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- Amasu okubhekana nezinkinga
- Uvalo nezinyembezi
- Yehlisa umdlalo
- Ukusondelana ngokobulili
- Ukuphulukiswa ngokocansi
- Elula futhi enamandla
Uma owakwakho ayeyisisulu sobuntwana noma sokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kwentsha, kungenzeka ukuthi uletha ngokungazi eminye yemiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa kwakhe embhedeni womshado. Kungaba yinto edidayo futhi ekhungathekisayo kini nobabili, nizigxeke nina noma omunye komunye ngokungabi bikho kokuxhumana nokusondelana ongakwazi ukukuchaza. Kodwa-ke, kunezindlela ongameseka ngazo ukuze azizwe ephephile futhi ethandwa ukuze akwazi ukuvula amava ajulile futhi acebile okusondelana ngokocansi.
Amasu okubhekana nezinkinga
Lapho izingane zisongelwa nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuziphatha okungafanele, noma ngabe usongo lukhona noma cha, zifunda ukuzivikela. Bangase baqinise imizimba yabo, bathole izindlela zokuba “bangabonakali,” noma benze ngokuvukela. Imvamisa, lezi ziphathamandla zingena kwi-psyche futhi zithwalwa zinganakile empilweni yabantu abadala. Kuthatha isikhathi, isibindi, nokubekezela ukukhululeka ekuziphatheni okuvikelayo, kepha kungenzeka ukukuchitha ngempumelelo futhi ukhululeke ukujabulela impilo yobulili obujabulisayo.
Uvalo nezinyembezi
Akunandaba ukuthi ukuthanda kangakanani futhi ufuna impilo enhle yezocansi nawe, isidingo sokungazi lutho sokuzivikela singadala ukwesaba okuxakayo, izinyembezi, nemingcele lapho usondela kuye ucansi. Ukuthokoza kwakho kowesilisa ngokwemvelo kungazizwa njengengcindezi uma evala ukuphendula kwakhe kwangaphakathi. Umphumela ungaba ukuthi mhlawumbe uyakududula noma athi yebo lapho esho cha.
Yehlisa umdlalo
Indlela yokuqala ongameseka ngayo ukukhuluma ngakho. Vula imigqa yokuxhumana nokuqonda, umazise ukuthi ufuna ukumeseka futhi uzimisele ukubakhona nanoma yini eyenzekayo. Uma kuvela imizwa engenangqondo, vele ube naye futhi umkhuthaze ukuthi azwe noma yini ayizwayo. Ngokungenzeka, akumayelana nawe, ngakho-ke ungakuthathi njengokwakho. Imvamisa kukhona ukuthambekela kokufuna ukwenza umzwelo usho okuthile, kepha kungahle kungahambisani neze nezimo zamanje. Akunasidingo sokunikeza indaba noma idrama. Mmeme ukuthi azizwe nje kunokufaka imizwa emuva, futhi lokho kuzokunika ithuba lokukhulula futhi kusule.
Ukusondelana ngokobulili
Indlela yesibili ongameseka ngayo ukudala izikhathi zokusondelana nezinkanuko ezingenanhloso yocansi. Mnike isikhathi sokuzifudumeza futhi umyeke aqaphele ngokuthinta, ukuqabula, nokuhaha ngaphandle kohlelo. Setha lezi zikhathi ngesivumelwano somlomo sokuthi azikona ngezocansi, kepha ngokwakha ukusondelana. Njengoba nakha ukusondelana ndawonye, nakha nokuphepha nokwethembana, okuyizisekelo eziqinile zobudlelwano bezocansi obujabulisayo.
Ukuphulukiswa ngokocansi
Indlela yesithathu ongameseka ngayo ukummemela endaweni yokuphola emnene egxile kuye. Kulesi simo, uzobe esesimeni sokulalela, esincishisiwe. Ungahlala ubheke kuye imilenze yakhe isongwe ngaphezu kweyakho, kungaba etafuleni lokubhucunga, embhedeni, noma phansi. Qiniseka ukuthi uphakeme ngokwanele ukugcina ukubheka kwamehlo nawe ngaphandle kobunzima. Mazise ukuthi manje lesi sikhathi ukuthi athole nje uthando namandla akho okuphulukisa. Yiba khona naye futhi umbheke emehlweni.
Cela imvume yokubeka izandla zakho emzimbeni wakhe, futhi uma evuma, beka isandla esisodwa ngobumnene phezu kwesikhungo senhliziyo yakhe (phakathi kwamabele akhe) nesinye esiswini sakhe esingezansi bese usiphumuza lapho uthule. Njengoba eyekelela ekwamukeleni, cela ukuthi ungabeka isandla phezu kwendawo yakhe yezitho zangasese, futhi uma ethi yebo, susa isandla esiswini sakhe bese usibeka ngobumnene phezu kwendunduma yakhe. Umqondo awukona ukuvuselela indawo, kepha ukuletha ubukhona namandla okuphulukisa.
Ngesandla esisodwa esikhungweni senhliziyo nesinye esikhungweni sakhe sezocansi, phefumula futhi umumemele naye ukuthi aphefumule. Hlala ukhona nanoma yini eyenzekayo, noma ngabe kuzwakala sengathi akukho okwenzekayo. Uma kuphakama imizwa, mmeme ukuthi ayizwe ngokugcwele futhi azihambise. Mbuze ukuthi angathanda yini ukuthi izandla zakho zibe kwenye indawo emzimbeni wakhe futhi zilandele ukuqondiswa kwakhe. Hlala nayo ize izwakale iphelele.
Elula futhi enamandla
Lokhu kuphulukiswa okulula, okunamandla kungaletha imizwa nezinkumbulo okungenzeka ukuthi zangcwatshwa isikhathi eside. Yize kungahle kubonakale kungathandeki ukuvusa izinto kusuka kokwedlule, empeleni kuyazuzisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Angadinga ukwesekwa okungeziwe kochwepheshe ukumsiza ahlele konke okuvelayo. Njengoba ivela, ingakhishwa futhi yelashwe, futhi uzobe esendleleni eya ekuvulekeni futhi atholakalele ubudlelwano bezocansi obunothando, obujabulisayo nobuxhumene.