“Ngake ngaba nezifiso eziyinkulungwane. Kodwa esifisweni sami esisodwa sokwazi wena — konke kwancibilika. ”- URumi
Uthando lungenye yemizwa ejulile eyaziwa ngabantu. Uqhuma phakathi kokuthokoza, injabulo, ukukhuphuka kwamandla, ukulala, ukulahlekelwa isifiso sokudla, ukuthuthumela, inhliziyo yokugijima, futhi ekugcineni uzizwe UPHILE! Kunezinhlobo eziningi zothando, kepha iningi labantu lifuna ukubonakaliswa kwalo ebudlelwaneni bezothando nomlingani ohambisanayo.Izinyanga ziyahamba futhi iqiniso lobuntu obuhlukile liqala ukucwila nokuqonda umuntu ochitha isikhathi sakho naye kubaluleke kakhulu. Lapho i- imizwa yothando kulo muntu luzoqala ukuhlangana nokuba sothandweni ne- umuntu. Lesi yisikhathi esibucayi- cishe emasontweni ayi-12 kuya ku-20 lapho ubudlelwano benziwa khona noma buqala ukuwohloka. Kuleli qophelo, wena nozakwenu niqala ukubambisana futhi amanani ahlangatshezwa noma aphulwa. Isibonelo, umenza kanjani umuntu abone ukuthi ubalulekile kanti awazi ukuthi yiziphi izimiso abamba ukuthi zibalulekile? Ingabe yisikhathi sekhwalithi, ukuvuma, izipho, izenzo zomusa, ukuthinta ngokomzimba? Ukwazi umuntu, okokuqala, kufanele wakhe ukusondelana ebudlelwaneni. Ukusondelana phakathi kwamashidi kubalulekile, kepha ngikhuluma kakhulu ngokusondelana ngokomzwelo okuthi lapho kusesimweni salo okuluhlaza kakhulu kudale ukusondelana nomunye umuntu. Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo yikhono lokuzizwa usengozini futhi usaqiniseka ukuthi uzokwamukelwa. Kunezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokusondelana nokwazi amanani ngaphakathi kwesici ngasinye sobudlelwano kuzokusiza ukuhlangabezana nalezo zidingo.
- Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo: ukusondelana kudalwe ngokwabelana ngemizwa yethu, imicabango kanye nezifiso zethu. Enye yezindlela ezilula zokwenza lokhu ukuchitha imizuzu eyi-10 ninodwa ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka okufana ne-elekthronikhi, abanye abantu noma ukwenza imisebenzi eminingi.
- Ukusondelana kwengqondo: kufaka phakathi ukuzwana kanye nenkululeko yokuxoxa ngezihloko zezintshisekelo ezisuselwa kumagugu akho. Lokhu kufaka ukuxoxwa ngezombusazwe, inkolo, ukukhuliswa kwabantwana, izindinganiso zomndeni, ukugqugquzela, nanoma yini enye ebalulekile kuwe NGAPHANDLE kokwesaba imiphumela.
- Ukusondelana kokuzijabulisa: isebenza ndawonye. Thola lezo zinto othanda ukuzenza noma ongathanda ukuzithola futhi uzenze nomlingani wakho.
- Ukusondelana kwezezimali: ukwabelana ngesimo sakho sezezimali. Ukusondelana kwezezimali kuza nokwakha uhlelo lwezezimali zakho nokukwazi ukuxhumana okuvulekile nokwethembeka nomlingani wakho maqondana nezinhlelo nezifiso ezihlobene nezezezimali.
- Ukusondelana ngokomzimba: kwakha ukuxhumana ngokuthinta. Kungaba ukubambana ngezandla, ukwanga, ukuqabulana noma ukwenza uthando, thina bantu senzelwe ukuthi sithinte. Ukuthinta kungadlulisa ukwamukelwa nothando, ukusondelana okungabi nobabili kini ngokususelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho kwenu okwabiwe.
Usebenzisa lezi zici ezahlukahlukene ungaqala ingxoxo yokuthola nokuqonda amanani ngaphakathi kwezinga ngalinye lokusondelana. Izibonelo zamanani ezihambisana nokusondelana ngokomzwelo kungaba: ukwamukelwa, ukuvuleleka, ukwenza izinto obala, ubuqiniso, ukwethembeka, ukuthembana, inkululeko, ukunakekela, ubuhlakani, ilukuluku njll. uzizwe ungokwemvelo kakhulu, futhi kulula. Ukuhlangana kuzoba lula futhi izingxoxo zizokhombisa amanani akwenza ube ngumuntu uqobo futhi nangaphakathi komongo wobudlelwano.