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- Zazi futhi uzithande
- Khetha umlingani wakho ngezizathu ezifanele
- Yiba namaqiniso ngokuthi ubuhlobo bukunikeza ini
- Uthando isenzo; kungukukhetha ngamabomu
- Ukukhulumisana okuhle kuyisihluthulelo
- Khetha umuntu omhloniphayo nomthandayo
- Khetha umuntu ongamethemba ngokuphelele
- Hamba kancane
- Wazi umehluko phakathi kokuyekethisa nokuzidela
- Abantu abaguquki
- Hloniphani ubuntu bomunye nomunye
- Ubulili buyisisekelo sobudlelwano
Ufuna ubudlelwano obuhle? Kubudlelwano obukhulu futhi ufuna ukuthi ihlale injalo (noma ibengcono nakakhulu)? Nazi ezinye izeluleko zobudlelwano obuzamile nobuyiqiniso ukukusiza ukuthi uzulazule ezindleleni ezihlala zishintsha zothando.
Zazi futhi uzithande
Ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ukufuna umdlalo wakho ophelele, qiniseka ukuthi uyazi ukuthi ungubani. Yini amandla nobuthakathaka bakho? Ziyini izifiso zakho? Yiziphi izinselelo oke wabhekana nazo ngempumelelo? Kuthiwani ngamaphupho — isikhathi esifushane nesikhathi eside? Ukuzazi ngokujulile kukwenza ukwazi ukuhlunga uhlobo lomuntu ozwana kakhulu naye; umuntu okugcwalisa ngendlela ekhipha okuhle kuwe.
Ufuna nokuthula nokuthi ungubani. Ufuna ukuvikeleka ekufanelekeni kwakho, futhi ungathembeli kozakwethu ukuthi akunikeze ukuzihlonipha. Umsebenzi omkhulu ukufika ezingeni lapho uzithanda khona ngokuphelele, kepha kufanelekile ngoba uzoheha abanye abantu abalungile, abaphilile ngokomqondo.
Khetha umlingani wakho ngezizathu ezifanele
Ukuphelelwa yithemba kuholela ezinqumweni ezingalungile. Akekho owenza izinqumo ezinhle zothando uma ezizwa engavikelekile, enesizungu, noma engathandeki. Qiniseka ukuthi uzibandakanya nabantu abakwenza uzizwe uthandwa, ufanelekile futhi uhlonishwa. Kubalulekile ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi uphilile emoyeni ukuze uhehe abanye abantu abaphilile ngokomzwelo.
Yiba namaqiniso ngokuthi ubuhlobo bukunikeza ini
Abantu abaningi bacwila ebudlelwaneni becabanga ukuthi uthando luzoxazulula zonke izinkinga zabo. Noma banamathemba aphezulu ngokungenangqondo wokuthi ubuhlobo kufanele bube njani, ngokuya ngamanoveli amaningi othando noma ama-movie ezothando. Esikhundleni salokho, chitha isikhathi esithile uzungeze imibhangqwana eshadile ejabule futhi ubabuze imfihlo yobudlelwano babo obuhle. Sebenzisa laba bantu njengamamodeli wokufunda kuwo.
Uthando isenzo; kungukukhetha ngamabomu
Kulula ukuzwa uthando nothando eminyakeni yokuqala yobudlelwano. Wonke umuntu unezibuko ezinombala ophuzi ekuqaleni, ubona kuphela izingxenye ezinhle kakhulu zabathandekayo babo futhi bazishaye indiva lezo ezicasulayo. Lokhu kucwazimula komlingo kuqala ukufiphala ngemuva kweminyaka eminingana — futhi lokho kuyinto ejwayelekile — ukuveza ingqikithi yangempela yomuntu ongaphansi. Khetha uhlobo lomuntu ozoqhubeka umthande uma leyo mizwa yokuqala iqala ukwehla. Futhi thanda ngenkuthalo — bonisa umlingani wakho ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani kuwe ngezenzo nangamazwi.
Veza ukubonga kwakho ngokuba khona kwabo empilweni yakho. Bayabathanda. Bahloniphe. Ungalokothi ubathathe kalula.
Ukukhulumisana okuhle kuyisihluthulelo
Uma ungakwazi ukukhuluma ngezinto ezisindayo nomlingani wakho ngaphandle kokuthi zivale, kufanele ubuze ukusebenza kobudlelwano. Uma bobabili abantu betshale imali ebudlelwaneni, kufanele bazizwe bekhululekile ukuxhumana nganoma yisiphi futhi nangazo zonke izifundo. Uma umlingani wakho ekugwema ukuxhumana, thumela ubudlelwano bese uthola umuntu ofuna ukusebenza ukuthola isixazululo lapho kuvela izingqinamba.
Khetha umuntu omhloniphayo nomthandayo
Ufuna ukubheka phezulu kumlingani wakho. Ufuna ukuncoma akwenzayo, ukuthi ubaphatha kanjani abanye, nokuthi uhamba kanjani emhlabeni. Khetha umuntu omuhle onganikeli enhlalakahleni yakho kuphela, kepha futhi okhathazekile ngokunikela enhlalakahleni yomphakathi wakhe, futhi.
Khetha umuntu ongamethemba ngokuphelele
Le yinhliziyo yakho esikhuluma ngayo, ngakho-ke uma uthola umqondo phakathi nesikhathi sakho sokuqala sokuphola ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle, lalela lelo zwi elincane. Cishe kulungile.
Hamba kancane
Noma ngabe uyinhloko phezu kwezithende othandweni, thatha izinto igxathu elilodwa ngesikhathi. Ungalivuli lelo bhokisi loshokholethi bese uwadla ngasikhathi sinye. Vumela ubuhlobo bakho obusha. Dalula izinto kancane kancane. Ubudlelwano obuhle bufanele ukufaka umzamo, kuqala ngokwakha isisekelo esiqinile. Thatha isikhathi sakho ukwazana. Musa ukulala ndawonye ngosuku lokuqala. Zinikeze okuthile ongakulindela. Ukusondelana ngokocansi kukhula ngokwengeziwe lapho sekusungulwe isibopho sokwethembana ngokomzwelo.
Wazi umehluko phakathi kokuyekethisa nokuzidela
Bonke ubudlelwano budinga izinga elithile lokuyekethisa ukuze baqhubeke. Kepha lapho umuntu oyedwa ezwa sengathi badela okuthile okubalulekile kubo ukugcina ubudlelwano bumi kahle, sekuyisikhathi sokubuyela emuva uphinde uhlole kabusha isimo.
Abantu abaguquki
O, abantu bayakhula futhi baguquke, kepha izici eziyisisekelo umlingani wakho akukhombisa zona manje ngeke zishintshe. Umshado ngeke wenze ngokuyisimangaliso umlingani wakho abe ngumphathi wemali ongcono, noma umvimbe ekusebenziseni sonke isikhathi sakhe samahhala ne-PlayStation yakhe. Uma kunezinto umlingani wakho azenzayo manje ezikucasulayo, yazi ukuthi lezi zinto zizoqhubeka zikucasule (futhi zingaze zibe zimbi kakhulu) eminyakeni eyi-10-15 kusukela manje.
Hloniphani ubuntu bomunye nomunye
Wonke umuntu uyazi umbhangqwana "ojoyine okhalweni." Kepha bajabule kangakanani, ngokweqiniso? Imibhangqwana enempilo ihlonipha ukuzilibazisa komuntu ngamunye, izinkanuko, isidingo sendawo ngezikhathi ezithile. Imibhangqwana iyachuma lapho ihlonipha isidingo somunye nomunye sokuzenzela izinto zayo. Ukuza ekhaya kumlingani ongakwazi ukulinda ukukutshela ngomjaho abasanda kuwunqoba, noma umdwebo abasebenza kuwo, ungomunye wemizwa emihle kakhulu emhlabeni. Ukuphishekela injabulo yakho kubalulekile ekugcineni ubudlelwano busentsha futhi buphila.
Ubulili buyisisekelo sobudlelwano
Ucansi akuyona yonke into ebudlelwaneni, kepha luyinto ebalulekile futhi ekhombisa ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kwabashadile. Uma imibhangqwana inqanyulwa ngokomoya, ngeke ixhumane ngokocansi. Ngakho-ke uma ubona imvamisa yakho yokwenza uthando iyehla, buyela emuva bese ubheka okwenzekayo ngesimo sokusondelana kwakho ngokomzwelo.