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- 1. Ingabe “wena”
- 2. Gxila ezenzweni zakho; Hhayi eyakhe
- 3. Zibophezele ekwethembekeni komuntu siqu
- 4. Hlela kusengaphambili
- 5. Makube mnene
Lapho umbhangqwana udonsa kanzima emshadweni wawo, into yokugcina abafuna ukugxila kuyo yisikhumbuzo somshado wabo. Futhi imibuzo iqala ukuzungeza ezingqondweni zabo:
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Imigubho yomshado ingadala ukwesaba nokudideka lapho umshado usematheni. Kungasenza sibuze yonke into esicabanga ukuthi siyiyo okufanele ukwenze noma esikwenzile eminyakeni edlule.
Nanka amasu amahlanu okusinda ukuze udlule osukwini, uphathe imizwa yakho, uhlale uthembekile kuwe, uhloniphe izidingo zakho futhi mhlawumbe uzizwe uthokozile ngakho:
1. Ingabe “wena”
Hlela okuthile okuzondla wena ngosuku lwesikhumbuzo sakho. Hhayi okwakho njengombhangqwana, kodwa okwakho uqobo, ukuze nibe sendaweni ezolile engokomzwelo yanoma yini enye ephethwe usuku lonke. Iya e-spa ukuze uthole massage ende. Songa inkomishi yekhofi enhle, ingubo efudumele, nencwadi enhle. Yidla isidlo sasemini nentombi ebilokhu ikuthanda futhi ikusekela.
2. Gxila ezenzweni zakho; Hhayi eyakhe
Kwesinye isikhathi lapho kunokungqubuzana phakathi kwezithandani ngosuku lokugubha usuku lwazo, baba novalo lokungenzi okwanele ukwazisa usuku kepha banqikaze ukunikela kakhulu futhi kungenzeka bathumele umlayezo ongalungile. Esimweni esinjalo, yenza okuhle kuwe, ngaphandle kokukucabanga ngokweqile. Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi uzozihumusha kanjani lezo zenzo noma azizwe ngakho. Ukuphendula noma ukutolika kwakhe akusiyo ibhizinisi lakho; inhloso yakho nokulandela okuzwakala kukuhle kuwe ibhizinisi lakho.
3. Zibophezele ekwethembekeni komuntu siqu
Thembeka kuwe ngokwakho mayelana nokuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi yini okwazi ngokomzwelo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi esithile. Thembeka kuwe uqobo mayelana nalokho okudingayo futhi ungesabi ukukusho lokho kwabanye, ukuze bakwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho. Okokugcina, thembeka kulokho okuveza kumlingani wakho; yabelana kuphela ngemizwa yothando ezizwa iqotho futhi iyiqiniso kuwe ukuze ungazikhapheli.
4. Hlela kusengaphambili
Cabanga ngawe ubhekise ikhanda phansi komcamelo wakho ukuze ekugcineni ulale ubusuku besikhumbuzo sakho. Njengoba uqala ukulala, yimaphi amagama amathathu achazayo achaza indlela ofuna ukuzizwa ngayo kulowo mzuzu: Okuqukethwe? Ukuziqhenya? Ukhululiwe? Nginethemba? Unokuthula? Qala usuku ngokubeka inhloso yokuthi lapho lolu suku seluqediwe, uzozwa ukuthi uhlose ukuzizwa kanjani futhi uzobe ukhombisile njengowesifazane obufuna ukuba namuhla.
5. Makube mnene
Uyazi ukuthi uyifaka kanjani yonke le ngcindezi yoNyaka Omusha minyaka yonke futhi wenze izinhlelo ezinkulu kuphela ukuze udumazeke? Noma kumnandi, akukaze kubonakale kuphila ngokuxokozela nengcindezi. Kuyafana nangesikhumbuzo sakho lapho umshado wakho udonsa kanzima. Ungayifaki ingcindezi enkulu ngandlela thile. Ungacabangi ukuthi kuzoba okumangazayo noma okwehlisayo. Musa ukubeka isisindo sokulungisa okugqekeziwe ngosuku olulodwa. Makube mnene. Ake sivele ngokomzimba. Makuzizwe njengokukhuliswa futhi kugcwaliswe ngokukhululeka ngangokunokwenzeka
Usuku olulodwa ngeke lupholise izinyanga noma iminyaka yobuhlungu emshadweni, ukwenza kanjalo empeleni kukusethela ukwehluleka nokudumazeka. Kungaba usuku, noma kunjalo, lapho uziphatha khona uqobo nobudlelwano ngomusa, ngozwela, ngokwethembeka nangezinhloso. Kungaba wusuku olukushiya uzizwe uziqhenya ngendlela owaziphatha ngayo nawe uqobo. Kungaba ngisho usuku oluvula kahle umnyango wokuthi unyaka olandelayo womshado wakho uzizwe wehluke kakhulu kunonyaka wokugcina womshado wakho.