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- Ukubona ukuthi usuphenduke isikhwama sezibhakela emshadweni
- URage uqhamuka ngokungabikho kothando lwakho uqobo
- 1. Ukuziphenya
- 2. Iya enhliziyweni
- 3. Thatha shift
Izwe lisola ukufutheka ngengcindezi, kanye nokuntuleka kwenkululeko yezezimali. Iningi labantu lithi ingcindezi nokushoda kwemali yikhona okuqeda imishado. Kujule kakhulu kunalokhu, noma kunjalo. Njengoba ingcindezi nokuntuleka kwezezimali kungaba yizimbangela, akuzona izimbangela. Lapho umuntu elahlekelwe yikhono lakhe lokuthanda, akunandaba ukuthi ucebile noma umpofu. Kunabantu abaningi abaphila nemali eningi nokho, ulaka oluningi. Ngakho-ke khohlwa ukuqagela. Izibalo zibonisa udlame lwasekhaya kuyo yonke iminyaka, kuzo zonke izigaba zenhlalo, nakuwo wonke amabakaki wezezimali.
Ukubona ukuthi usuphenduke isikhwama sezibhakela emshadweni
Eminyakeni edlule, umshado wami wawungenye yalezo zibalo. Ngangishade nendoda engazi lutho eyayinolaka oluningi nobuhlungu besikhathi esedlule obabuthathe impilo yayo futhi ngaba yisikhwama sezibhakela emshadweni. Saqala ukulahlekelwa yimali engenayo eningi, futhi zonke izimali zami zomhlalaphansi zase zinciphile zaba yize. Ube nesiyaluyalu esingalindelekile onqondo yakhe yaphela kalula emazingeni okushisa ajwayelekile, kwathi lapho kuphakama ukushisa kwezimo zempilo, wathungelwa ngomlilo.
Isikhathi esibaluleke kakhulu kimi kwaba lapho ngiqala ukuphila impilo yami ngokuqaphela okukhulu futhi ngangizithanda. Lokhu kwakumkhathaza kakhulu umyeni wami kangangokuba ngokubona kwakhe ukuthi ngivuka ngithathe umhlalaphansi ebusuku ngijabule, kwamphazamisa ngokuphelele futhi ngokungangabazeki. URage wayilawula impilo yakhe, futhi ekugcineni, yabhidliza umshado.
URage uqhamuka ngokungabikho kothando lwakho uqobo
Ukufutheka kuqhamuka ekungabikho kothando lwakho uqobo futhi ukungabikho kothando lwakho uqobo kuvela ekuhlaleni ngokwesaba. Lapho othile egcwele ulaka, ngokuvamile kususelwa ekwesabeni. Abantu okuthiwa banenhliziyo embi, empeleni bangabantu abethukile. Benza ngokufutheka ngoba bahlala ngokwesaba. Uma uhlala ngokwesaba, ucindezela uthando ngokuqhubeka kude. Kuyakhubaza kakhulu ukuthi ukhohlwe ukuthi ungahamba kanjani othandweni.
Bobabili abantu emshadweni kudingeka bahlale benolwazi futhi bazithande. Ngaphandle kwalokho, umehluko ezingeni lokwazi kuzokuhlukanisa kakhulu futhi kulahlekisele umshado wakho. Kwesinye isikhathi ungasiza ekuletheni umuntu ekukhanyeni, futhi kwesinye isikhathi bamane abakulungele ukuvela. Iphuzu ukuthi udinga ukuzikhethela uwedwa. Akekho omunye umuntu ongakwenzela yona. Ukukhetha kungenye yezindlela eziyisikhombisa zokunqoba. Izimo kungenzeka zingaphenduki ngokuphelele ngaso sonke isikhathi, kepha ukukhetha ukuba nokuthula ezimweni kuhlala kukhona njalo. Futhi uma unokuthula esimweni, khona-ke kuphelele ngempela. Funda kabanzi ngalokhu encwadini ethi "Iqiniso Ukunqoba".
Mayelana nokufutheka, ukushaya kungukuphula isivumelwano. Futhi akekho ofakwa kulo mhlaba ukuthi ahlukunyezwe. Noma ngubani ozwa ukuthi impilo yakhe isengozini uzodinga uhlelo lokuphuma. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ugcwele ulaka ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi kubhidliza umshado wakho. Ziyini izindleko zolaka kuwe?
Izinyathelo ezintathu ezingokoqobo zokuyeka intukuthelo
1. Ukuziphenya
Ukuziphenya kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuyeka ukudinwa. Uma njengamanje uhlangabezana nesimo ozwa ukufutheka kuso, bheka ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthi ubeke isimo phambi kwakho, bese uthi “Angisakufuni empilweni yami. Angisabufuni lobu buhlungu. ” Uma ulimala, bona ukuthi ungazitshela yini ukuthi, “Ngiyalimala. Kodwa ngiyaphila. ” Leli yithuba lokuzibuza okungaletha ukukhula okumangalisayo kwangaphakathi. Ukukhula kwangaphakathi kuzokudinga ukuthi wenze umsebenzi wangaphakathi okumema ukuthi uzithande.
2. Iya enhliziyweni
Isinyathelo sesibili sokuyeka intukuthelo ukuya enhliziyweni. Iya enhliziyweni uyilalelisise. Ziba ingqondo ecabangayo. Ingqondo ecabangayo ifuna ukuthi ukholwe yilokho ekutshela khona. Ungakukholwa. Iya enhliziyweni ulalele ukuthi ikutshelani. Inhliziyo yakho iyohlala ikhuluma iqiniso ngothando. Kuzoletha umuzwa wokuthula nokuzola.
3. Thatha shift
Isinyathelo sesithathu sokuyeka intukuthelo ukuthatha ushintsho olubheke ekuthuleni. Unesibopho soshintsho lwakho empilweni nokuthi ludlala kanjani emshadweni wakho. Akekho omunye umuntu ongakwenzela yona. Ukushintshela ekuthuleni kungenzeka kuphela uma ukhona ngokugcwele futhi uzithanda. Lapho usukulungele ukushintshela ekuqwashiseni nasekuzithandeni, lokho kuvuka kuzoletha umqondo omkhulu wokuthula.
I-Final take away - umshado ophakathi kwakho nengane yakho yangaphakathi yiwona okuqedelayo
Emshadweni, akusona isikhundla sanoma ngubani ukulungisa noma ukusindisa omunye. Silapha kuphela ukuthanda nokuqedela lapho sihamba ngezimo zempilo. Umshado akuyona into ekuqedela. Umshado phakathi kwakho nengane yakho yangaphakathi yiwona okuqedelayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lapho izidalwa ezimbili eziphelele zihlangana emshadweni kuba kuhle futhi kuyavumelana ngoba kuqhamuka esisekelweni sokuzithanda.