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- 1. Ukukhulumisana okuhle
- 2. Khuluma ngokukhululeka ngalokho okulindele
- 3. Hlela imisebenzi yakho
- 4. Thatha imizamo
- 5. Ungaqhathanisi impilo yakho yezocansi
- 6. Ungamzibi umlingani wakho ngaphambi noma ngemuva kocansi
- 7. Zama imibono engaphandle kwebhokisi
Ukusondelana ngokocansi kuyingxenye enempilo yanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo besikhathi eside, njengoba imibhangqwana esothandweni ingakujabulela ukuba ndawonye iminyaka neminyaka. Kepha bewazi ukuthi kukhona uhlobo locansi "olulungile" "nolungalungile"? Yebo. Izimfanelo ezithile ziyadingeka ukuze ube nobudlelwano obunempilo kwezocansi.
Kungaba nokushoda kocansi ebudlelwaneni bakho noma ungaba nobudlelwano bezocansi obungenampilo futhi ungazi.
Ngakho-ke yiziphi izimpawu zobudlelwano bezocansi obungenampilo noma obungenampilo? Ngidale uhlu lwazo, ozozibona ngezansi kepha ngaphambi kwalokho ake sibheke amaqiniso ngemuva kwalokhu.
Lokho okushiwo ucwaningo ...
Ucansi emshadweni lubaluleke ngempela olukhuthaza ukwaneliseka emshadweni futhi luzuzise impilo yakho engokomzimba. Ngokusho kwabaphenyi base-University of Chicago u-Adena Galinsky noLinda J. abaxoxisana nabashadikazi abangama-732 abaneminyaka ephakathi kuka-57 kuya kwengama-85 mayelana nobuningi bezocansi, impilo yengqondo kanye nokwaneliseka emshadweni, "Ukuvikela ikhwalithi yomshado empilweni yakamuva, kungabalulekile kubantu abadala ukuthola izindlela zokuzibandakanya ocansini, njengoba nezinkinga zempilo zenza izindlela ezijwayelekile zokuhlangana kocansi zibe nzima noma zingenakwenzeka."
Kepha umbuzo lapha ukuthi kungakanani ucansi okunempilo ebudlelwaneni? IGeneral Social Survey ithi imibhangqwana eshadile iya ocansini izikhathi ezingama-58 ngonyaka ngokwesilinganiso. Uma inombolo yakho ingaphezu kwesibalo esishiwo lapha, lokhu-ke lokhu kungenye yezimpawu zokuzibandakanya ocansini.
Kepha, inqobo nje uma unobudlelwano obunempilo kwezocansi nomlingani wakho, ngakho-ke asikho isizathu sokukhathazeka. Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele ukhathazeke kakhulu ngokukhomba ukuthi ngabe ubudlelwano bakho bobulili nomlingani wakho buya bungabi yimpilo yini noma cha.
Ngakho-ke, naka uma uthola noma yiziphi zalezi zimpawu eziyisixwayiso ebudlelwaneni bakho.Futhi, gcina engqondweni, lezi zimpawu zocansi ezingenampilo zingavela noma kunini, kungaba ngedethi yakho yokuqala noma ngemuva kweminyaka engamashumi amabili nishadile.
Akunandaba ukuthi kubonakala nini, ukuziphatha okuyingozi noma okuyingozi kwezocansi noma ukuvezwa kwalokhu kuziphatha kuyinto okufanele ubhekane nayo ngokushesha. Kwezinye izimo, ukuzikhipha ebuhlotsheni kanye / noma ukuphikelela ekwelashweni kuyisinqumo esingcono kakhulu.
Ochwepheshe bathi ucansi akufanele neze -
- Zizwe uphoqelelwe, uphoqelelwe, noma ucindezelwa
- Khohlisa
- Faka izinto noma imisebenzi ongakhululekile ngayo ukufaka noma ukusebenzisa
- Yiba buhlungu ngaphandle kokuthi ubuhlungu ngokusobala buyingxenye yenjabulo
- Yiba yisimo sothando, noma ungenalo uthando
- Yiba nesibopho
- Yiba kude
- Hlambalaza (kungafaki imisebenzi ethile yokudlala indima)
- Yiba isenzo omunye enza "Kokunye"
- Isetshenziswe njengesikhali, noma sigodliwe njengesijeziso
- Yiba nemfihlo
- Yenza umuntu aphile impilo embaxambili
Ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi ucansi kufanele -
- Vumelana
- Yiba ukubonakaliswa kothando
- Yiba isihloko sokuxhumana
- Ukulawulwa nokulawulwa
- Yiba nobudlelwano futhi usondelene
- Yiba nobungane, wabelane, futhi ulingane
- Yiba idrayivu yemvelo, ungalokothi ube ukuphoqelelwa
- Yiba namandla
- Yiba olinganayo
- Thuthukisa ukuzethemba nokuzethemba
- Yiba nomthwalo wemfanelo, uphephe futhi uhloniphe
Ukulandela amaphuzu ambalwa abhalwe ngenhla, okubaluleke kakhulu kulokhu ukuxhumana ngokukhululekile nomlingani wakho. Manje ake siqonde izindlela ezihlukene eziyishumi zokuba nobudlelwano obunempilo kwezocansi.
1. Ukukhulumisana okuhle
Ucansi kufanele lube yindaba izithandani ezingakhuluma ngayo ngokuthembeka okuphelele okuvulelekile. Akufanele kube nezimfihlo, amahloni, noma ukwahlulela okuhambisana nocansi noma imisebenzi yezocansi.
Ucansi kufanele lubandakanye ukusondelana ngokomzwelo futhi kufanele njalo kugcwalise. Kufanele kube yinto oyenzayo ukujabulisa omunye nomunye ngendlela eyabiwe.
Uma noma yimuphi umsebenzi ohlobene nezocansi noma isici somsebenzi wezocansi njengezithombe zocansi, ukukhohlisa, ukuphoqa, ukukhohlisa, noma isijeziso (isb.ukugodla ucansi), kudlula ubudlelwano bakho, noma noma ngabe kunesici esithile esikukhathazayo, xoxa ngenkinga nomlingani wakho noma funa izeluleko zomshado kumeluleki wezocansi noma umeluleki womshado.
2. Khuluma ngokukhululeka ngalokho okulindele
Ungalinge ubukele phansi iqhaza lezocansi emshadweni wakho. Uma ufisa ukujabulela ukusondelana ngokocansi nomlingani wakho, kufanele ukhulume ngokukhululekile ngokulindelayo nokufunayo. Ukulindela okungahlanganisiwe ngokocansi kungalimaza ubuhlobo kabi.
Uma zingalingani emshadweni wakho, kungakuhle ukuthi wethule ngokuhlakanipha nangokuzwela izifiso zakho -
- Izinto ezizokwenza uzizwe kahle, futhi
- Izinto ozifuna ekamelweni.
3. Hlela imisebenzi yakho
Indlela yokuphila ye-Hectic ishiya isikhathi esanele sokuba imibhangqwana ixhumane. Izinsuku ziyahamba, futhi abavamile ukushintshana ngaphezu kwamazwi ambalwa, futhi ucansi luthatha isihlalo sangemuva.
Kepha, ukusondelana ngokomzimba nomlingani wakho kungakhombisa ukuthi kuyinkinga enkulu yokucindezeleka, kusho ucwaningo. Futhi, kunezinye izinzuzo ezingaziwa zokuba nobuhlobo bobulili obuphilile. Ngakho-ke, zama ukungagcini ucansi ezansi kohlu lwakho lwansuku zonke lokwenza.
Kungcono ukuhlela ucansi lwakho esikhundleni salokho.
Eminye imibhangqwana ihlala kude nawo wonke umqondo wokuhlela ucansi kepha ukuhlela kuyanezela enjabulweni futhi kwakha ukulindela. Uma uhlela ukushisa futhi usendle phakathi kwamashidi kusihlwa, yeka izinkomba kusuka ekuseni, kungaba ngemibhalo noma ngokuthinta ngothando.
Umlingani wakho uzolinda ngokulangazela izimanga okungenzeka uziphonse kubo ngemuva kokuthi izibani zicishiwe.
4. Thatha imizamo
Ungalindeli ukuthi umlingani wakho akhulume ngesihloko socansi noma aqale ukwenza uthando njalo lapho nobabili nindawonye. Bobabili banesibopho ngokulinganayo sokujabulela ubuhlobo bobulili obuphilile.
Bambani izandla, bonisani uthando, ngezikhathi ezithile, phumani niye ezobusuku bezothando, futhi nihlanganyele kweminye imisebenzi embalwa ukugcina ilangabi lothando nokuvutha kothando.
5. Ungaqhathanisi impilo yakho yezocansi
Awukwazi ukulindela ukuthi ucansi lube yinto emangazayo isikhathi ngasinye lapho uzama. Futhi, ungalindeli ukuthi impilo yakho yezocansi ibukeke ifudumele njengoba kuvezwa kumabhayisikobho.
Kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kwamafilimu neqiniso. Ngakho-ke, yeka ukuqhathanisa impilo yakho yezocansi nezigcawu ezishubile kumafilimu nakumathelevishini. Umlingani wakho akasoze akwazi ukuhlangabezana nezilindelo zakho, ezingenangqondo nezobuchwepheshe.
6. Ungamzibi umlingani wakho ngaphambi noma ngemuva kocansi
Kungenzeka uthole izeluleko eziningi zokuthi wenze kanjani ucansi oluhle ebudlelwaneni. Kepha, awusoze wabuthokozela ubudlelwane obunempilo kwezocansi uma uqhubeka uziba futhi uhlikihla umlingani wakho. Ngesikhathi lapho uzizwa uthanda ukuthokomala nabo, sebevele balahlekelwe intshisekelo yokuhlala eduze kwakho.
7. Zama imibono engaphandle kwebhokisi
Ukuzama isikhundla esifanayo kaninginingi kungaba buthuntu futhi kube yisidina kwesinye isikhathi emshadweni wakho. Kepha, ungagcina izindaba zakho phakathi kwamashidi uzibandakanya ngokudlula ezindaweni zakho zokunethezeka futhi uhlole ezinye izindlela.
Zama izikhundla ezintsha zobulili nemidlalo elingisa ukugcina izindaba zithakazelisa ngempela futhi zivuselela, ngasikhathi sinye.
Futhi, kunezinye izindlela zokujabulela ubudlelwano obunempilo kwezocansi. Lokhu kufaka phakathi -
- Ukuhloniphana
- Ukugcina uthando lomzimba komunye nomunye
- Ukunakekela impilo yakho yezocansi
Ukukhuluma ngocansi ebudlelwaneni obusha akulula futhi ukuxoxa ngocansi nomuntu osanda kuhlangana naye akukhuthazwa. Kepha lesi yisihloko esisodwa okufanele usiveze ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe isinqumo sokungena kulowo muntu.