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- 1. Vuma ukuthi ubudlelwano abusebenzi nje ngoba niyathandana
- 2. Nsuku zonke, zama ukuba sengozini, ube mnene futhi ube nomusa
- 3. Khombisanani ngokusobala ukuthi nifuna uthando ngokuzama ukufinyelela obala
- 4. Qinisanani
- 5. Finyelela ngezikhathi zokukhathazeka noma zokukhathazeka
- 6. Ziqaphele
- 7. Kwenze umkhuba ebudlelwaneni bakho ukubheka ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nisebenzisana kanjani
- 8. Vumani zonke izinto enizithandayo futhi enizithandayo ngomunye nomunye
- 9. Nciphisa izingxabano
Kungenzeka ukuthi siqhekeze ikhodi yothando, noma okungenani iningi lethu kungenzeka ukuthi liyenzile, kepha uthando luyingxenye yobudlelwano futhi ulwazi lothando lungadlula ngokushesha.
Ukugcina uthando futhi sibuzwe bonke ubuso balo, sidinga ukuthola ifomula yokwakha ubudlelwano obuhle kunabo bonke. Ngale ndlela singagcina uthando lusehlangothini lwethu isikhathi eside kakhulu.
Nawa amathiphu ayi-9 wokukusiza wakhe ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu!
1. Vuma ukuthi ubudlelwano abusebenzi nje ngoba niyathandana
Kwesinye isikhathi, singacabanga ngokukhohlisa ukuthi ngoba sithanda futhi sizinikele komunye nomunye, yilokho kuphela okudingayo ukwakha ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu. Kepha yize lezo zimfanelo zibaluleke kakhulu, akuyona imfihlo yokuthola ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu.
Usengathandana futhi uhlale uzibophezele kepha ungazinaki izindaba zakho, noma ubuthathe kalula ubuhlobo bakho. Nisengathandana futhi nizinikele komunye nomunye kepha ningathathi isikhathi sekhwalithi nodwa, noma nikhumbule ukugcina ukusondelana. Nisengathandana futhi nihlukane!
Ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu obungeke benzeke kuphela lapho bobabili abalingani bezinikele ngokuphelele ekubonaneni, kanye nakubudlelwano babo kuzo zonke izici zokuphila.
Uthando aluyona into yomlingo eza futhi idlule ngaphandle kolawulo lwakho, ungafunda kalula ukuthanda nokuhlangana nothile. Okusho ukuthi ungakhetha futhi ukuthandana nothile.
Akunasizathu sangempela sokuvumela uthando ukuba lome ebudlelwaneni, udinga nje ukuqiniseka ukuthi uhlala uzibophezela ekusebenzeni ebudlelwaneni bakho. Yileyo ndlela ongabakha ngayo ubuhlobo obuhle kunabo bonke.
2. Nsuku zonke, zama ukuba sengozini, ube mnene futhi ube nomusa
Kulungile ukwehlisa ukuzivikela kwakho ekhaya, futhi ebuhlotsheni bakho, yindlela ozoxhuma ngayo futhi wakhe ukuthembana, kepha kwesinye isikhathi impilo yansuku zonke ithatha izintambo futhi ibangele ukuthi sibeke phambili ukuze sikwazi ukuzulazula emhlabeni.
Ukwenza umzamo wokwehlisa leyo front oyifaka nsuku zonke phambi komlingani wakho ukuze ukwazi ukukhombisa ubumnene, futhi umusa kumlingani wakho kuyindlela yomlilo eqinisekile yokwakha ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu.
3. Khombisanani ngokusobala ukuthi nifuna uthando ngokuzama ukufinyelela obala
Lokhu kufanele kube omunye umkhuba wansuku zonke; ukucela uthando kumlingani wakho noma ukunakwa akuyona nje indlela yokusebenzisa ukuzikhulumela kwakho kepha futhi nokwazisa umlingani wakho, ukuthi ubadinga kangakanani. Futhi kugcina ukusondelana kuphila.
Le yimiklomelo emikhulu kangaka ngesenzo esisodwa sansuku zonke awucabangi? Kungakho leli qhinga likwenza kube kuhlu lwethu lwemibono emikhulu ukudala ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu!
4. Qinisanani
Kwesinye isikhathi kulula ukulahla okuthile okubalulekile kumlingani wakho ngoba akubalulekile kuwe. Mhlawumbe umlingani wakho unokusabela okungokomzwelo kokuthile okungabonakala kungadingekile kuwe, kepha kuyiqiniso impela kumlingani wakho.
Mhlawumbe wena noma umlingani wakho udinga isikhathi esincane uwedwa kaninginingi kepha awuhlobani.
Ukuzama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani umlingani wakho angahle adinge izinto ongazihlobanisi nazo bese uzihlonipha (futhi okuphambene nalokho) kungagwema izimpikiswano eziningi futhi kunikele ebudlelwaneni obuhle kakhulu.
5. Finyelela ngezikhathi zokukhathazeka noma zokukhathazeka
Ngokuzayo lapho uzizwa ungaqinisekile, ukhathazekile noma ukhathazekile, zama ukumane usho lokhu kumlingani wakho bese ubamba isandla, noma uqaphele izimpawu zabo ezingokomzwelo futhi ufinyelela isandla sabo.
Lokhu kuzothuthukisa impendulo ezokwesekana phakathi kwenu njengabantu abashadile, okuzonisiza ukuthi nizizwe niphethwe imizwa futhi isenzo sokubamba isandla saziwa nangokuthi ukwehlisa umoya.
6. Ziqaphele
Kwesinye isikhathi kungaba nzima ukuvuleka, esikhundleni salokho, iningi labantu lingakhetha ukuzivikela, ukugxeka, ukuziqhenya, ukude noma ukuvala.
Yilezi zikhathi ezingadala izinkinga ebudlelwaneni futhi ezingadala ibanga.
Uma nobabili nizinikela ekuzihloleni nisebenzisane ngokuthi kungani ungazizwa ngaleyo ndlela nomlingani wakho - ukuze nikwazi ukushintsha izenzo zenu zibe yimpendulo evulekile, ubudlelwano benu buzokhuphuka buye ebuhlotsheni obuhle kunabo bonke.
7. Kwenze umkhuba ebudlelwaneni bakho ukubheka ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nisebenzisana kanjani
Ukukhuluma ngokuthi isonto lakho lihambe kanjani masonto onke ukuze ubuyekeze futhi uchiyekele izindlela zokuziphatha, futhi wenze iphethini futhi wazi izikhathi ezimnandi, kuzogcina ubudlelwane bakho busephuzwini!
Izihloko eningaxoxa ngazo yilezi;
Lapho uzizwa sengathi ufinyelela kumlingani wakho kodwa ungazizwa sengathi balalele. Uphendule kanjani lapho umlingani wakho ecindezelekile. Yini enanihleka ndawonye. Noma ngabe yini obekufanele yenzeke ukwenza ubudlelwane bakho busabise kuleli sonto?
Qiniseka ukuthi uhlela kahle imibuzo ukuze ivumelane nobudlelwano bakho kepha ungazivikeli izihloko ezidingekayo ekwakheni ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu.
8. Vumani zonke izinto enizithandayo futhi enizithandayo ngomunye nomunye
Bungaza ukunqoba okuncane ebudlelwaneni bakho, kuzonenza nobabili nizizwe nithandwa futhi naziswa.
Vuma lokho umlingani wakho akwenzile ukuze uzizwe uthandwa, ujabulile, ujabule, futhi usekelwa futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uyabatshela, okungenani kanye ngeviki ukuze bezwe bethokoziswa futhi baqhubeke nakho.
9. Nciphisa izingxabano
Ngaphansi kwengxabano ngokuvamile kuyisicelo esivela kumlingani wakho sokuxhuma ngokwengeziwe kwemizwa nokuxhaswa okwengeziwe. Kepha lapho izinto zivutha, kunzima ukukubona lokhu, ikakhulukazi lapho sizizwa sivikela.
Uma ungaqapheli ukuthi imaphi amagama owasebenzisayo noma ukuthi ukhuluma kanjani nomlingani wakho ngalezi zikhathi kungaba umehluko phakathi kobudlelwano obunamadwala nobudlelwano obedlula bonke.
Zama ukubheka isimo kube sengathi ubungaphandle ubheke ngaphakathi bese uzibuze ukuthi iyini impande yenkinga lapha nokuthi ingaxazululwa kanjani. Ngemuva kwalokho vuma inkinga bese usebenza kulokho, yenza isivumelwano sokuthi nobabili nizokwenza lokhu, futhi konke kuzoba mnandi!.