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Kumele Unekhono Lobudlelwano Ekuxazululeni Izingxabano- Ifomula Yokuxazululwa Kwezingxabano: APR
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Kumele Unekhono Lobudlelwano Ekuxazululeni IzingxabanoKumele Unekhono Lobudlelwano Ekuxazululeni Izingxabano
Amakhono okuhlobana angukhiye ebudlelwaneni obuyimpumelelo besikhathi eside, obuxhumene ngokuseduze bugcwele ukuxhumana okuqinile.
Uhlu lufushane; ukukhetha ukuthanda, izindinganiso ezisemqoka, ukuxhumana, ukukhuluma ngokomzwelo, izintandokazi nemingcele kanye nokuxazululwa kwezingxabano.
Wonke umuntu "unomsebenzi wokuwenza" kulezi. Ngakho-ke, yiziphi izinyathelo zokuxazulula izingxabano?
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula, sihlala singumsebenzi oqhubekayo. Ngakho-ke, kungokwemvelo ukucabanga futhi sizibone izindawo lapho singakhula khona, sicwenge, sithuthukise futhi, yebo, siguquke.
Yize zonke lezi zinto zikhona, ikhono elihambisanayo elinquma ukuthi ubudlelwano buphela ngaphambi kokuthi “ukufa sizehlukanise” yilokhu: Ukuxazululwa Kwezingxabano. Akukho mzuzwana osondele futhi yingakho.
Izibopho zemibhangqwana exhunywe ngokusondelene futhi zinamathisela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Njengoba ukuxhumana kwabo kukhula, ukusondelana kwabo kuyajula kuzo zonke izindawo - ngokomoya, ngokwengqondo, ngokwazi, ngokomzwelo nangokobulili, baba sengozini enkulu.
"Bachaya" ubuningi babo beqiniso kumlingani wabo. Ngalokhu kuvezwa kuza ubungozi; ubungozi bokwaliwa, ukwahlulelwa, ukugxekwa, ukungalalelwa, ukuqondwa nokuthandwa.
Lapho kwenzeka imicimbi efana nengxoxo, umyalezo omfushane wombhalo, ukuqokwa okungabanjwanga, njll., Kungadala ukwesaba okufihliwe okwenziwe esikhathini esedlule.
Umthombo awusebenzi.
Omunye usho okuthile futhi amagama ahlala phansi. Bafike 'endaweni ethambile' komunye wozakwethu. Lowo zakwethu uyahoxa, avale phansi, aphendule ngamazwi athukuthele, njll. Noma yiziphi futhi zonke lezi "yizinkinga ezidinga ukuxazululwa kwezingxabano".
Izinkinga zisusa abantu kude nothando ababelana ngalo.
Izingqinamba, zonke izingqinamba, kufanele zixazululwe ngendlela ebuyisela ophathina emuva kulolo thando babelana ngalo olwalukhona ngaphambi kokuthi kuvele inkinga.
Izinkinga azikwazi 'ukukhishwa' noma zilungiswe ngokuthi “wayengaqondile, uyangithanda.” Cha. Imizwelo yayihilelekile, amagama abangela okuthile, umlingani oyedwa wasuka kude futhi leyo yincazelo yenkinga.
Lokhu kungukuqina kwendaba maqondana nokuxazululwa kwezingxabano.
Ukuxazululwa kwengxabano kuyingxoxo yomlingani osondelene kakhulu.
Kudinga imibhangqwana yomibili ukuthi isebenze kusuka koqobo lwayo, ibeke phansi amasu ayo okuvikela, ukwesaba kwayo nokuba yiqiniso.
Buka futhi:
Ifomula Yokuxazululwa Kwezingxabano: APR
(Ukulungiswa kwenqubo yekheli le-APR)
Udaba ngalunye kufanele lubhekwe nguzakwethu odalwe ukuzwakalisa: kwenzekeni, athini amagama, iyini impendulo yami, ngenzeni "ngapha".
Lokhu kumayelana nawe. Akukho 'kuhlaselwa' kwabo lapha. Kunesitatimende, esizwakalisa umcimbi. Abalingani babo bayasebenza: Lalela. "Ulalela" njengokuthi "uzwa umthelela 'Ngaphesheya'.
Impendulo okumele yenzeke ukwamukela okwenzekile laphaya ukuphinda ukuxhumana ngokuphelele ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphandle kokusolwa, amahloni, icala, noma ukuzithethelela.
Okulandelayo, umcimbi uqhutshwa ngengxoxo mayelana nesipiliyoni somzwelo kanye ne-trigger,
“Lapho uthe, 'Nikeza lapha, ngizokwenza!' Ngezwa ukuthi angibalulekile. Ngangingenamandla. Ngangibuswa, futhi. Ngangizizwa ngingaphansi kuka. Kuvele kubo bonke ubudlelwano bami bangaphambilini futhi yinto ebengisebenza kimi ”isikhashana kodwa kuyavela”.
Umlingani uphendula ngokwazisa ukuqala kanye nomthelela wamagama. Isitatimende sokuqonda okuyiqiniso; ukuthi yini amazwi / izenzo zabo, ezibangele umlingani wabo nokuthi yini abayizwayo, isipiliyoni sabo ngokomzwelo.
"Ngiyakuthola. Ngithathe lapho nginomkhuba wokukwenza. Uma ngenza njalo, awuboni ukuthi ngiyakwazisa, noma iqhaza lakho ebudlelwaneni bethu noma ngithemba ukuthi ungakwenza [engikwaziyo] ukuthi akunjalo.
Ngiyakuqonda okwenzekile, engikushilo nokuthi ngikuphathele ini, laphaya. ”
Inothi eseceleni kumasu okusombulula izingxabano: "Ukuba yiqiniso" kudinga noma ikuphi ukwenqaba, ukuzivikela, ukunqamula, ukuxosha, nezinye izimpendulo ukuthi ziboshwe.
Lezi zibulala ingxoxo; akukho okuxazululwa.
Ozakwethu baxazulula lolu daba ngenhloso
Isivumelwano “sokwenza okuhlukile” ngokuzayo nini kuvela isimo njengoba kwenzekile lapha. Futhi, benza i- cukukhishwa kulesi sivumelwano esisha.
[Kubangelwa] “Ngiyazi ukuthi uyangazisa futhi uyangeseka. Ngizosebenza kulo muzwa wokungaziswa ngumlingani wami. Lapho 'okuthile kwenzeka' futhi lowomuzwa wakudala uqala ukukhuphuka kimi, ngizothatha ikhefu ngikwazise ukuthi kwenzekani "ngapha." ‘Gosh s'thandwa, lapho uthathe izintambo ngomthengisi, ngabona ukuthi into ebaluleke kakhulu engisebenza kuyo iyavela futhi '. Ngizoyibamba futhi ngiyazibophezela ukuthi ngizokucela yini ukwanga noma ukuthi ungibambe ngesandla, ngizosondela, ngeke nginqamule nje kuphela. ”
[Partner] “Ngingakwenza lokho! Ngiyayazi ingxenye yami. Ngigxumela phakathi.
Ngiyathatha izintambo. Angiyishayi inkinobho yokumisa isikhashana bese ngisebenza nawe.
Ngidinga ukwenza umsebenzi ongcono. Ngizozibophezela ekuqapheleni kakhulu ukuthi ngiya phambili ngoba ngiyazi impendulo eyenzekayo lapho "ngenza engikwenzayo." Vele ugaxe, noma ufake isandla sakho ephaketheni lami noma uhlale ethangeni unginake. Ngeke ngiphelele kuyo, bekuyisikhathi eside ngami, kodwa ngizosebenzela Kimi. ”
Olunye ucansi olwenziwe ngamanzi cishe luzolandela kungekudala kule modeli yokuxazulula izingxabano (Yilokho engikuthathayo!)
Inhloso yokuxazulula izingxabano ilula: buyisela ubudlelwano obuseduze nothando ababelana ngalo abalingani ababili.
Ifomula yamasu wokuxhumana asebenzayo alula
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Yenza isivumelwano esisha bese uzibophezela ekugcineni isivumelwano.
Kuyasebenza. Kuthatha umzamo oqondile nokwazisa ngabo bobabili abantu ukuze kwenzeke.
Ukulungiswa kwezingxabano, ukuxazulula izingqinamba ezivelayo, okunquma umphumela; Ngabe ubudlelwano buzoletha injabulo, ukwaneliseka nokwaneliseka noma abalingani bazoqhubeka nokuqhela othandweni.