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- 1. Khumbula, usayine imigomo nemibandela
- 2. “Ngiyakuqonda” nokuthi “uqinisile” akuzona nje iziphakamiso
- 3. Guqula amatafula ekulweni ukhiphe "izibhamu ezinkulu"
- 4. Kwesinye isikhathi kulungile ukwenza njengengane
- 5. Ningazithatheli phezulu!
Ayikho indlela ephelele yomshado; umbhangqwana ngamunye uhlukile futhi wehlukile. Njengengxenye yalokhu kwehlukile, izinkinga nezinselelo ezivelayo zingahluka futhi. Esikhundleni sokugxila ebunzimeni, cabanga ngalezi zeluleko ezihlekisayo ezilandelayo.
1. Khumbula, usayine imigomo nemibandela
Ungahle ungaqondi njalo oshade naye, kepha usasho ukuthi "Ngiyavuma." Ukusayina ilayisense yomshado kungaphezu nje kwesidingo somthetho. Kuyisivumelwano, isivumelwano noma isethembiso, enisenze nofakazi bokuthandana nokunakekelana impilo yonke. Yize unomphela ungahlali ikusasa lawo wonke umuntu, umshado usebenza kanzima futhi uthatha ukuzibophezela kule "mibandela nemibandela". Akukho kungabaza ngakho - esimweni somshado, imigomo nemibandela njalo sebenzisa.
2. “Ngiyakuqonda” nokuthi “uqinisile” akuzona nje iziphakamiso
Njengokwesiko futhi okuwubuwula njengoba kungazwakala, ukuqonda ukuthi unkosikazi wakho uhlala eqinisile kuyisisekelo esiyinhloko somshado. Lokhu akusho ukuthi uqinisile ngempela futhi ngokweqiniso. Kodwa isisho esithi umfazi ojabulayo kusho impilo ejabulisayo asikude kakhulu nomaka. Kwesinye isikhathi impikiswano ayifanele neze ukuba nayo. Kwesinye isikhathi impi iba ngeyokuthi akufanele ithathwe. Ngenye indlela, ukuxolisa, noma ngabe awuboni sengathi wenze iphutha, kuzosiza kakhulu ekukhombiseni umkakho ukuthi ubaluleke kangakanani kuwe.
3. Guqula amatafula ekulweni ukhiphe "izibhamu ezinkulu"
Ukulwa nokungavumelani kuyingxenye yemvelo yanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo, okubandakanya umshado. Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho wena noshade naye ningakwazi ukufika esiphethweni esifanayo futhi ukuvumelana kufanele kwenzeke. Ukuyekethisa akukaze kube lula, ngoba kusho ukuthi akekho umuntu othola konke akufunayo. Esikhundleni sokuvumela ukuyekethisa kubangele ukunganeliseki nokukhungatheka, kusetshenzisele inzuzo yakho! Njengamanje, ngesikhathi sokuthula nokuzola phakathi kwenu nobabili, qhamani neqhinga lokuthi niyokuphendula kanjani ukungaboni ngaso linye. Yenza uhlelo lokuthi izinto zizoba njani uma kufanele uhlehle, bese ufaka into emnandi! Isibonelo, uma wena noshade naye nisanda kuxabana, yehlisa ukuqina ngokusungula impi yesibhamu seNerf noma impi yamabhaluni amanzi. Akekho umuntu omdala osekhulile kakhulu ukuthi angaba nalolu hlobo lokuzijabulisa nomuntu amthandayo. Futhi njengoba lolu hlobo lobumnandi lubandakanya ukuncintisana, lungavumela ukungezwani okwakhiwe njengomphumela wokuphikisana nokungavumelani ukuthi kuxazululwe ngokwemvelo ngokuvivinya umzimba nangomoya ophansi wokuncintisana.
4. Kwesinye isikhathi kulungile ukwenza njengengane
Kwesinye isikhathi ukuba umuntu omdala kunzima. Ukuba umuntu omdala oshadile futhi obhekele ezobudlelwano kunzima kakhulu. Abaningi bethu bafuna, ngezinye izikhathi, ukuhlanganyela ebulungiseni ebesibazi besengabantwana. Lokhu kube lula kungavela ngendlela yokugwema imithwalo yakho yemfanelo noma kungeza ngendlela yokuncokola ngezinto kunokuba uzithathe ngokungathi sína. Qaphela ukuthi uma kukhulunywa ngokuba ngumlingani, kuzoba nezikhathi ezifanele zokuthi ucabange futhi wenze njengengane. Kulungile ukuzijabulisa noshade naye! Eqinisweni, kungaba nempilo enhle kakhulu ukuthi wena noshade naye nichithe isikhathi omunye nomunye okuhloselwe ubumnandi nobuciko kunokuba kube inkambiso yansuku zonke nokubaluleka. Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha kufanele lusetshenziswe ngokuhlakanipha, futhi njalo ngesikhathi esifanele. Ukuba yingane, ngakolunye uhlangothi kufanele kungavami uma kwenzeka kwenzeka ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ukwenza njengomntwana nokuzijabulisa kuhluke kakhulu ekubeni ingane. Qonda umugqa omuhle phakathi kwalaba bobabili futhi ugcine lelo bhalansi ukuze uzuze izinzuzo zokwazi ukuzijabulisa nomlingani wakho!
5. Ningazithatheli phezulu!
Ngokuhambisana nokuzivumela kwesinye isikhathi ukuthi uziphathe njengomntwana, kubalulekile ukuthi ungathathi zikhathi zonke ngokungathi sína. Lokhu kugcona nokudlala kufanele kwenzeke ngesikhathi esifanele nangezinhloso ezifanele. Kodwa ukudlala ebudlelwaneni bakho kungaholela ekusondelaneni ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba, into nobabili eningayifisa ngasese ezingeni elijulile.