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- Ungadideki phakathi kwe-IQ ne-EQ!
- Ingabe ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kubaluleke kangakanani emshadweni?
- Umshado uyibhokisi eligcwele imizwa ehlukene
- Amadoda ahlakaniphe ngokomzwelo nobuhle bawo
- Uzwela luyinto ebalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo
- Uba kanjani umyeni okhaliphile ngokomzwelo?
- Wonke umuntu uzizwa ngendlela ehlukile
- Hlonipha umehluko wakho
- Isikhala
- Lalela
- Thethelela bese ukhohlwa
Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kuyikhono lokuqonda, ukuphatha, ukuzwelana, nokulawula imizwa yakho neyabanye abantu.
Umuntu ohlakaniphe ngokomzwelo uyakwazi ukukhomba imizwa yakhe kanye neminye ngenkathi futhi elawula ukulawula ukuthi kubathinta kanjani nabanye abaseduze. UDaniel Goleman wadlala indima enkulu ekwenzeni ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo budume.
Uphakamise ukuthi kunezinto ezi-4 eziyinhloko zobuhlakani obungokomzwelo:
- Amakhono omphakathi
- Ukuzazi
- Ukuzilawula
- Nozwela
Ungadideki phakathi kwe-IQ ne-EQ!
I-IQ noma i-quotient yolwazi isho isilinganiso senhloso yekhono lomuntu lokufunda, ukucabanga nokusebenzisa imininingwane kumakhono. Ngenkathi i-EQ ihlobene nokulawula nokuphatha imizwa nemizwa.
Ingabe ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kubaluleke kangakanani emshadweni?
Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nezimfanelo zobuholi ezidingekayo kumabhizinisi aphumelelayo. Kepha iqhaza nokubaluleka kwe-EQ ebudlelwaneni akufanele kubukelwe phansi!
Ukuba nokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo njengekhwalithi kumlingani wokuphila kothile kungavele kukwenze okwakho, futhi izimpilo zabo zibe lula futhi zijabule.
Ukukhalipha ngokomzwelo kukwenza ukwazi ukuqonda imizwa yomlingani wakho futhi ubhekane nayo.
Imvamisa kuba nezingxabano nokuphikisana ngoba omunye wabalingani akakwazi ukuzwa noma ukuzwelana nalokho omunye akuzwayo. Lokhu kuholela ekungaqondini, imibono engafanele ngisho nezenzo noma izinyathelo ezingafuneki, ezingafanelekile.
Umshado uyibhokisi eligcwele imizwa ehlukene
Umona, intukuthelo, ukukhungatheka, ukucasuka futhi uhlu luyaqhubeka. Kubalulekile kubo bobabili abathintekayo ukuthi bakwazi ukulawula imizwa yabo nokuthi bangaba namiphi imiphumela.
Sivame ukubheka abantu ukuthi “abavuthiwe” uma begcina amaphutha abalingani babo bakudala noma amaphutha abo ezinhliziyweni zabo ingunaphakade. Yebo, ukungavuthwa kungaba khona, kepha ukungabi khona kwe-EQ kuyinto efanele ukusho lapha.
Lapho ungakwazi ukunqoba izimo ezingokomzwelo noma ukubuyela emuva, lokho kuyinkomba yokuntula kwakho ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo.
Amadoda ahlakaniphe ngokomzwelo nobuhle bawo
Indoda ehlakaniphile ngokomzwelo ngeke yenqabe noma imelane nokuphazanyiswa ngumkayo noma ithonya lakhe ekuthathweni kwezinqumo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi i-EQ ikusiza ukuthi uhloniphe futhi uhloniphe unkosikazi womlingani wakho.
Esikhathini sanamuhla, abesifazane bazi kakhulu futhi banamandla. Manje sebejwayele ukuba nezwi, yingakho bezofuna izwi elibalulekile kuzo zonke izinqumo ezithathwayo. Lokhu kungaba yinselele kubo bobabili owesilisa nowesifazane emshadweni uma umyeni engenayo i-EQ.
Umshado yisikebhe esingeke siphathwe yinhlangano eyodwa. Ukunganaki imizwa noma imizwa yomkakho, nokuthi uyithinta kanjani, ungalimaza umshado wakho.
Ngobuhlakani obungokomzwelo obungcono, ungaxazulula izingqinamba ngokushesha, ngokuvuthwa nangendlela efanelekile.
Abesifazane, ngokuvamile, kulindeleke ukuthi benze ukuyekethisa okuningi emshadweni kunabesilisa. Futhi banendlela ethambile futhi bayazithoba uma kuqhathaniswa nabesilisa. Uma lokhu kuxegiselwa ngohlangothi olulodwa kuqhubeka isikhashana, kungahle kube nobunzima ebuhlotsheni bakho, kanye nempilo yengqondo yomkakho (ingasaphathwa eyakho).
Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, imizamo kanye nokuyekethisa ukuze umshado usebenze kudinga ukulingana. Ngakho-ke, amadoda ahlakaniphe ngokomzwelo, futhi aqonde, aveze futhi aphathe imizwa yawo kangcono, azobe ephila impilo eyanelisayo yomshado.
Uzwela luyinto ebalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo
Kuyikhono lethu lokuzwa lokho omunye umuntu akuzwayo futhi sikuqonde mathupha. Ayikho into ekwenza ube ngumuntu ongcono futhi osekelayo njengoba kwenza uzwela. Futhi ngesikhathi sokulwa nokuphikisana nokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo ejwayelekile, konke okudingwa ngumkakho ukuthi ube lapho futhi uqonde.
Uba kanjani umyeni okhaliphile ngokomzwelo?
Amadoda kusukela esemncane kakhulu afundiswa ukuthi angabi nemizwa encane futhi agxile kakhulu ekuholeni nasekuwineni. Ngezizathu eziningi zenhlalo nezengqondo, abesilisa abanakho ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo uma kuqhathaniswa nabesifazane. Ngakho-ke ungakwenza kanjani noma yini ongakwenza ukuze ushintshe lokho?
Wonke umuntu uzizwa ngendlela ehlukile
Udinga ukubona futhi wamukele iqiniso lokuthi unkosikazi wakho, noma omunye umuntu, unombono ohlukile nendlela yokubhekana nezinto. Yini engakulunga kahle ingahle ingalungeli umkakho? Zama futhi uqonde umbono wakhe ngakho.
Hlonipha umehluko wakho
Lapho kunokungqubuzana kwemibono noma imibono, hlonipha umehluko. Musa ukululaza imicabango nemibono yakhe.
Isikhala
Isikhala sibalulekile kini nobabili. Lapho kunentukuthelo enkulu, nokukhungatheka kubila, thola ikhefu. Sebenzisa lesi sikhala ukudedela konke ukunganaki bese uletha okuhle.
Lalela
Yiba isilaleli esihle nesinokubekezela. Ukuze uqonde imizwa yakhe, kufanele uqale usebenze ngokuthi ubalalela kanjani.
Thethelela bese ukhohlwa
Ungabambeleli ezingxabanweni nasezimpini, konke okwenzayo ukukhulisa izingxabano nokukulimaza wena nomshado wakho.