuhlanza, kungekudala uzizwe ucasukile futhi ubeke phezu kwakho.
Isikhathi sokuvuma izidingo zakho, bese ukhuluma nomlingani wakho ngazo. Babuze ukuthi ungakwazi yini ukuxoxisana ngokushintshana noma ukwabelana ngemisebenzi ukuze ngamunye abe nesikhathi asidingayo sokuvuselela. Batshele izindawo lapho udinga khona usizo nokusekelwa. Azikwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho uma ungazitsheli ukuthi ziyini.
4. Funda ukuxolisa
Wonke umuntu wenza amaphutha okwahlulela kwesinye isikhathi. Kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo bobabili abalingani bazokwenza amaphutha noma babe nosuku olubi. Kuzwakala kungaphikisani, kepha ukufunda ukuxolisa lapho wenze iphutha kuzoyeka ukucasuka.
Esikhundleni sokubambelela ekulweni noma ukufuthelana ukuthi ngubani obeqinisile, funda ukuvuma lapho wenza iphutha noma ukhwela kumlingani wakho. Ukuthi uxolo kuzosula umoya, kubonise ukuthi uyabahlonipha, futhi kuzosiza ukukhipha intukuthelo emnyango.
5. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo
Akekho ofuna ukuzizwa enephutha ngezinto ezingahambi kahle, kodwa kumane nje kuyiqiniso lokuphila ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi sinephutha.
Lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele uzishaye wena phezu kwayo - wonke umuntu uyawenza amaphutha. Kepha ukwamukela iqhaza lakho ezimweni ezinzima kuzosusa ukucasuka futhi kukukhombise lapho ungazenza khona izinguquko zekusasa elinempilo.
6. Yiba nozwela kumlingani wakho
Kulula kakhulu ukubanjwa ulaka nomlingani wakho, noma wenze ukucabanga ngezinhloso zabo.
Zama ukukhumbula ukuthi abasona isitha sakho, noma kunjalo, bangabalingani bakho beqembu. Uzwela nokuqonda kungasiza kakhulu ekuqedeni ukuthukuthela. Zinike isikhathi sokulalela futhi uqonde, bese uqinisekisa imizwa yabo ngokubazisa ukuthi “sawubona, ngiyakuzwa.”
7. Zijwayeze ukuthethelela
Kunokungaqondakali okuvamile kokuthi ukuthethelela kusho ukuvumela ukuziphatha okubi, noma ukuzenza ulunge ngezinto ezilimazayo. Noma kunjalo, lokho akulona iqiniso impela. Ungavuma ukuthi isimo besibuhlungu, ngenkathi usaxolela.
Khuthaza ukuthethelelwa ngokukhumbula ukuthi umlingani wakho ungumuntu kuphela, futhi bavunyelwe ukwenza amaphutha kwesinye isikhathi. Akusho ukuthi abakuthandi noma abayena umuntu olungile. Ungavumeli amaphutha esikhathi esidlule abe intukuthelo yesikhathi esizayo.
8. Phatha okulindele
Ukulindela kungazala intukuthelo ngokushesha. Uma ulindele ukuthi umlingani wakho uzohlala azi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, njalo akhiphe udoti, noma ahlale ethola imali ethile, kulula ukuthukuthela lapho izinto zingahambi ngaleyo ndlela.
Linganisela kulokho okulindele. Lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele ube nethemba; vele wamukele ukuthi nobabili ningabantu futhi izinto ngeke zihlale zihamba ngokohlelo. Beka phambili ukuzwelana, uthando nokukhulumisana okuvulelekile ngokuthi umlingani wakho ahlangabezane nezilindelo zakho.
9. Beka umshado wakho kuqala
Izinselele zokuphila okumatasa kungekudala zingathatha umonakalo emshadweni wakho. Phakathi kwezingane, imisebenzi, abasekhweni nokuzibandakanya kwezenhlalo, umshado wakho ungashesha ukuhlala esihlalweni esingemuva.
Ukubeka umshado wakho kuqala kwenza kube lula kakhulu ukuxhumana ngokukhululeka nomlingani wakho futhi kuqinisekiswe ukuthi zombili izidingo zakho ziyahlangatshezwa. Bekani isikhathi esiningi sobabili ukuze nikwazi ukubopha, nixoxe futhi nakhe ubudlelwano obuhle.
Intukuthelo ingumbulali womshado ofihliwe ozodala umonakalo uma uyekwa ungalawulwa. Landela lezi zinyathelo ezilula ukunqanda intukuthelo ekubambeni futhi ugcine umshado wakho uqinile.