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- Ukuguqula amandla okusondelana
- Imikhuba emihle yokuxhumana
- Izikhathi ezikhethekile ezihleliwe
- Thola izindlela ezintsha zokukhulisa ubudlelwano
Akukho okungalungiselela noma ngubani impilo ngemuva kwezingane. Ungazifunda zonke izincwadi, bese uthola izeluleko kubangani, kepha kuze kube uyakuphila, okuningi kwalokho ozokufunda nokukuzwa ngeke nje kube nengqondo. Mhlawumbe indawo enkulu yokulimala kwesibambiso ebudlelwaneni ngemuva kwezingane ukusondelana. Noma ngabe kungenxa yezinkinga zesimo somzimba iningi labesifazane elihlangabezana nalo ngemuva kokuthola umntwana, izingqinamba zokuguga zemvelo amadoda nabesifazane ababhekana nazo njengoba sikhula, noma nje ukuthi sikhathele kakhulu, ukusondelana akungabazeki ukuthi kuzoba yindawo ethinteke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ukuguqula amandla okusondelana
Okokuqala kubalulekile ukubheka ukuguquguquka kwamandla okusondelana njengoba ubuhlobo bukhula. Njengoba ubuhlobo bukhula, kanjalo nokujula kokusondelana kwakho kuyakhula. Ubulili buzohlala bunendawo ekhethekile ebudlelwaneni njengoba buhlobene nekhono labashadikazi lokuzizwa besondelene. Kodwa-ke, izinto eziseqhulwini zizoshintsha, kanjalo nezindlela umlingani wakho angakubonisa ngazo ukuthi uyakuthanda nokuthi ukhethekile kubo.
Isibonelo, ungesabi ukukhombisa uthando lwakho nothando ngezindlela ezilula, ezimnandi. Umbhalo osheshayo othi, "Ngiyakuthanda!" izokwenza ibanga elide ukwenza umlingani wakho azizwe ethandwa futhi eziswa. Kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, shono ekubatsheleni izinto ozithandayo ngabo, njengokuthi bakusiza kanjani ngezingane noma ukugcina ikhaya lihamba kahle, noma ukuthi uyakuthanda lapho bekuhlikihla emhlane noma begonona ngesikhathi sokulala.
Futhi ngeke kungabonakali uma uvuka ekuseni nabo ukuze wabelane ngesidlo sasekuseni, noma upake isidlo sabo sasemini ngenothi elikhethekile lothando elitshela umlingani wakho ukuthi ubazisa kangakanani. Ukwengeza isinongo esincane, mhlawumbe ungabatshela ukuthi ubheke phambili ukubabona futhi ngalobobusuku ukuze uthole “isikhathi esikhethekile” esithe xaxa.
Imikhuba emihle yokuxhumana
Ukukhulumisana okuhle kubalulekile ekugcineni umshado uphila futhi unempilo. Ngemuva kwezingane, imibhangqwana ivame ukungitshela ukuthi itholakala emakhasini ahlukene maqondana nezindlela zabazali. Akukaze kwephuze kakhulu ukuhlala phansi nixoxe ngalezi zinto ukuthola ukuvumelana nokwakha ubambiswano. Ayikho indlela engcono yokudlala ngothando ebudlelwaneni kunokuxabana ulwe nezingane. Akuyona nje kuphela into enobuthi kwezothando nokusondelana, kodwa futhi kuyindlela enhle yokulahlekelwa ukulawula izingane zakho zihlangene. Lapho ngokwethula ngokwengeziwe njengobumbano olubumbene ezinganeni zakho, kulapho niyozuza kangcono njengomndeni.
Izikhathi ezikhethekile ezihleliwe
Imvamisa, siphuthelwa amathuba wesikhathi sangasese “sesikhathi esikhethekile” ngenxa yezikhathi ezimatasa. Ungesabi ukuhlela isikhathi esikhethekile ndawonye. Splurge kumuntu ogcina ingane kanye ngenyanga, noma usebenze neminye imibhangqwana enezingane zokuhweba ukunakekelwa kwezingane ubusuku bosuku. Ukuthi kuhlelwe akusho ukuthi ngeke kube okukhethekile. Kuzoba kuhle ngoba nobabili nizinika isikhathi sokunakekelana futhi nigcina ubudlelwane benu buphelele.
Uma ninesikhathi esingaphazanyiswanga ndawonye, zama ukugcina ingxoxo ikhanya, futhi nigxile othandweni lwenu nasebudlelwaneni benu. Ngubani ongakuthandi lapho uNowa etshela u-Allie indaba yothando lwabo ku- “The Notebook”? Zinike isikhathi sokuxoxela omunye nomunye indaba yenu yothando. Lapho ngisebenza nemibhangqwana ekwelulekeni, ngichitha isikhathi esisodwa ngaphambi kokuba imibhangqwana yenze le nto ngqo. Isizathu sokuqala esenza lokhu ukuthi ngibasize baqinise isisekelo sobudlelwano babo, baphinde bazibambe lezo zinto ezazibakhanga ekuqaleni.
Imvamisa imibhangqwana izongitshela kamuva ukuthi umlingani wayo washo izinto phakathi naleso sivivinyo ababengakaze bazazi noma bazizwe ngaphambili, njengokubonana kwabo kokuqala, noma ukuthi bazi kanjani ukuthi omunye ukhona. Kaningi kunalokho, imibhangqwana ithi ibabuyisela emuva esikhathini “seziqhumane nezivemvane” abafisa kakhulu ukuphinde bazithole.
Thola izindlela ezintsha zokukhulisa ubudlelwano
Akunandaba ukuthi ubenesikhathi esingakanani uhleli nomlingani wakho, kubalulekile ukuthi uthole izindlela zakho ezincane zokukhulisa ubudlelwano bakho ukuze umlingani wakho azizwe ethandwa futhi ethandwa. Njengoba nje unganisela futhi wondle isitshalo sakho osithandayo, kanjalo nobudlelwano bakho kufanele bufakwe ngezikhathi zokuzibandakanya ukuze bunganciphisi amandla abo wokuchuma.