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- 1. Yiba nenhloso yokuxhumana
- 2. Lalela kabili uma ukhuluma
- 3. Nqamula imizwa yakho ngokuthinta ngokomzimba
- 4. Prakthiza ukuthethelela ngokweqiniso
Isikhathi se-honeymoon sesiphelile ngokusemthethweni. Nina nobabili nithe anisoze nayiyeka inhlansi iphele, kepha nakhu nigxile 'kubazalwane Abalungile ...
“Uzama kanzima ukungakhombisi,
Kodwa baby ... baby, ngiyazi,
Ulahlekile, lowo muzwa we-lovin,
Ngubani, lowo muzwa we-lovin,
Ulahlekelwe yilowo muzwa we-lovin,
Manje asisekho, asisekho, asisekho ... ”
Lowo muzwa ka-lovin awudingi ukulahleka. Uma u unayo ilahlekile, ingatholakala nakanjani.
Zama lezi zeluleko ezi-4 zokubuyisa ezothando, amandla, nezinhlansi emshadweni wakho
1. Yiba nenhloso yokuxhumana
Imibhangqwana eminingi ilinda isikhathi esifanele ukuthi ixoxe futhi ixhumane nabalingani bayo. Esikhundleni sokulinda umzuzwana ushaye, zenzele umzuzu ngokwakho! Qala kancane bese ukhipha imizuzu eyi-10 ngosuku isonto noma amabili ukulahla konke bese uxoxa. Gcina ingxoxo ilula, awudingi ukumba imizwa ethile uma ungasiboni isidingo sokwenza njalo. Cabanga ngalemizuzu eyi-10 njengokuzijwayeza nje nina nobabili ukugxila kumakhono enu engxoxo.
Beka amafoni akho phansi, cisha i-TV, bese nimane nichitha isikhathi ndawonye. The more wena umkhuba ubuciko bezingxoxo, lapho kuzokwethusa kakhulu uma sekuyisikhathi sokuba nento enenjongo. Yenza lesi sikhathi kube yinto eyigugu osukwini lwakho futhi kancane kancane uzothola ukuxhumana kwakho ngokomzwelo kuya ngokuqina.
2. Lalela kabili uma ukhuluma
Kungenzeka ukuthi uyizwile i-cliche edlalwe ngokweqile ehamba into enjengale:
"UNkulunkulu usinike izindlebe ezimbili nomlomo owodwa ukuze sikwazi ukulalela kabili kunokukhuluma kwethu."
Uyazi engikuthandayo ngama-cliches, noma kunjalo? Imvamisa ziyiqiniso ngandlela-thile, ukwakheka, noma ifomu. Ebudlelwaneni – esihogweni, ku konke ubudlelwano – thina bantu sinomkhuba wokuncika ohlangothini lobugovu lwezinto. Sizama ukulawula ingxoxo. Sizama ukwenza umbono wethu kuzo zonke izingxabano. Sizama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izwi lethu liyezwakala.
Kepha izindleko zokugxila kithi kakhulu imvamisa umuntu manje ozizwa ekude nathi ngenxa yokuntula kwethu ukuqonda. Emshadweni, kubaluleke kakhulu kunakuqala ukuthi ungalaleli nje umlingani wakho njengoba bekhuluma kepha ubalalele ngokweqiniso. Uma uzinika isikhathi sokuzwa ukuthi bathini nokuthi bazizwa kanjani, ungathola ukuqonda okungcono kokuthi bangobani nokuthi bafunani.
Ngokuqondana okungcono komunye nomunye, isibopho sakho sizoqina kakhulu kunaseminyakeni edlule. Konke ngoba ukhethe ukulalela kangcono kancane. Kungaba ngamandla amakhulu uma uyivumela!
3. Nqamula imizwa yakho ngokuthinta ngokomzimba
Ukuthinta ngokomzimba kuyisixhumi esinamandla phakathi kwabantu. Uma ingasetshenziswa emshadweni wakho, kungaba ngesinye sezizathu ozizwa unqanyulwe kakhulu kumlingani wakho. Lokhu akudingeki ukuthi kube ngokuya ocansini, noma. Ukubambana ngezandla, ukwangana, nokunikezana ngehlombe konke kufana nokuthintana ngokomzimba. Ngayinye yalezi zenzo zomzimba ezilula ingaqhubeka iqinise imizwa yenu komunye nomunye.
Ukubambana ngezandla njengawe osukwini lwakho lokuqala kuzokukhumbuza uthando oluvuthayo olwazalwa ngalolo suku. Kuzovusa ingqondo yakho ekuziphatheni kwayo okungazi lutho ngakumlingani wakho futhi kuqondane nokuthi ubathanda kangakanani.
Ukugona nokuqabula ukuqala nokuqala usuku lwakho kungenye ihange elikhulu lomzimba abanye abashadikazi abaqala ukungalinaki ngemuva kwesikhashana. Ukuqala nokuqeda usuku lwakho ngesenzo sothando kuyindlela enhle yokubekisa izinsuku zakho futhi wazise ingqondo yakho engokomzwelo ekuxhumaneni okukhona phakathi kwenu nobabili.
4. Prakthiza ukuthethelela ngokweqiniso
Imishado eminingi igudlwa intukuthelo namagqubu njengoba iminyaka iqhubeka. Leyonto eyodwa ayenza eminyakeni engama-20 eyedlule isabonakala isiko elikhulu emshadweni womshado. Lowo mfana athi sawubingelela endaweni yokucima ukoma namanje usameva endodeni emuva kwayo yonke le minyaka. Akunandaba ukuthi isimo sinjani, la magqubu awavumeli abantu ababili ukuba bahlangane ndawonye ngokomzwelo. Ibeka izindonga okunzima ukuzidiliza phansi uma zihlala isikhathi eside.
Enye indlela yokudiliza lezi zindonga ezakhiwe ngokucasuka ukwenza ukuthethelela ngokweqiniso emshadweni wakho. Lokhu kuzovumela ukusondelana okungokomzwelo okungatholakali kulabo ababambelela ekudumazekeni kwabo unyaka nonyaka.
Uma ingxabano yabathandi iphelile futhi uthe ukuthula kwakho, qhubeka ngenhliziyo exolelayo futhi uhlale uxhumene nowakwakho.
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Isiphetho
Ukugcina ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo emshadweni wokuphila konke akulula. Kuthatha ukusebenza kanzima nokunaka imininingwane abaningi bethu abangathanda ukuyicwebezela kunokuncika kuyo. Usebenzisa amathiphu avela phezulu, ngiyethemba ukuthi uzovula amasango ezikhukhula othando nokwazisa omunye komunye. Njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka, ukusebenzisa lezi zimiso kuzobaluleke kakhulu, ngakho-ke ungalokothi ungawunaki umsebenzi wakho wokushisa ilangabi phakathi kwakho noshade naye kaninginingi.