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- Thola okulindelwe okufihlekile ebudlelwaneni bakho
- 1. Dedela ukulindela kwakho ukuthi kufanele baphelele
- 2. Dedela ukulindela kwakho ukuthi bangabafundi bezingqondo
- 3. Dedela okulindele ukuthi uzovumelana njalo
- 4. Dedela ukulindela kwakho ukuthi uzohlala ulungile njalo
- 5. Dedela ukulindela kwakho ukuthi ubudlelwane bakho buzoba lula
Sonke sinokulindela kobudlelwano; kuyinto engokwemvelo nenempilo okufanele uyenze. Kuyasiza ubudlelwano ukuqhubekela phambili ohlangothini ongathanda ngalo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Kepha kufanele ube ekhasini elifanayo nalokho okulindelwe.
Thola okulindelwe okufihlekile ebudlelwaneni bakho
Ngeshwa, noma kunjalo, abantu abaningi banezinto abazilindele ebuhlotsheni babo noma amaphupho abangahlanganyeli nabalingani babo noma abalingani babo. Esikhundleni salokho, bavele bazenzele iphrojekthi futhi ngokungazi balindele ukuthi umlingani wabo noma owakwakhe bawele emgqeni.
Yilapho okulindelwe ubudlelwano kungaba okungenampilo. Kungenzeka wenze okulindelwe bese ucabanga ukuthi umlingani wakho noma oshade naye naye unethemba elifanayo kepha akakaze akhulume ngalo. Umlingani wakho noma oshade naye, ngakolunye uhlangothi, angahle aphikisane nalokho okulindelwe.
Inkinga ukuthi akekho kini ozoxoxa ngokuthi kukhona okulindelwe okukhona. Okusho ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi ngokuzayo umlingani ongazange enze okulindelwe nokuthi ngubani ongaphikisana nakho uzokwehlisa umlingani wakhe phansi.
Futhi ngeke bazi ukuthi kungani noma kwenzekeni nokuthi kwenzekani uma okunye kwalokhu okulindelwe kuyinto ebalulekile njengokuthi ngelinye ilanga uyohlala ezweni lakubo likaMama, noma ukuthi uzoba nezingane ezinhlanu.
Le yindlela esenza ngayo okulindelwe okungadala ukonakala ebudlelwaneni bethu.
Ngakho-ke ukukusiza ukuthola okulindelwe okufihliwe emshadweni wakho noma ebudlelwaneni bakho nazi ezinye zezinto okulindelwe ebudlelwaneni ongahle ube nazo futhi okufanele uzivumele uma ufuna ubudlelwano bakho buchume (noma okungenani uxoxe ngazo nomlingani wakho noma oshade naye ).
1. Dedela ukulindela kwakho ukuthi kufanele baphelele
Ake siqale lolu hlu ngento sonke esinecala layo - silindele ukuthi ozakwethu baphelele.
Ukuqala kobudlelwano bami bokuqala kwakuhamba kahle.
Ngiyakuthanda use ntambama. Izinsuku zokudla okumangazayo. Imibhalo emihle ekuseni kanye nobusuku obuhle. Ukudla kwamasonto onke. Sobabili besimnandi komunye nomunye. Sasiphelele kakhulu. Kimi, wayephelele.
Kuze kube yilapho sithatha isinqumo sokuhlala ndawonye. Umuntu ophelele abekade enguye ngokuzumayo waba esejwayelekile.
Izinsuku zamadina ezimangazayo kanye 'Ngiyakuthanda' seziye zancipha kakhulu. Kwanele ukusho, ngangikhungathekile ngoba ngangilokhu ngizibuza, futhi naye ngezinye izikhathi, yini eyashintsha?
Ngabona ukuthi ngenza iphutha lokulindela ukuthi aphelele ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukukhungatheka kwami.
Ukulindela abantu ukuthi baphelele ngaso sonke isikhathi kubeka isisindo salokho kulindela kubo.
Njengabantu, kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi umlingani wethu ungumuntu njengathi. Bazohluleka kwesinye isikhathi. Bazobukeka bengaphelele kwesinye isikhathi, futhi lokho kungenxa yokuthi bangabantu, njengawe.
2. Dedela ukulindela kwakho ukuthi bangabafundi bezingqondo
“Izinto ezimbili zingabhubhisa noma yibuphi ubudlelwano: Ukulindela okungafinyeleleki kanye nokuxhumana okungafanele” - Anonymous
Ngikhulele emndenini lapho umama azokwazi khona ukuthi kwenzakalani engqondweni yami. Emndenini wami, sasivumelanisiwe kangangoba babehlala bazi ngezidingo zami noma ngabe angikhulumi negama elilodwa. Ngithole ukuthi akusebenzi ebudlelwaneni bezothando.
Ukufunda ubuciko bokukhuluma nezidingo zakho kumlingani wakho kunikhulula nobabili ekungazwisisini okuningi okungagwemeka futhi kunisindisa ezinkulumweni eziningi ezibuhlungu.
3. Dedela okulindele ukuthi uzovumelana njalo
Uma ulindele ukuthi umlingani wakho abe yisibuko sakho ngazo zonke izindlela, ubudlelwano bakho busengozini.
Lapho sisebasha futhi sisenamahloni, ukulindela ukuthi uzovumelana njalo kuvame ukulindelwa kobudlelwano obuyisisekelo esivame ukuba nabo. Singahle sicabange ukuthi ubudlelwano bungafanele bube nokungaboni ngaso linye ngoba nithandana kakhulu.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, sifunda ukuthi lokhu kulindela akulungile ngoba ningabantu ababili abehlukene futhi ngeke nihlale nivumelana.
Lokho kushiwo, ngicabanga ukuthi okulindelwe kangcono kungaba ukulindela ukungaboni ngaso linye.
Ukuba nokungaboni ngaso linye kuyisikhumbuzo sokuthi kunokuthile okufanele ukulwele ebudlelwaneni bakho; ukuthi uhlelo lwakho lokuxhumana luyasebenza.
4. Dedela ukulindela kwakho ukuthi uzohlala ulungile njalo
Enye yezinto zokuqala okufanele ushiye emnyango ngaphambi kokungena ebudlelwaneni yi-ego yakho kanye nayo, ithemba lakho lokuthi uzohlala ulungile njalo.
Ukuba sebudlelwaneni kuthatha umsebenzi omningi, futhi ingxenye yomsebenzi odinga ukwenziwa ukuzenzela thina.
Ukulindela ukuthi uzohlala ulungile ngaso sonke isikhathi kunobugovu futhi kuyinkanuko. Uyakhohlwa ukuthi usebudlelwaneni nomuntu?
Ngeke uhlale ulungile ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi lokho kulungile. Ukuba sebudlelwaneni kuyinqubo yokufunda nokutholakala komuntu uqobo.
5. Dedela ukulindela kwakho ukuthi ubudlelwane bakho buzoba lula
Ngivala lolu hlu ngesikhumbuzo sokuthi ubudlelwano ngeke bube lula.
Abaningi bethu bakhohlwa ukuthi ubudlelwano budinga ukusebenza kanzima. Abaningi bethu bakhohlwa ukuthi ubudlelwano budinga isivuno esiningi.
Abaningi bethu bakhohlwa ukuthi ubudlelwano budinga ukuyekethisa okuningi. Baningi kakhulu kithi abalindele ukuthi ubudlelwano buzoba lula, kepha empeleni, akunjalo.
Okwenza ubudlelwano busebenze akukhona ukuthi ube nobumnandi obungakanani kule nyanga noma ukuthi usuhambe amadethi amangaki noma ukuthi ubucwebe kangakanani; kungumthamo eniwenzayo nobabili ekwenzeni ubudlelwano benu busebenze.
Impilo ayilula, nobudlelwano nabo abulula. Ukuba nomuntu ozobhekana nokungajabuli kwempilo naye, kuyinto okufanele ubongwe ngayo.