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Ngabe kukhona okwaziyo izindlela zokwazi ukuthi indoda iyinto yomshado yini kusuka kude? Kuthiwani uma usondela eduze futhi uqobo?
Osukwini nosuku lwanamuhla, kuyinselele impela ukuthola ukuthi ngabe umuntu osanda kuhlangana naye futhi ofuna ukuwa kanzima angaba yini umlingani omuhle wesikhathi eside.
Ngabe ubheka umlando wakhe wokuthandana? Uma enobuhlobo obude kuphela, ngabe lokho kusho ukuthi akesabi ukuzibophezela? Kuthiwani uma kusho ukuthi ufuna ukuphila kancane futhi azame enye into ngoshintsho? Uyazazi yini izimpawu onazo nendoda okufanele uyishade?
Uma kukhulunywa ngokuqomisana emshadweni, kukhona ama-engeli amaningi kangangokuthi uma uzama ukuwaqonda wonke, uzovele uzinikeze ikhanda elikhulu futhi ngeke ufike kude. Kungakho sithathe isinqumo sokuyihlukanisa ibe ngamathiphu amathathu alula asebenza kakhulu ngamaphesenti angama-99 wesikhathi.
Nawa amathiphu amathathu aphezulu wazi kanjani ukuthi ungumfana olungele umshado noma wazi kanjani ukuthi uyimpahla yomshado.
1. Bheka Iminyaka Yakhe Yomphakathi
Ithiphu yokuqala yokuqonda ukuthi wazi kanjani ukuthi nguye okufanele ashade naye ukuthola ukuthi ukhule kangakanani emphakathini.
Umazisi wakhe ungathi uneminyaka engama-24, 35 noma engama-46, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu yiminyaka yakhe yokuhlalisana, ongathola ukuthi nichitha isikhathi esanele ndawonye.
Abanye abantu bazizwa kamnandi futhi bakulungele ukuhlala phansi futhi bazibophezele eminyakeni engama-20 ngenkathi abanye besazizwa ukuthi akufanele basheshe bangene kunoma yini esema-40 abo.
Amadoda avuthiwe ngokwengqondo ngokwanele ukuthi enze noma yini edingekayo ukwenza ubuhlobo busebenze yilabo abazinikezela ukuzinza kubo nakwabanye.
Yilapho kufanele ugcine amehlo nezindlebe zakho zivulekile ngoba izenzo zikhuluma kakhulu kunamazwi. Angakutshela ukuthi angathanda ukushada maduze futhi aqale umndeni kepha ngabe impilo yakhe isimile?
Ingabe uyahlonishwa phakathi kwabangane bakhe noma uthandwa kakhulu ngoba ungumuntu obeka engcupheni noma impilo yephathi?
Ngokusobala, ufuna owokuqala ngoba uma eyisimvemvane somphakathi ophuma njalo ngempelasonto aziphuze angakhohlwa, qiniseka ukuthi akakulungele, futhi kungenzeka angalokothi abe njalo.
2. Izindaba Zakhe Zokuphila
Ungalindeli ukuthi umuntu uzoshintsha kakhulu. Ufike lapha futhi yize ezoshintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngoba kuzomelwe ajwayele izimo zempilo entsha ngandlela thile, akazukuguqula izindlela zakho.
Ngabe unomsebenzi omuhle oletha ukuphepha nozinzo? Ingabe uhlobo lomsebenzi ongathanda ukukhuluma nani bazali mayelana nesikhathi sedina? Noma kungenzeka ukuthi uthokozise udadewenu oneminyaka engu-22?
Amadoda akulungele ukuhlala phansi bachitha isikhathi sabo esiningi bakha okuthile abaziqhenyayo ngakho. Abanyakazi kaningi, bashintshe imisebenzi njalo ezinyangeni ezimbalwa noma bashintshe umbuthano wabangane babo.
Umuhle wakho omusha unomshado engqondweni yakhe uma ekwenza uzizwe uphephile phambi kwakhe njengoba ungamethemba noma kanjani. Ngabe ukwenza uzizwe sengathi ungafaka isandla sakho kuye, bese umvumela ukuthi akuthathe noma nini lapho ethanda? Uma impendulo inguyebo, uzitholele umgcini.
3. Hlola Abangane Bakhe
Iningi labalingani bomshado bakutshela ukuthi ubheke ubudlelwano bakhe nonina, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu kuleli phuzu ozihlanganisa nobani. Ngabe abangane bakhe iningi labantu abangashadile abathanda ukuzijabulisa kuze kube sebusuku kakhulu?
Ingabe bashade nezingane ezimbalwa? Ingabe bangobudala bakhe noma ubona umehluko okunzima ukuwuchaza, njengaye ukuzihlalela nesixuku esincane kakhulu?
Izindlela zethu zokuphila, izindinganiso zethu, izinkolelo zethu, kanye nezinhloso zethu kuvame ukufana nalabo babangane bethu, inqobo nje uma sinombuthano wangaphakathi oqinile.
Kungakho ungabanaki abangani bakhe lapho unquma ukuthi ukukhama kwakho kwakamuva kuyithuba lokuphenduka okuthile okubucayi. Uma bezinzile, maningi amathuba okuthi naye afune ukwehla ngalowo mgwaqo.
Uma bengo-DJ, izilwane zedili elilodwa noma izilwane eziyinqaba zidlala imidlalo yevidiyo usuku lonke futhi zishiya indlu ngoba izimpilo zazo zincike kuyo, mhlawumbe unjalo futhi.