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- Wazi kanjani uma udinga ukwelulekwa ngomshado
- Yini ongayilindela ekwelashweni komshado
- Lithini izinga lokuphumelela kokwelapha komshado
Kuvamile ukuthi imibhangqwana ihlehlise ukufuna usizo ize ibe senkingeni ize icabange nokuhlukana.
Lesi akusona isikhathi esifanelekile sokufuna usizo noma ukuthola ukwelashwa komshado! Ngaleso sikhathi, kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani ngamunye ulinyazwe kakhulu ngomunye noma wakhe ulaka olukhulu kumlingani wakhe.
Intukuthelo enjalo yenza kube nzima kubo ukwethemba inqubo ngokwanele ukuqala ukuvumela izindlela ezintsha zokubona ubunzima bobudlelwano babo. Kusho nokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani oyedwa uhoxile ebudlelwaneni ngomzamo wokuzivikela ekulimaleni nasebuhlungwini, futhi lokho kwenza kube nzima ukuthi badilize izindonga zabo baphinde bahlanganyele ebudlelwaneni. Futhi kungenzeka, lezi yizimpawu ezimbalwa ezikhanyayo ozidingayo ukuvakashela umeluleki wezomshado.
Njengoba kushiwo, kuyalulekwa ukuthi ufune usizo futhi uthole ukwelashwa komshado phambilini, lapho ubona ukuthi awukuxazululi ukungaboni ngaso linye ngendlela ephumelelayo futhi kuholela emaphethini wokuziphatha okungafanele komunye nomunye.
Wazi kanjani uma udinga ukwelulekwa ngomshado
Kujwayelekile ukuthi sibe nezingxabano noma umehluko ebudlelwaneni bethu.
Singabantu ababili abahlukene abanezindlela ezahlukene zokucabanga nokubona, kanye nokuncamelayo okuhlukile nezindlela zokwenza izinto. Lokho akumenzi umlingani wakho angalunganga noma abe mubi.
Kepha, kunezingxabano ezithile zomshado ezidinga ukwelulekwa nokwelulekwa ngongoti. Ukwenza ukwelashwa komshado empeleni kungasiza imibhangqwana ukuba idlule ezindabeni ezincane ezinjalo, obekungenzeka ukuthi zonakalise imishado yazo unomphela.
Zimbalwa izimpawu ezivelele emshadweni wakho ezizokutshela ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi udinga ukwelashwa komshado.
- Awutholi isikhathi sokuhlala phansi ube nengxoxo ehloniphekile
- Ugcina ngokuxabana ngezinto ezingasho lutho cishe zonke izinsuku
- Unezimfihlo futhi nomlingani wakho ufihla imininingwane kuwe
- Usola ukuthi umlingani wakho uthandana nomuntu ongashadile naye
- Uzizwa ukhanga komunye umuntu uqobo
- Nobabili nizimisele ngokungathembeki kwezezimali, futhi uhlu luyaqhubeka
Ngakho-ke, kufanele uye nini ekwelashweni kwezithandani? Uma umshado wakho ubheke esimweni esifana nalesi okukhulunywe ngaso kumaphoyinti angenhla, nakanjani udinga ukwelashwa komshado.
Yini ongayilindela ekwelashweni komshado
Kunemibuzo engakukhathaza ngenkathi uthatha isinqumo sokuthi ufuna ukwelashwa komshado noma cha. Ungase ugcine uskena iWorld Wide Web ngemibuzo enjengokuthi, 'Yini okufanele ngiyilindele ekwelashweni komshado?' noma, 'Ingabe ukwelulekwa ngomshado kuwufanele?'
Izibalo zinikeza isithombe esihle mayelana nokwelashwa koMshado. Ngokuya ngocwaningo olwenziwe yi-American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, cishe ama-97% emibhangqwana ehlolwayo ivumile ukuthi iMarter Therapy ibanikeza lonke usizo abaludingayo.
Futhi, ngolwazi lwakho, ukwelashwa komshado kusebenza ngokushesha futhi kudla isikhathi esincane kunokwelulekwa ngazodwana. Kepha, kuncike ekutheni uzimisele kangakanani ukuhlangana nomelaphi ndawonye njengezithandani nokuthi nisamukela kanjani iseluleko someluleki.
Ungalindela imibuzo eminingi yangasese oyibhekiswe kuwe yi-Therapist edinga izimpendulo ezinembile. Kuzodingeka nibonise, nixhumane, futhi nibe nomthwalo wokuqedela izabelo nindawonye njengombhangqwana ukulindela imiphumela engcono ekugcineni kwezikhathi ezabiwe.
Lithini izinga lokuphumelela kokwelapha komshado
Ochwepheshe bezobudlelwano bayavuma ukuthi akukhona ukuthi ngabe kukhona ukungqubuzana emshadweni wakho okubikezela umshado ophumelelayo, kodwa ukuthi nibuya kanjani futhi nilondoloze ukuxhumana kwenu.
Lapho senivumelene nobabili ukuthi nidinga usizo lwangaphandle ekushintsheni izindlela zokuziphatha ezingezinhle, futhi nobabili nizinikele kule nqubo, lapho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi nivulekele ukuthola ulwazi olusha mayelana namaphethini abonwa ngumelaphi.
Okusebenza ezimweni eziningi kakhulu kuyasebenza nalapha.
“Uma ufuna ubuhlobo obufanayo onabo manje, qhubeka wenze lokhu okwenzayo. Uma ufuna ubudlelwane obuhlukile, udinga ukwenza okuhlukile.”
Ngeke kube lula ukushintsha amaphethini akho agxilile, kepha ukwenza kanjalo kungaholela ebudlelwaneni obenelisa kakhulu futhi obujabulisayo.
Futhi, ngolwazi lwakho, isilinganiso sempumelelo esimaphakathi seTherapy egxile Emotionally simi kuma-75% ngokwe-American Psychological Association.