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- 1. Ukuthinta okungabonakali kangako ngokomzimba
- 2. Isikhathi sokomunye nomunye
- 3. Ukwenza kunokuba umane ube
- 4. Isimanga!
- 5. Khuluma impilo
Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthola indlela yokukhombisa uthando lwakho kumuntu wakho. Imvamisa kungazwakala sengathi senze izinto ezifanayo kaninginingi size sikhathazeke. Futhi uma uzizwa unesithukuthezi, ukucabanga okungokwemvelo ukukholelwa ukuthi naye unesithukuthezi! Kuleli qophelo emshadweni kubalulekile ukuthola ubuciko. Ziningi izindlela zokukhombisa owesilisa ukuthi uthandwa futhi waziswa kangakanani; uhlu alupheli futhi alunamkhawulo.
1. Ukuthinta okungabonakali kangako ngokomzimba
Kungabukeka kuwubuwula ukufaka ukuthinta okwenziwe ngamabomu ebuhlotsheni bakho nomyeni wakho. Ukuxhumana ngokocansi nokusondelana ngokomzimba kuyingxenye yemvelo yomshado, ngakho-ke kubonakala kusobala kakhulu ukuthi lokhu kungaba yindlela yokukhombisa owesilisa wakho uthando. Kodwa-ke, lokho abesifazane abaningi abahluleka ukukukhomba yizidingo ezingezona ezocansi zamadoda abo! Ukugona, ukugonana, ukudansa ndawonye, ukubambana ngezandla - amadoda ajabulela ukuthintwa ngokomzimba nabalingani bawo njengendlela yokubonisa uthando kungenzeka aphendule kahle kunoma yikuphi kwalokhu okukhethwa kukho! Yiba nobuciko ngezindlela ohlanganyela ngazo nomyeni wakho. Unganikela ngokubhucunga umzimba noma ukugonona ebusuku, kepha kuthiwani ngomdlalo wethegi noma ukuhamba ngesandla uye esitolo sokudla esiseduze noma esitolo esikahle ukuze uthathe i-soda? Lezi zenzo zomzimba, noma zingabizi noma zimbi, zingakhuluma kakhulu.
2. Isikhathi sokomunye nomunye
Kulula kakhulu ukulahleka ekushintsheni kwempilo yansuku zonke. Okubonakala njengesikhathi esichithwa komunye nomunye kudliwe ngezikhathi zokugcina, amashejuli, ukuhlanza, ukupheka, kanye nomsebenzi owabelwe. Ame adonse umoya. Ngeke nje uhlomule ngokuyeka lezi zixakaxaka, kodwa futhi nomshado wakho uzozuza kanjalo. Lapho uchitha isikhathi nomyeni wakho, yiba nenhloso. Akudingeki ukhulume noma wenze okuthile okungajwayelekile, kodwa hlelani ukusisebenzisa kahle isikhathi sindawonye. Mnike indawo yokukhuluma noma yokuba nothando. Nge-spin eyingqayizivele ngaphezulu, yiba nento ebonakalayo emele ukuvala umhlaba wonke uphume. Isibonelo, ukusebenzisa ibhokisi ukulahla omakhalekhukhwini benu ngenkathi nichitha lesi sikhathi sindawonye - awekho amaselula asho isikhathi esithe xaxa kini nobabili!
3. Ukwenza kunokuba umane ube
Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ekhungatheka khona futhi nokuthola isikhathi sokubonisa uthando kungazizwa kucindezela. Esikhundleni sokulinda kuze kube uyatholakala, yenza eminye yemisebenzi yakhe ukumkhombisa ukuthi usazisa kangakanani isikhathi onaso yenza chitha ndawonye. Khanyisa umthwalo wakhe ngokukhipha udoti uma ephuze ukufika emsebenzini noma ngokuqinisekisa ukuthi isidlo sasebusuku siyashisa futhi sisetafuleni lapho efika ekhaya. Sika utshani uma ufika ekhaya ngaphambi kwesikhathi obekulindelwe; cishe uzokhululeka ngokuthi angabe esakhathazeka ngomunye umsebenzi lapho efika ekhaya kusihlwa. Uyazi ukuthi isikhathi sakho sibaluleke njengaso, futhi uzokwazisa ukusebenza kwakho kanzima futhi abe nesikhathi esiningi sokubonisa uthando.
4. Isimanga!
Akukho lutho oluthi 'ngiyakuthanda' njengesipho esifike ngesikhathi. Noma ngabe isixha sezimbali noma ithokheni elincane elimkhumbuza wena, umuntu wakho kungenzeka ukuthi ulunge kakhulu ekutholeni isipho esiphelele sezinsuku ezithile ezingahleliwe kakhulu. Ukunikeza izipho akuyona nje into yomuntu! Ukumnika isipho esiyingqayizivele nesikhethekile kungakhombisa ukuthi ubaluleke kangakanani kuwe. Ukuze ube nobuciko ngokwengeziwe, ungasetha ukuzingela okokukhwabanisa ngezinkomba. Umklomelo ungaba yinto elula njengebhaki elisanda kubhakwa lamakhukhi awathandayo noma umangaze ngeqembu elisha legalufu owaziyo ukuthi ubhekwe ngamehlo. Izipho akudingeki zibize ukuze zisho okuthile - yize kungalimazi ukuchitha okuningi kuye njalo kanye ngesikhashana!
5. Khuluma impilo
Ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye, ukukhuluma amagama okuphila kumuntu wakho kuyisibonakaliso esingenakuqhathaniswa sothando nothando. Nguwe kuphela ongashukumisa imizwa yakhe futhi uvuse imicabango yakhe ngezindlela ozenzayo. Ukusebenzisa amagama akhuthazayo nokuphimisela okuhle kungaba nomthelela ohlala njalo emshadweni wakho. Ngakho-ke ukwenza kanjani lokhu ngobuciko? Ukukhuluma kulula ngokwanele, kepha qamba! Fihla incwadi yothando esikhwameni sakhe noma ubhale umlayezo esibukweni ngemuva kokugeza kwakho. Lapho ebona amagama owabhalile, inhliziyo yakhe izokhungatheka ngokwazi ukuthi ucabanga kangakanani ngaye futhi umthande.
Njengethiphu, naka ukuthi ukukhombisa kanjani uthando uqobo. Uma uphendula ngokumbonisa uthando ngezindlela ezifanayo, ungabona ushintsho olukhulu ekushiseni komshado wakho. Okungahle kubonakale kusivivi njengamanje nakanjani kuzoshisa uma umuntu wakho ezwa ethandwa futhi eziswa ngezindlela ezihlukile nezikhethekile!