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- Kuchazwe ukuhlukunyezwa okungokomzwelo
- Izimpawu ezingama-28 zobudlelwano obuhlukumeza ngokomoya
- Ukubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kungacasha futhi kube nzima ukudlula ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba.
Yingakho kunzima ukuthola ubudlelwane obuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo. Kepha ikhona.
Futhi akuwona amadoda kuphela abahlukumezi. Ucwaningo nezibalo kukhombisile lokho abesilisa nabesifazane bayahlukumeza ngamanani alinganayo.
Lo mbhalo uchaza kabanzi ngezici zobudlelwano obuhlukumeza ngokomoya futhi uveza nezimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni.
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Kuchazwe ukuhlukunyezwa okungokomzwelo
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kubandakanya inkambiso ejwayelekile yokusongela, ukuxhashaza, ukugxeka, nokukhuluma ngamazwi. Amanye amaqhinga asetshenziswa yisiqhwaga ukusabisa, ukuxhaphaza, nokuhlazisa.
Lolu hlobo lwe ukuhlukumeza kusetshenziselwa ukuphatha nokuphatha omunye umuntu.
Imvamisa, umthombo wokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo ubangelwa ukungazethembi kanye namanxeba okuhlukunyezwa ebuntwaneni. Abahlukumezi ngokwabo kwesinye isikhathi babehlukunyezwa. Abahlukumezi abafundile ukuthi bangaba kanjani nobudlelwano obuhle, nobunempilo.
Isisulu sokuhlukunyezwa asikuboni ukuphathwa kabi njengokuhlukumeza - ekuqaleni. Basebenzisa ukwenqaba nokunciphisa njengezindlela zokubhekana nezingcindezi zokuhlukunyezwa.
Kepha ukuphika ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo unyaka nonyaka kungaholela ekukhathazekeni, ekucindezelekeni, nasekucindezelekeni kwangemva kwenhlekelele. Lezi yizimpawu ezimbalwa kuphela zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo.
Izimpawu ezingama-28 zobudlelwano obuhlukumeza ngokomoya
Kwesinye isikhathi abantu bacabanga ukuthi 'ukuhlukumeza' akulona igama elifanele lokuchaza ukuphathwa kabi okubangelwa abalingani babo. Bacabanga ukuthi kuhlobene kakhulu nobunzima noma izinkinga umlingani wabo anakho ngaleso sikhathi.
Ngeshwa, kwezinye izimo, lokhu kungenye nje indlela yokwenqaba.
Uma ufuna ukufunda ukuthi ngabe uyahlukumezeka yini ngokomoya ebudlelwaneni bakho, hlola izimpawu ezilandelayo.
- Umlingani wakho wehlisa isithunzi noma angayinaki imibono yakho, imibono, iziphakamiso, noma izidingo - njalo.
- Umlingani wakho ukusola ngezinto owazi ukuthi azilona iqiniso.
- Umlingani wakho uyakuhlaza, akubeke phansi, noma ahlekise ngawe phambi kwabanye abantu.
- Umlingani wakho usebenzisa ukubhuqa noma ezinye izindlela zokuhlekisa ukukubeka phansi futhi uzizwe uzenyeza ngawe.
- Umlingani wakho ukuphathisa okwengane futhi uzama ukukulawula.
- Umlingani wakho ukutshela ukuthi uzwela kakhulu, ukuze ubeke icala kuwe ngokuhlukumeza kwakhe ngokomzwelo emshadweni.
- Umlingani wakho uhlala ezama ukujezisa noma ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwakho.
- Umlingani wakho ukubiza ngamagama noma ukukunikeza amalebuli angathandeki.
- Uzakwenu ukude noma akatholakali emoyeni - isikhathi esiningi.
- Umlingani wakho ukhomba njalo amaphutha akho noma ukushiyeka kwakho.
- Umlingani wakho usebenzisa ukuhoxa ukuze athole ukunakwa noma ukuthola lokho akufunayo.
- Umlingani wakho udlala isisulu ngenhloso yokugwema ukusolwa.
- Umlingani wakho akakubonisi uzwela noma uzwela.
- Umlingani wakho kubonakala engakhathaleli noma engazi nemizwa yakho.
- Umlingani wakho usebenzisa ukunganaki noma ukuyeka ukuhlanganyela ekukujeziseni.
- Umlingani wakho ukukubona njengesandiso sakhe uqobo, esikhundleni sokukubona njengomuntu uqobo.
- Umlingani wakho ukubukela phansi futhi akucabangele ukufezekisa namaphupho akho.
- Umlingani wakho ubamba ucansi njengendlela yokukulawula nokukukhohlisa wenze lokho abakufunayo.
- Umlingani wakho uyakuphika ukuziphatha okuhlukumeza ngokomoya uma ukhuluma ngakho.
- Umlingani wakho uzama ukulawula indlela oyisebenzisa ngayo imali yakho.
- Umlingani wakho unenkinga ngokuxolisa noma angalokothi axolise nakancane.
- Umlingani wakho akakwazi ukubekezelela ukuhlekwa.
- Umlingani wakho uzama ukukwenza uzizwe sengathi uhlala unephutha, futhi uhlala eqinisile.
- Umlingani wakho ukhuluma kabi noma akusongele ngobuqili ukuze akusabise futhi akugcine ngaphansi kolawulo lwabo.
- Umlingani wakho akabekezeleli ukungabi nenhlonipho.
- Umlingani wakho weqa imingcele yakho kaninginingi.
- Umlingani wakho ukwenza uzizwe sengathi udinga imvume yakhe yokwenza izinqumo.
- Umlingani wakho ukusola ngokungajabuli kwabo noma ezinye izinkinga, esikhundleni sokuthatha umthwalo wakho wemfanelo.
Kunezinye izimpawu eziningi eziyisixwayiso zobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo.
Uma ukuziphatha komlingani wakho kuhlose ukukwenza uzizwe ulawulwa, umncane, noma awukwazi, lokho akulungile futhi kuyahlukumeza.
Uma isimilo somlingani wakho sikwenza uzizwe uncike kuye, futhi sikuvimba ekubeni nguwe uqobo, lokho nakho ukuhlukunyezwa. Ngakho-ke ungabe usaphika ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela.
Ukubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo
Uma usuzibonile izimpawu, usebudlelwaneni bokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo; udinga ukubhekana nalobo budlelwano uze ubushiye.
Esinye sezinyathelo ezinhle kakhulu ukwenza khuluma nothile ngobudlelwano bakho obukuhlukumezayo. Kungcono ukukhuluma nomuntu ongaphandle kwalobu budlelwano.
Lowo muntu angakusiza ukuthi ubone izinto ngenye indlela. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu uma ujwayele ukubona ukuhlukumeza kungenacala.
Umbono omusha ungakusiza nokubona ngeso lengqondo imiphumela yesikhathi eside yokuba sebudlelwaneni bokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo.
Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho uzwa ukuthi akuyona, lapho ungashintsha khona umqondo wakho bese ubona indlela yokuziphatha okuyiyona yona. Umuntu wangaphandle angakusiza ukuthi ubone ukuziphatha okungenangqondo.
Kufanele wazi ukuthi yakho ububele kumlingani wakho ngeke kukusize ukumshintsha. Futhi, ungaziphindiseli ngoba kuvumela umhlukumezi ukuthi akusebenzise futhi akubeke icala.
Esinye isici okufanele usicabangele ukubona umeluleki wezobudlelwano. Anganisiza ukuthi nisombulule lesi simo futhi anisize nobabili lapho kungenzeka khona ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa.
Umeluleki anganisiza nobabili ukuba niqhubekele ebudlelwaneni obunempilo.
Uma kukhulunywa ngokushiya ubudlelwano obuhlukumezayo, ungacabanga ngalezi ziphakamiso ezilandelayo:
- Ungesabi ukudedela futhi wazi ukuthi ubuqede nini ubudlelwano.
- Qinisekisa ukuthi awukho ngaphansi kwengozi yomzimba eseduze.
- Qiniseka ukuthi uhlala unefoni yakho ukulungiselela isimo esiphuthumayo.
- Uma uzizwa usongelwa, thola indawo ephephile ongaya kuyo.
- Musa ukuxhumana nomhlukumezi wakho noma uphendule emizameni yakhe yokuxhumana naye.
- Futhi, funa usizo lochwepheshe ukuze ubhekane nezinselelo.
Alukho uhlobo lokuhlukumeza olwamukelekayo, ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, njll. bheka izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi ubone ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bungasindiswa ngempela noma sekuyisikhathi sokubushiya lobo budlelwano.
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