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Abantu bavame ukuzibuza ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuba kube nabesifazane abaningi kangaka abashaywayo futhi abahlala behlukunyezwa ngendlela engachazeki, kodwa bahlale nomhlukumezi wabo. Futhi kungumbuzo oyindida okusamele uzwisiswe ngokuphelele. Kodwa-ke, sesivele sazi okuningi mayelana namandla phakathi komhlukumezi kanye nesisulu sakhe, nangokuphepha okufihlekile okuhlupha ubudlelwano nabo bobabili abathintekayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sazi okuningi ngalabo abahlukumeza ngokomzimba abesifazane obekufanele babanakekele futhi babavikele engozini. Kunezinhlobo ezimbili zabahlukumezi, futhi zombili kunzima ukuzishiya ngenye indlela.
1. Uhlobo lwe-simmer oluhlukumezayo
Lapho imoto yomyeni wakhe ingena ku-driveway, unomuzwa wokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle namhlanje. Futhi akuyona intuition ethile eyejwayelekile, kumane nje ukuthi umjikelezo ubuphinda iminyaka futhi uyazi ukuthi isikhathi sesisondele sokuthi umyeni wakhe alahlekelwe yindwangu yakhe futhi abe nodlame futhi. Sekunesikhashana agcina ukumshaya, bese exolisa izinsuku, ethembisa ukuthi ngeke aphinde. Futhi-ke wonke umuntu ukhohliwe ngokuxolisa futhi ukungezwani kwaqala ukukhuphuka futhi. Namuhla, noma yini ayishoyo noma ayenzayo izobe ingalungile, uzoba necala lakho konke, futhi noma ngabe esabela kanjani, okungenakugwemeka kuzokwenzeka - uzoqala amemeze futhi alwe, lapho ephendula (noma engaphendula kanjani) uzoba nodlame, futhi umjikelezo uzoqala kabusha. Lokhu kungenye yezinhlobo ezimbili zabahlukumezi, umhlukumezi owenza kancane. Noma kunesixwayiso esisobala sokuthi udlame luzoza ngobunzima obuzokwanda phakathi komhlukumezi kanye nomhlukunyeziwe, akukho okuningi isisulu ebesingakwenza ukuvimbela ulaka oluzayo. La madoda kulula ukuwashiya kunohlobo olulandelayo esizoluchaza, kodwa futhi kunzima ukungabuyeli kubo. Ngokuvamile bazocela intethelelo, balandele izisulu zabo, futhi lokhu kuvamise ukuphenduka esinye, isiqephu sodlame esibi kakhulu, ngoba bangalimaza abantu babo bakudala, babacuphe, futhi bababulale ngisho nalapho bengaphenduli ukuxolisa nezethembiso.
2. Uhlobo olufushane lwe-fuse lomhlukumezi
Uhlobo lwesibili lwabahlukumezi luyethusa futhi luyingozi kakhulu ngoba kubo akukho ukwakheka kancane kancane kwengcindezi. Konke kwabonakala njengosuku oluhle kuJ nesoka lakhe. Bahleka, bazijabulisa ndawonye, baya ekhonsathini futhi babenosuku nje oluhle. Ekhonsathini, umfana othile waya kuJ lapho isoka lakhe liyofuna iziphuzo. Kubonakala sengathi akamenqabanga masinyane ngokwanele isoka lakhe. Wabonakala ezothile ngokuphelele lapho emkhiphela ngaphandle nangokuphazima kweso, wathula, wamshaya ngamandla waze wawa phansi. “Ungangideleli” kwaba yilokho kuphela akusho. Lawa madoda asabela ngokushesha futhi asuka ku-zero aye kwikhulu ngokuphazima kweso. Asikho isexwayiso, kepha futhi akukho ukubamisa. Futhi ukushiya indoda enjalo kukhombisa ukuthi kunzima kakhulu kunohlobo lwangaphambili lomhlukumezi, ngenxa yezizathu ezimbili. Izisulu zivame ukukhungatheka ngabalingani babo ngendlela yokugula, futhi futhi - kufanelekile besabela izimpilo zabo uma beshiya umhlukumezi wabo. Lawa madoda abona abesifazane bawo njengempahla yawo futhi uma engalaleli, akalokothi abe kude nokubafundisa isifundo.
Okuthokozisayo futhi okuvame ukudumaza abesifazane ababa yizisulu zala madoda ukuthi, njengoba kubonakala sengathi, akusekho ukubuya uma isiqephu esihlukumezayo siqala. Noma kungukushesha kombani ngaphandle kwesexwayiso, noma inhlekelele ekhula kancane, uma "inkinobho" iphenduphenduka, ayikho indlela yokumisa isiphepho sobudlova nokulwa. Ubudlelwano ngabunye bunenkambo yabo, futhi konke okwenziwayo empeleni akulungile. Kepha into eyodwa iqinisekile - udlame lwasemzimbeni ebudlelwaneni yisimo esibuhlungu nesiyingozi okumele ubhekane naso. Kungaba ukwelulekwa kwezithandani noma ukushiya umhlukumezi, kukhona okumele kwenziwe, futhi kumele kwenziwe ngokushesha. Isinyathelo sokuqala ukuba nesithombe esicacile salokho okwenzeka ngempela. Akuyona into edlulayo, ngeke isuke, futhi ayisihle kunendlela ebukeka ngayo. Ngakho-ke uma uyisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa, cela usizo, ngoba uzoludinga, futhi ngesibindi uqede isimo esingenampilo okuso.