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- Okokuqala, amanye amaqiniso
- Uma sikhuluma ngemfundo, ake sixoxe
- Khetha isikhathi esilungele nina nobabili
- Ungesabi ukuthi ukukhuluma kuzobakhuthaza ukuthi babe nezocansi
- Iqala ingxoxo
- Okungakuhle, uzoba nengxoxo eqhubekayo
- 1. Izinhlelo zokuzala zabesilisa nabesifazane
- 2. Ukuya ocansini
- 3. Ukukhulelwa
- 4. Ilungelo lokuzithiba nokuhlehlisa ucansi
- 5. Izindlela zokuthola injabulo ngaphandle kokungena
- 6. Ukulawula inzalo
- 7. Ukuya ocansini
- 8. Izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi
- 9. Umbono wokuvuma
- 10. Ukuphuza nocansi
- 11. Imiphumela engokomzwelo yokuya ocansini
- Njengoba uhlola lezi zindaba ezibucayi, khumbula:
Ukuba umzali akulula neze, futhi ukuba ngumzali wentsha kunezinselelo zayo ezithile. Maphakathi nokuba mdala, kepha usenezidingo zengane, intsha ihamba emgqeni omuhle phakathi kwesifiso sokuzimela okuphelele kanye nesidingo esinamandla somuzwa wokuxhumana nawe.
Faka ubunikazi babo obusafufusa kule ngxube futhi abazali badinga ukugezela amanye amanzi akhohlisayo kakhulu wokukhulisa izingane ukuhamba.
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokwenza le ndima yokuphila — futhi ukukhuluma nabo ngocansi– kushelele kancane.
Okokuqala, amanye amaqiniso
Ngabe intsha iya ocansini kakhulu manje kunanini ngaphambili? Isiko elidumile lingathanda ukuthi sikholwe kanjalo. Kepha empeleni, intsha eningi ayenzi. Ucwaningo ngale ndaba lukhombisa ukuthi ama-42% abafundi besikole samabanga aphezulu bayaya ocansini; qhathanisa lokho nezinombolo ezivela eminyakeni engamashumi ayisishiyagalombili edlule, lapho abafana abangama-60% besikole samabanga aphezulu bethi bayaya ocansini.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle komqondo wokuthi njengamanje siphila esikweni lokuxhuma, intsha empeleni Ngaphansi ocansini namuhla kunaseminyakeni engama-30 edlule.
Yini eyenza umehluko? Akungabazeki ukuthi imfundo eyengeziwe ngama-STD, ama-AID, nezinye izingozi ezihlobene nezocansi.
Uma sikhuluma ngemfundo, ake sixoxe
Uma unentsha, uzofuna ukusungula nokunakekela imigqa yokuxhumana nabo, ikakhulukazi maqondana nokwabelana ngeziqondiso zemfundo yezocansi.
Ungumthombo wabo wokuqala wemfundo yezocansi.
Njengomzali wentsha, usuyazi vele ukuthi bavame ukuvala uma ucela ukuhlala nabo ukhulume nabo, ngakho-ke ake sibheke ezinye zezindlela zokwenza isimo esihle kakhulu sokukhuluma nabo ngocansi.
Khetha isikhathi esilungele nina nobabili
Ufuna ukuthi le nkulumo yenzeke ngokukhululeka, ngakho-ke ukubabuza ukuthi basebenzisa yini ukuvikela ngenkathi ubashayela ukuzilolongela ibhola akuyona indlela engcono yokuvula ingxoxo.
Abanye abazali babe nempumelelo enkulu ngokungena kalula kule ndaba enzima ngokubuka ibhayisikobho egxile ocansini lwentsha nentsha yabo (ngokwesibonelo “Umbala Oluhlaza Okwesibhakabhaka” noma “The Spectacular Now”) bese bexoxa ingxoxo nje yokulandela ifilimu.
Ungesabi ukuthi ukukhuluma kuzobakhuthaza ukuthi babe nezocansi
Imfundo ayihumusheli esenzweni. Uma ukhathazekile intsha yakho izokuhumusha lokhu okushoyo njengemvume yokuphuma iye ocansini, ungabi njalo.
Intsha enabazali abakhulume nabo ngocansi baya ocansini emuva kwesikhathi esijwayelekile futhi maningi amathuba okuthi basebenzise ukulawulwa kokubeletha lapho benza ucansi.
Iqala ingxoxo
Indlela enhle yokuqala kungaba ukuthi “Ngifuna ukukhuluma nawe ngendaba ebucayi. Le ngxoxo ingahle ingakhululeki kithi sobabili, kepha ibalulekile. Futhi ngoba sikhuluma ngocansi akusho ukuthi udinga ukuphuma uyozama. Kodwa uma wenza kanjalo, ake sibheke izindlela zokuphepha wena nomlingani wakho. ”
Okungakuhle, uzoba nengxoxo eqhubekayo
Lokho kusho ukuthi ingane yakho ikhululekile ukukubuza imibuzo noma nini lapho kuvela okuthile. Kuningi ozokuhlanganisa ezinkulumweni zakho ngakho ungazami ukupakisha kukho konke kusihlwa okukodwa. Inhloso yengxoxo yokuqala ukukhombisa ingane yakho ukuthi ungumuntu abangaya kuye lapho bedinga izimpendulo ezingezona zokwahlulela, nezobuchwepheshe emibuzweni yabo.
Nazi ezinye izihloko ongafuna ukubhekana nazo:
1. Izinhlelo zokuzala zabesilisa nabesifazane
Izisekelo zokuthi umntwana wenziwa kanjani, nokuthi yiziphi izingxenye ezibandakanyekayo. (Ungashiya i-IVF nezinye izinhlobo zokukhulelwa ngokuzayo.)
2. Ukuya ocansini
Kokubili ukujabulisa nokwenza izingane.
3. Ukukhulelwa
Thinta inkoleloze yokuthi intombazane ayikwazi ukukhulelwa okokuqala, noma ngesikhathi sayo. Intsha eningi iyakukholelwa lokhu.
4. Ilungelo lokuzithiba nokuhlehlisa ucansi
Kubaluleke kakhulu uma inkolo yakho inemithetho ngalokhu.
5. Izindlela zokuthola injabulo ngaphandle kokungena
Ukushaya indlwabu, ubulili bomlomo, nokugonana okudala nokuqabulana okudala.
6. Ukulawula inzalo
Kunezindlela eziningi ezintsha ezikhona manje qiniseka ukuthi uzazisa ngaphambi kokukhuluma ngalokhu nengane yakho. Abazali abaningi bagcina amakhondomu endlini yangasese ukuze intsha ikwazi ukuwafinyelela kalula. Bazise ukuthi bakhona futhi akekho obabalayo ngakho abacabangi ukuthi wenza umsebenzi wabo wezocansi. Kungcono ukuphepha kunokuzisola.
7. Ukuya ocansini
Intsha yakho kungenzeka ukuthi iyazazi zonke izifinyezo (i-LGBTQ, njll.) Ngakho-ke khulumi ngokungahambisani nobungqingili kuphela, kepha nobungqingili, i-pansexual, transsexual, bisexual, fluid fluid nokunye. Futhi, ukukhuluma ngobunye ubulili ngeke "kwenze" ingane yakho eyisitabane.
8. Izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi
Ama-HIV / AID, ugcunsula, i-chlamydia, i-herpes, izinsumpa ezithweni zangasese, i-gonorrhea, neminye imiphumela engemihle yocansi olungaphephile.
9. Umbono wokuvuma
Kubaluleke kakhulu esimweni sezulu sanamuhla. Buza ingane yakho ukuthi yini eyiqondayo ngokuthi "imvume". Khuluma ngokudlwengulwa, nokuthi yini echaza ukudlwengulwa. Ungacaphuna amacala kwabezindaba bese ubuza uvo lwabo maqondana nocansi oluvunyelanayo nolungavumi.
10. Ukuphuza nocansi
Izinto eziguqula ingqondo zingathinta kanjani ubulili kanye namandla okuvuma.
11. Imiphumela engokomzwelo yokuya ocansini
Khuluma ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene abafana namantombazane abathola ngazo uhlangothi lomzwelo locansi.
Njengoba uhlola lezi zindaba ezibucayi, khumbula:
- Izimiso zakho mayelana nezocansi
- Isimo sakho sengqondo ngobunye ubulili
- Ufisa kangakanani ukuthembeka mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwangaphambilini nabalingani bakho
Khumbula unelungelo lokuthi awukhululekile ukukhuluma ngezinto ezithile (kepha uma kunjalo, thumela ingane yakho komunye umthombo; ungabashiyi bengenalwazi uma bedinga imininingwane ethile.