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- Kungani kufanele ulale uthukuthele
- 1. Ukugcwala imizwa
- 2. Ukugxekwa nokukhononda
- 3. Omunye wenu udinga isikhala sokucubungula
Yize abaningi bethanda ukugwema izingxabano ngazo zonke izindlela, ukungqubuzana kobudlelwano can empeleni nikeza amathuba okufunda kabanzi mayelana nezidingo zomunye nomunye futhi uvumele imibhangqwana ukuba isondele.
Yize ukulwela ukuxazulula izingqinamba zobudlelwano kubalulekile, kubalulekile ukuthi imibhangqwana iyabona lapho ukungqubuzana kungakwazi futhi akufanele zixazululwe ku- mzuzu ofanayo uyakhuliswa. Futhi, kungani kwesinye isikhathi kufanele ulale uthukuthele.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele "uyihlikihle ngaphansi kombhoxo" nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Bangu izimo lapho kusebenza khona ukuxazulula izingxabano akukwazi ukwenzeka futhi nobabili kudingeka nivumelane “ukuyibeka eshalofini” bese nibuyele kuyo lapho nikwazi ukuba nengxoxo efanelekile ezovumela ukulalela okusebenzayo nezixazululo.
Esikhundleni sokucabanga ngakho njengokulala uthukuthele, kufake kufane nokuthi uzolala nezinto ezingaxazululiwe ebusuku. Kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi uzobuya ukuxazulula le nkinga ngesikhathi esifanelekile.
Kungani kufanele ulale uthukuthele
Nazi izimpawu ezintathu noma izizathu zokuthi kulungile ukulala uthukuthele nokuthi kungokwenzuzo enkulu ebudlelwaneni bakho ukuthi “ubuthinte” ubusuku -
1. Ukugcwala imizwa
Oyedwa noma nobabili ugcwele amanzi.
Izikhukhula ezingokomzwelo kunini yukhungathekile yimizwa kuze kufike lapho awukwazi ukuzilawula. Kungaba nezimpawu zomzimba njengokunyuka kwenhliziyo, ukukhungatheka kwengqondo, ukwethuka, nempendulo yokulwa noma yokundiza.
Izikhukhula zingadala ukukhubazeka, ukucisha, ukukindishiza, ukugubha ngamatshe, noma ukuqhuma. Cishe akunakwenzeka ukulalela ngenkuthalo noma ukuthola ukuqonda lapho kugcwala amanzi.
Ukuzama ukwenza kanjalo akunamsebenzi futhi kuyakhathaza.
Kubalulekile ukuthi nobabili nibe nokuzazi ukuze nikwazi ukubona lapho umkhawulo wakho ongokomzwelo wezingxoxo eziphumelelayo wephuliwe. Ukuzama ukulungiswa kulesi simo kufana nokuzama shayela ngezimo zenkungu ebusuku ukhanyise amalambu akho womabili.
Awuboni!
2. Ukugxekwa nokukhononda
Ukugxekwa ingabukeka kanjani ukubizana ngokuthi “ngamavila”, "Ukungazweli" noma "ukungakhathaleli".
Indlela ephumelela kakhudlwana yokuhlola udaba ukuzwakalisa ukukhathazeka, njengokuthi “Ngizizwa ngingahlonishwa lapho ufika sekwedlule isikhathi ungafonanga. Kungasho lukhulu kimi uma ungathumela umbhalo ngokuzayo. ”
Ngokwesinye isandla, ukugxekwa (“Uyisidlakela esingacabangeli!”) Kaningi kuholela ekuzivikeleni futhi umjikelezo ononya ungalandela. Uma uthola ukuthi nikhuluma “omunye komunye kunokukhuluma no” kuya, kunengqondo ukumisa isikhashana umdlalo oxabene.
Lapho usuyilawule imizwa yakho, wacubungula ukuthi iyini imizwa nezidingo zakho, usesimweni esingcono sokuveza ukukhathazeka kunokugxeka.
3. Omunye wenu udinga isikhala sokucubungula
Uma wena noma umlingani wakho ucela isikhala sokucubungula, lokho kungaphezu kwesizathu esanele sokuthi "ushiye ishalofu" okwamanje.
Ukumisa isikhashana ingxoxo kungaba kuhle kini nobabili noma ngabe anigcwele imizwa.
Isikhala kungaba njalo kuyadingeka ngezizathu eziningi, ngaphandle kokudinga ukulawula imizwa yakho. Ukucubungula imizwa, imicabango, kanye nezinto ezifunwayo, abanye badinga isikhathi esithe xaxa ukucubungula kunabanye. Isikhala singadingeka ukwakha imicabango yethu, izifiso zethu, kanye nencazelo yanoma yini ekuxoshile.
Iphinde ikuvumela ukuthi uhlole ukuthi ukuxazulula inkinga kungabukeka kanjani kuwe.
Ngokufanelekile, uma usebenzisa lezi zimpawu ezintathu ukunqumela ukuthi kufanele uyithathe nini futhi nini, uzosebenzisa amandla amancane ngokomzwelo futhi kungenzeka uxazulule inkinga ngokushesha kunokuba ubungeke wenze ngenye indlela. Futhi, lokho kungenye ye- imiphumela enempilo ye ukulala ngolaka.
Ungavimba futhi ukuthi udaba lungabe lusadlulela phambili.
Empeleni, ukukhetha “ukuyibeka eshalofini” kudala indawo ephephile yokuveza imizwa yakho, ukwazi ukwazi nokuqonda okwenziwa umlingani wakho kanye nokuxazulula izinkinga.
Isikhathi sokuphuma siwine-win-win!