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- Ukuzihlonipha ukwazi ukuthi ungubani
- 1. Zithande futhi uzihloniphe
- 2. Funda ukuthi cha
- 3. Funda ukungasabeli ngokomzwelo
- 4. Ukubeka imingcele
- 5. Yiba nokubekezela
Wake wacabanga ukuthi kungani ngijabulisa abantu kangaka? Kungani abantu behamba phezu kwami? Kungani umlingani wami esizakala ngami? Kungani ngisebudlelwaneni obungenampilo?
Okokuqala, ungabona kanjani ukuthi umuntu ukuphatha kanjani?
Ungatshela ukuthi umuntu ukuphatha kanjani ngendlela ozizwa ngayo. Isibonelo, lapho sinikezwa izimbali noma isipho siqala ukuzizwa sijabule, sijabule noma sijabule kakhulu. Imizimba yethu ingase izizwe ihlasimuliswa yinjabulo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lapho sisebudlelwaneni lapho othile ehlale esibeka phansi sizizwa sinesicefe, sidabukile, sibuhlungu, noma singelutho. Umzimba wethu ungasabela ngokuthuthumela, ukungathandi ukudla, noma ukuzizwa ungaphathekile kahle. Le yindlela yemizimba yethu yokusitshela okuthile okungazizwa kahle.
Ukuzihlonipha ukwazi ukuthi ungubani
Ngakho-ke into yokuqala engingayisho kwiklayenti elifuna impendulo yemibuzo engenhla ukuthi "uyazihlonipha futhi uyazithanda?" Uyabona, ukuzihlonipha ukwazi ukuthi ungubani. Manje ungubani?
Ingabe ungumuntu othanda ukuzijabulisa nongumuntu othanda ukuzijabulisa? Ngabe ungumuntu osazama ukuthola indawo yabo empilweni? Lapho sesazi futhi sizethemba ukuthi singobani singaqala ukuthola ukuthi yini esiyidingayo ebudlelwaneni bethu.
Izeluleko ezi-5 zokuthi ungamfundisa kanjani umlingani wakho ukuthi ufuna ukuphathwa kanjani
1. Zithande futhi uzihloniphe
Zazi ukuthi ungubani. Yazi isici osithandayo ngawe, wazi amaphutha akho futhi ubathande nabo. Lapho uzithanda kakhulu futhi uziphatha ngenhlonipho abanye bazolandela.
2. Funda ukuthi cha
Lokhu kuyakhohlisa. Engikushoyo uma ngithi funda ukuthi cha kwesinye isikhathi sizithola sisezimeni lapho sihlala sithi yebo.
Lokhu kunganikeza abantu isithombe sokuthi bangahamba phezu kwakho. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuthi cha kusho ukuthi ubeka wena kuqala. Manje, angiqondile uma umngani esesimweni esiphuthumayo futhi akufonele bese wena ubenqaba ngokuthi cha.
Kalula nje, ngisho ukuthi kuzoba nezikhathi lapho uzodinga ukuzibeka wena kuqala uthi cha. Lokhu kuzofundisa abanye ukuthi isikhathi sakho sibalulekile futhi nabo bazosihlonipha kakhulu.
3. Funda ukungasabeli ngokomzwelo
Ukuzihlonipha ukufunda ukuxhumana ngendlela engasebenzi futhi engangqubuzani.
Ngikholelwa kakhulu ukuthi sinamandla nje ngendlela esiphendula ngayo ukwehlisa umlingani wethu futhi sengeze isimo. Lapho uzibhala kakhudlwana futhi ungasabeli kahle ngokwengeziwe lapho uzihlonipha ngokwengeziwe.
4. Ukubeka imingcele
Lapho usufunde ukuthi ungubani nokuthi ufunani ebudlelwaneni uqala ukusetha izindinganiso zakho.
Lawa mazinga amanani, izinkolelo, kanye nokulindela onakho ngokwakho kulobu budlelwano. Le mingcele iphoqelela lawo mazinga nokuzihlonipha. Ufundisa abantu ukuthi bakuphathe kanjani ngalokho ozokubekezelela.
5. Yiba nokubekezela
Okokugcina, ushintsho alwenzeki ngobusuku obubodwa. Zibekezelele wena kanye nenqubo yokuzithanda nokuhlonipha. Kuzothatha isikhathi futhi ukhiye konke kungaphakathi kuwe.