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Lesi sikhathi sonyaka njengoba ucarol esho, kungaba yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sonyaka. Kodwa-ke futhi kungaba yisikhathi esinengcindezi enkulu onyakeni, kepha ngiyabona ukuthi lokho bekungeke kuyenzele ingoma emnandi. Noma kunjalo, lesi sikhathi sonyaka singaba nengcindezi enkulu uma kukhulunywa ngomndeni, kanye nemibuthano eyandisiwe yomndeni. Phonsa ezimangalisweni zonyaka wokhetho kanye netafula lesidlo sakusihlwa lingashuba impela. Noma ngabe ingcindezi yakho ivela ekuzameni ukugwema ingxoxo ethile noma ukuzama ukusinda izinsuku ezimbalwa ngaphandle kokuthola impikiswano eshubile noma ukulahlekelwa ingqondo, nazi izeluleko ezine zokubeka imingcele enempilo phakathi kwamaholide, nempilo ngokujwayelekile.
1. Isikhathi
Ukuchitha isikhathi nomndeni kungaba kuhle, futhi / noma kungacindezela, yingakho kubalulekile ukwazi umkhawulo wakho. Noma ngabe amahora amathathu noma izinsuku ezintathu yazi ukuthi ungachitha isikhathi esingakanani kulezo zimo ngaphambi kokuzibophezela ukuthi uzohlala isikhathi esingakanani ngamaholide. Uma ukuba nomndeni wakho kukwenza ungakhululeki noma ucindezeleke ngemuva kwengxenye yosuku, bese uhlela ngokufanele.
Ukulungisa isikhathi kungaba nzima kubantu ngenxa yokuthi "bekulokhu kwenziwa kanjani", kepha uma isimo esivele sinjalo sikudalele ingcindezi nokukhungatheka onyakeni, lapho-ke kungahle kube yisikhathi sokwenza okuhle kakhulu impilo yakho yengqondo . Ukwenza impilo yakho yengqondo ibaluleke kakhulu ngokubeka imingcele ngesikhathi kungasho ukuthi ubonakale ngemuva kosuku noma ushiye usuku kusenesikhathi. Kungase ngisho kusho ukuthatha imoto ehlukile kunelinye ilungu lakho elibalulekile noma ilungu lomndeni ojwayele ukuhamba nalo. Noma ngabe kuyini, yazi umkhawulo wakho bese uhlela okuzungezile.
2.Izihloko Zokuxoxa
Abanye basebenzisa isikhathi sabo etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa behlebeza bethi “ngicela ungakhulumi ngezepolitiki, noma yini ngaphandle kwepolitiki.” Ikakhulukazi uma behleli eduze kukamalume wabo ocwasa ngokwebala ongumuntu omenyezelwe njengomuntu ovulelekile emqondweni.
Noma ngabe kuyipolitiki, ukukhetha umsebenzi, amalungu omndeni, imibuzo yokuthi uzoba nezingane nini, ikutshela ukuthi ungazikhulisa kanjani izingane zakho, noma yiziphi ezinye zezihloko ezimnandi ezikwenza ucabange ukukhohlisa noma ukwenza iholide oya kulo, kubalulekile ukuthi bazi ukuthi ziyini nokuthi ungazigwema kanjani. Ukuthola izindlela zokuguqula isihloko ngomusa, noma ukubhekana neqiniso lokuthi ukhetha ukungakhulumi ngakho kungaba nzima, kodwa futhi kuyadingeka. Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuya endaweni engaba khona yempi yamaholide zikhumbuze ngezihloko ozohlala ucacile kuzo nokuthi uhlela ukukwenza kanjani lokho. Uma usebudlelwaneni bokuzijwayeza nomlingani wakho kungaba yindlela enhle yokuzilungiselela. Ngikufisela inhlanhla.
3. Isikhala
Noma uvakashela amaholidi, kulungile ukuzitholela isikhathi nendawo. Amaholide angaduma kakhulu, noma ngabe yizingane ezigijimayo noma umkhulu ngemuva kokufaka i-rum eningi ku-eggnog yakhe. Uma indawo yeholide iqala ukukwenza uzizwe ungakhululekile futhi ucindezelekile kungahle kube yisikhathi sokuzishayelela uhambo lokuhamba, uhambe ngemoto, noma ucashe egumbini elingenalutho ukuze ufunde incwadi. Ungathola futhi ihhotela noma uhlale kwenye indawo. Ukwazi ukuthi kulungile ukuhlala kwenye indawo noma uthathe ikhefu nokubuyela emuva kungasusa ukukhathazeka okuningi ngamaholide.
4. Ngokomzwelo
Ngalesi sikhathi sonyaka kungaba nzima ukujabula uma unamalungu omndeni ahlala ethola izindlela zokukwenza uzizwe ungalungile, noma engeza idrama ethe xaxa empilweni yakho owake wayifuna. Kungakuletha phakathi kwengxabano yomndeni, ukuzizwa unecala (mhlawumbe ngokubeka imingcele enempilo), ukuba nolaka, noma ezinye izinto ezahlukahlukene. Ukwenza izinyathelo zangaphambilini kungasiza ukukhawulela okuningi kwalezi zinto, kepha uma uzwa sengathi amaholidi abelokhu ethinta imizwa kungahle kube yisikhathi sokukhuluma nomuntu futhi usethe okulindelekile onakho ngalesi sikhathi samaholide nakweminyaka woza. Ukukhuluma uthi “ngingajabula uma singazange sikhulume ngalokhu ...” kungakusindisa ekhanda eliseduze nemizwa ebuhlungu.
Isiphetho
Ukubeka imingcele enempilo kungaba nzima ngoba imizwa yabantu ingalimala lapho kwenziwa lokho. Lapho ubeka imingcele kwesinye isikhathi kubalulekile ukukhuluma nomuntu ngalokho okwenzekayo. Zama ukukwenza ngawe hhayi ngabo, futhi ubazise ukuthi uyabakhathalela nokuthi wenza okungcono kakhulu empilweni yakho. Uma beqhubeka nokwephula imingcele yakho kwesinye isikhathi kungcono ubachazele ukuthi kungani ubeka imingcele.
Ukubeka imingcele enempilo kusho ukuhlonipha nokubazisa ukuthi ukukhetha kwabo kuzobuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano. Azenzelwe ukwenziwa ngendlela ebenza bazizwe kabi. Esikhundleni salokho ubeka okulindelwe futhi unethemba lokuthi bayakuhlonipha. Kwesinye isikhathi amalungu omndeni angaze abonisane nawe mayelana nokuthi ungaziphatha kanjani izinto noma ukuthi ungabasiza kanjani lapho bewela emaphethini amadala. Ukuba nengxoxo namalungu omndeni nokubeka imingcele enempilo kuzosiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka kwakho, futhi mhlawumbe kukwenze nesikhathi esihle kakhulu sonyaka.