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- Isikhathi esiningi sindawonye sivula indlela yezimpikiswano
- Ukuncika okukhulu kokubambisana
- Ukwehlukana kungasiza imibhangqwana ukuba ilulame ekungathembekini
- Ukwehlukana kuvuselela uthando emshadweni
- Ukubeka imingcele
- Ukwehlukana kuthuthukisa ukuxhumana
“Ingabe ukuhlala ngokwehlukana kungakulungela umshado?” umbuzo ophakamise amashiya amaningi. Abantu abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi ngabe kukhona ukwehlukana okungahle kusindise ubudlelwano obwehlulekayo. Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi, yebo, “Ukwehlukana kungasiza impela ukuthi izithandani zihlale ndawonye”.
Sivame ukucabanga ukuthi kubi lapho umbhangqwana ungahlali ndawonye. Sijwayele ukubona ukwehlukana njengento esetshenziswa kakhulu yimibhangqwana efinyelele ezingeni lapho ukwehlukana kungenakugwenywa. Ukwehlukaniswa sikubona kuyicebo elisetshenziswe ngemuva kokuthi kusungulwe konke ubuqili namasu okubuyisa umshado. Iningi lethu likholelwa ukuthi lapho sizwa umlingani wethu eshiya kude nathi, kufanele sihlangane futhi sihlangane kakhudlwana ukuze sisondele kuye ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi senze okungaphezulu kokwanele ukwenza umshado usebenze.
Umcabango wokwehlukanisa noma ukudala ibanga ngasikhathi ubeka ukwesaba okukhulu kokulahlekelwa ubudlelwano ezingqondweni zezithandani kepha kungasebenza kakhulu ekubuyiseni izithandani ndawonye.
Yingakho ukwehlukana kungaba kuhle emshadweni:
Isikhathi esiningi sindawonye sivula indlela yezimpikiswano
Ukwehlukana kuwusizo emshadweni lapho wena noshade naye nithola ukuthi ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi kakhulu kuyimbangela yokungezwani kwenu, izimpikiswano kanye nezingxabano. Izimpikiswano ezinempilo ziyadingeka ukwenza ubudlelwano noma umshado usebenze. Kepha, lapho izingxabano zanda kakhulu futhi zenzeka njalo, kungaholela ekuhlukumezeni nasekuthukeni. Izimpikiswano nezingxabano ngaleso sikhathi azisasebenzi futhi azisebenzi, kunalokho akunampilo futhi akwenzeki.
Ukuncika okukhulu kokubambisana
Kuwo wonke umshado, imibhangqwana kwesinye isikhathi ithembela komunye nomunye ngomqondo wokuthi ithembele komunye nomunye kukho konke. Lokhu kusho ukuthi balahlekelwe ubunikazi babo futhi sebethathe ubuntu bomlingani wabo esikhundleni salokho. Lokhu kwenza umlingani ngamunye azizwe sengathi akakwazi ukuzimela ngezinyawo zakhe, okungukuthi, bobabili abalingani abazizwa bezimele futhi bazizwa bengaphelele ngaphandle komunye nomunye.
Ungase ucabange ukuthi lokhu kuzwakala sengathi kufanele abantu abashadile bajabule kanjani, kodwa ngeshwa, akunjalo! Ozakwethu abangenabo ubuntu babo baqala ukuba namahloni ngophathina babo, okungadala izindaba ezinkulu nezinselelo ebudlelwaneni. Isikhathi esihlukanisiwe singasiza umbhangqwana ukuba ubuyise ubuntu bawo ukuze kuthi lapho ethatha isinqumo sokuhlangana bobabili babe nengqondo nomoya wabo ohlukile futhi ozimele ukufaka isandla kakhulu emshadweni.
Ukwehlukana kungasiza imibhangqwana ukuba ilulame ekungathembekini
Ukwehlukana nakho kuhle futhi kuyalulekwa uma omunye wabalingani ekhohlise omunye. Ukugcina ibanga isikhashana kungasiza abalingani babuyise izingqondo nemimoya yabo. Umlingani okopelile uzizwa ezisola futhi edabukile ngalokhu akwenzile. Ukwehlukana kumnika ithuba lokucabanga futhi avume amaphutha akhe futhi awalungise. Ubuye abone ukuthi ulimaze umlingani wakhe futhi udinga ukucela intethelelo. Okwamanje, umlingani owakhashelwa uzokwazi ukuqoqa imicabango nemibono yakhe nokuthi enzeni. Ukuba sezakhiweni zomlingani ongathembekile kungenza umlingani okhashelwe abe nolaka, adabuke, acasuke futhi acasuke kakhulu okungasizi ukulungisa umshado.
Ukwehlukana kuvuselela uthando emshadweni
Kuthiwa "ukungabi bikho kwenza inhliziyo ikhule ithanda". Ukwehlukana kunezela emshadweni. Ukwehlukana kuphemba kabusha umlilo wothando emshadweni. Akudingeki ukuthi usuke kude noshade naye ukuze uvuselele imizwa efanayo, kepha kuwumqondo omuhle ukuhlukanisa kwesinye isikhathi ukuvusa uthando oluthile emshadweni. Ukuhlukaniswa okulula kweholide noma ukuvakashela umndeni wakho kungasiza ekuvuseleleni nasekuvuseleleni uthando nothando ebudlelwaneni. Uzothola ukuphuthelana okusiza ekwandiseni uthando nentshisekelo ngomunye nomunye ebudlelwaneni.
Ukubeka imingcele
Ukungakhohlwa, ukwehlukana kuyasiza ekubekeni imingcele phakathi kwezithandani. Ukuba nemingcele ecacile ehlanganisiwe kubalulekile ekwakheni ukwethembana phakathi kwabalingani. Ukubeka imingcele kuyasiza ekuchazeni ukuthi ungakanani isikhala onethezekile naso ebudlelwaneni ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba. Imingcele ingaba cishe ngazo zonke izinhlobo zezinto: ukuthi udinga isikhathi esingakanani wedwa, ukuthi ukhululeka kangakanani ukutshela abanye abantu ngobudlelwano bakho nokunye. Ukuqonda imingcele yomunye nomunye kuyasiza uma kukhulunywa ngokwakha ukwethembana ebudlelwaneni. Ukwehlukanisa isikhashana kuyasiza ekubekeni le mingcele.
Ukwehlukana kuthuthukisa ukuxhumana
Okokugcina, ukwahlukana kungaba yithuluzi elinamandla eliveza ukuxhumana okuphumelela kakhulu phakathi kwezithandani. Kuyahlanekezela kepha kungani ukwehlukana kukhulisa ukuxhumana, mhlawumbe ngenxa yezikhathi ezihleliwe ezihlukanisiwe, noma ngenxa yokuphela kwentukuthelo, noma ngomqondo omusha wokuzethemba lapho abalingani baqala ukwazisa abashade nabo futhi baxhumane ngempumelelo nabalingani babo futhi.