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- Nakhu ukuzwela; owaziwa nangokuthi umelaphi
- Isizathu sobuhlobo obunobuthi
- Buzoba kanjani ubudlelwano babo?
- Isixazululo
Kwesinye isikhathi, kwenye indawo lapho kukhula khona kusukela ebuntwaneni, umuntu angazizwa engabalulekile futhi engelutho, futhi ngenxa yalokhu, bangafuna njalo ukuqinisekiswa abakudinga kakhulu.
Nakhu ukuzwela; owaziwa nangokuthi umelaphi
I-empathizer inamandla okuzwa nokubamba ubuhlungu umlingani wabo abuzwayo futhi bavame ukukususa sengathi kungokwabo.
Uma u-empathizer engayazi imingcele yakhe futhi engazi ukuthi angazivikela kanjani, bazozihlanganisa kalula nomqaphi; bazozama ukuqeda ubuhlungu babo futhi balungise umonakalo wabo.
Into eyodwa bonke abakwa-narcissist abafana ngayo ukuthi bangabantu abalimele ngokomoya.
Isizathu salokhu imvamisa ukuhlukumezeka ebuntwaneni okwabakhathaza impilo yabo yonke. Njengoba bezizwe bengelutho futhi bengaziswa, baba ngabafuna njalo ukwazisa nokuqinisekiswa.
Yilapho ama-Empaths ezosiza khona kepha izimfanelo ezinhle zalaba bantu zingenza njengokwehla kwabo uma bengaqaphile.
Lapho laba bantu ababili abaphikisanayo beheha, umphumela awugcini nje ngokuba mkhulu kepha unobuthi obumangazayo.
Qhubeka ufunda ukuthola isizathu salobu budlelwano obunobuthi.
Isizathu sobuhlobo obunobuthi
Isizathu esidala ubuthi bobudlelwano phakathi kwe-narcissist nozwelo ikakhulu singenxa yohlangothi olumnyama umlingisi we-narcissist analo. Lolu hlangothi luvame ukunganakwa ngumuntu ozwelayo.
I-narcissist inekhono lokumunca umphefumulo wanoma ngubani abamfunayo noma ahlangane naye.
Zingaqinisekiswa ngenkathi zenza abalingani bazo bazizwe bengalingani futhi bentekenteke bese beyisebenzisa ngokuzayo.
I-empathizer ivame ukukholelwa ukuthi wonke umuntu unjani, abantu bavame ukubona okuhle komunye nomunye futhi balungile empilweni. Lokhu kubambeka kalula okugxilwe kuzo kunganconywa kepha futhi kudale umonakalo ngoba akuwona wonke umuntu othembekile futhi muhle njengabo.
Abantu abahlukene banezidingo ezihlukile kanye nama-ajenda ahlukene angadala ukulimala kubo.
I-ajenda ye-narcissist imane nje ukukhohlisa; bafuna ukulawula ngokuphelele umlingani wabo, futhi basebenzisa abanye njengethuluzi lokuqinisekisa ukuzizwa behle futhi bavuke ngaphezu kwabo. I-ajenda ye-empathizer ukuphulukisa, ukunakekelwa nothando.
Ngenxa yezinhloso zabo ezihlukile, lobu buntu obuhlukile abusoze bathola ibhalansi.
Buzoba kanjani ubudlelwano babo?
Uma i-narcissist kanye ne-empathizer bagcina sebenobudlelwano, ukuzibophezela kwabo kuzoba umjikelezo ononya ongakwazi ukuphuma kuwo.
Lapho uthando nokuthanda ngokwengeziwe umuzwa uzobanikeza kakhudlwana ekuphathweni kwe-narcissist engakuthola nokuzizwa.
Lokhu kuzokwenza ukuthi uzwela abe yisisulu.
Umzwela uzoba sengozini futhi alimale; bazoqala ukuzizwa njengesisulu, bakhe izici ezifana ne-narcissistic enayo.
Lapho umbhali wezidakamizwa ethola umlingani onozwela elimele bazothola umqondo wokuqinisekisa abakudingayo; lapho umuntu engajabule futhi alimale ngokwengeziwe umuzwa wokuqiniswa yisiqiniseko lapho umbhali wezinto eziphilayo ezokuthola futhi ajabule ngokwengeziwe.
I-empath engajabule izobe isesha imizwa yokwesekwa nothando kumuntu obhala ngezinto ezingekho emthethweni futhi ifune ukuqinisekiswa. Kuleli qophelo ebudlelwaneni, konke okuzogxila kuzwela kuzoba semuzwa wezinhlungu nasekufuneni uthando; bazobe bematasa befuna ukuthi ngeke babone ukuthi umonakalo uvela kumlingani wabo we-narcissist.
Ngeke babone ukuthi ukusolwa akufanele kube kubo.
Le mpi ebabayo ingaqhubeka futhi ithathe impilo yabazweli. Bayoba abazicabangela ngokweqile; bazobheka umonakalo ngaphakathi hhayi ngaphandle. Kuleli qophelo, i-empath kumele iqonde isimo sabo futhi ivuke.
Noma imuphi umzamo wokuxhumana nomuntu osebenzisa izihibe uyoba yize ngoba uzobe ungatholi muntu.
Njengoba benenkohliso ngokweqile, bazosusa noma yini abayifunayo kubo bese besola omunye komunye. Bazosola ubuhlungu ababuzwayo kumuntu ozwelayo futhi baphinde basole nobuhlungu umzwelo Abuzwayo nakubo.
Umuntu onozwela uzokwazi ukuthi basebudlelwaneni obonakalisayo futhi bazozwa isidingo sokusola yonke into kumuntu obanga izinto ezingekho emthethweni, kepha; Lesi akusona isixazululo.
Isixazululo
Isixazululo sokuqeda amasu akhohlisayo we-narcissist ukuhamba kude nakho konke okudalile futhi uqede ubudlelwano. Ekupheleni kosuku, konke okubaluleke ngempela ukuthi sicabanga ukuthi kufanele siphathwe kanjani.
Uma umzweli ehlala kulobu budlelwano obunobuthi, lokho kungenxa yokuthi bacabanga ukuthi abafanelwe okungcono kunalokhu. Kodwa-ke, thola isibindi namandla okuhamba ngokuphelele kulobu budlelwano obungenangqondo bese uqala okusha.