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- 1. Ukuntuleka kokutshala imali komunye nomunye nasemshadweni wakho
- 2. Lawula amaDrama
- 3. Ukukhohlwa ngobudlelwano bakho
- 4. Ukulindela okungenangqondo noma okucatshangwayo
Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi amazinga ezehlukaniso avame ukuba phezulu. Isehlukaniso siyisongo sangempela kunoma yimuphi umbhangqwana naphezu kokuningi, uma kungeyona yonke imibhangqwana eshada ngaphandle kwesifiso sesehlukaniso! Izinkinga zezezimali kanye nokuxhumana okungekuhle ngezinye zezizathu ezinkulu futhi ezisobala zokuthi kungani imishado ihluleka. Kepha kunezinye izizathu zokuthi kungani imishado ihluleka futhi ezingavame ukunganakwa. Ezinye zalezi zizathu ziyamangaza futhi zibukeka ziyinhlekisa, kanti ezinye zisobala (isb., Ukungathembeki, noma ukuhlukumeza). Uma wenza iphuzu lokuqonda ezinye zezizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani imishado ihluleka futhi ufunde ukuthi ungawuvikela kanjani umshado wakho kulezi zinselelo, uzogcina impilo ende, injabulo, kanye nempilo yomshado wakho ukuwugcina useminyakeni eminingi ezayo.
Nazi izizathu ezinhlanu ezimangazayo zokuthi kungani imishado ihluleka, kanye nolunye ulwazi lokuthi ungawuvikela kanjani umshado wakho ezinkingeni ezinjalo
1. Ukuntuleka kokutshala imali komunye nomunye nasemshadweni wakho
Ukubeka isikhathi sakho ekufundeni ukuthi yini ehilelekile ekwenzeni umshado usebenze, usebenzela ukuzithuthukisa nasekutshaleni imali ezinhlosweni zakho zempilo ehlanganyelwe njengombhangqwana kubalulekile emishadweni enenjabulo, enempilo futhi ende.
Uma kuziwa ekubambeni umsebenzi, siyazi ukuthi sidinga ukufaka imali kumakhono wokuthola nokugcina impumelelo kepha ngenxa yesizathu esithile esingajwayelekile, asihlali sicabanga ukuthi sidinga noma yimaphi amakhono okusimamisa umshado. Ukungatshali imali emshadweni wakho nokuthuthuka kwakho kuyingozi enkulu futhi ongagwema kalula kuyo.
Qiniseka ukuthi umshado wakho uhlala uqinile ngokunaka ukukhula kwakho komuntu siqu kanye nomshado; Ukwelulekwa kwezithandani, izincwadi, nokuzibophezela ekusebenziseni amahora ambalwa isonto ngalinye ukuhlola impilo yakho yomshado nobudlelwano bakho ndawonye zonke izindlela ongaqala ngazo ukwenza utshalomali olunjalo. Lapho-ke ukusebenza ngokubambisana ukwamukela noma ukwenza noma yiziphi izinguquko ezidingekayo, ngaphandle kokusolwa noma ukwahlulelwa, kuzoqinisekisa ukuthi ungathikha lesi sizathu esivamile sokuthi kungani imishado yehluleka ohlwini lwakho lwezinsongo emshadweni wakho.
2. Lawula amaDrama
Kaningi kungahle kube khona "amadrama wokulawula" angadingeki akhona ngendlela esixhumana ngayo nabalingani bethu. Ngokwesibonelo; singaveza ukwehluleka ukuthethelela ophathina bethu, sithukuthele ngokuthola inselelo encane ekuziphatheni kwethu, sithambekele kukho konke esikwenzayo ukuze sigweme ukuba nezingxoxo ezizwakalayo, noma sidlale umhlaseli noma isisulu. Imidlalo enjalo yokulawula ingaba yisizathu esenza imishado yehluleke.
Lapho singakwazi ukubona ukuthi sixhumana kanjani, ikakhulukazi, ukuthi sikugwema kanjani ukubhekana nanoma yikuphi ukuziphatha kwethu okunzima, amaphethini, kanye nemizwa engaphansi, kungaba nzima ukuxoxa ngokuthula ngezinkinga abantu abaningi abashadile ababhekana nazo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Bese siphinda ngokuqhubekayo izindlela zethu zokuziphatha - siveza amadrama wethu wokulawula kuwo wonke abangane bethu bomshado nezingane. Iphethini engalokothi inikeze noma ngubani oshade naye ithuba lokukhula noma lokuxazulula umehluko wabo, noma lokuphilisa okwedlule. Izinkinga ezinjena zingaba nomthelela emshadweni ongenampilo futhi oqhelelene ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Le yinkinga elula ukuyixazulula, ifaka nje ukucabanga ngokwakho, ukuze ukwazi ukubona amaphethini akho nokuziphatha kwakho, kanye nokuzimisela ukuba sengozini, nokunciphisa izivikelo zakho. Futhi uma ufakaza ngokuziphatha koshade naye, kuzodingeka unikeze indawo engagwebi, ebekezelelayo koshade naye ukuthi aveze ubuthakathaka babo obuyimbangela, ukwesaba noma ukukhathazeka (okuyilokho abakuvikela ngamadrama abo okulawula).
3. Ukukhohlwa ngobudlelwano bakho
Kuyahlekisa ukuthi kwezinye izimo iqiniso lokuthi umbhangqwana oshadile libonakala lengeza ingcindezi ebuhlotsheni obenzeke ngaphambi. Vele, sonke siyazi ukuthi umshado uthatha umsebenzi, kepha ngandlela thile yonke into iqala ukuba yimbi kakhulu ngezindlela ezithile kunalokho okudingeka ibe yikho. Umshado umayelana nokwakha impilo ndawonye, futhi yebo lokho kudinga ukusebenza, kepha inkinga ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi ubudlelwano, uthando, nobungane obakheka phakathi kwabashadikazi ngaphambi komshado buye balahleke ‘empilweni yomshado’ futhi lesi ngesinye isizathu esenza imishado yehluleke. Ubudlelwano noma ubungani buyakhohlakala ndawana thile endleleni. Esikhundleni salokho, ingcindezi yenziwa ukugcina umshado.
Uma ucabanga ngomshado njengokuzibophezela ekwakheni impilo ndawonye ehlanganisa izingane, ezezimali, impilo iyonke, nobudlelwano bakho nobungane benu, lapho-ke nizohlala nisondelene. Lokhu kuzogcina uthando, isibopho, nobungani obenze ukuba nobabili nibone ukuthi benifuna ukuphila impilo yenu ndawonye kwasekuqaleni. Uma uhlangana noshade naye ngokubeka ubungani nesibopho onaso ngaphambili; maduzane uzobhekana nezinye zezinselelo zokuphila kube sengathi kuyiphupho.
4. Ukulindela okungenangqondo noma okucatshangwayo
Lesi yisihloko esingahlotshaniswa nokuthi sixhumana kanjani kahle; yisizathu esikhulu esenza ukuthi imishado yehluleke. Kepha kulula ukuphatha.
Sivame ukuba nokulindelwe ngabalingani bethu noma abanye abantu abasizungezile okuhlala kusishiya sidumazekile lapho oshade naye engakwenzi lokho okulindelwe. Lokho iningi lethu elingakuqapheli ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuhlangabezana nokulindelwe yinoma ngubani - ikakhulukazi uma lokho okulindelwe kungakhulunywa ngamazwi kumuntu okulindeleke ukuthi aziphathe ngendlela ethile!
Kunesizathu esilula salokhu - Sinombono oyingqayizivele wezwe elisizungezile. Sonke sicubungula imininingwane ngokuhlukile. Okuthile okubalulekile futhi okubonakala kunengqondo ngokuphelele kumuntu oyedwa kungahle kungaze kufinyelele ekuqwashiseni ngomunye umuntu, futhi akekho umuntu okhethekile kulesi simo.
Umcabango wokugcina
Ngakho-ke lapho silindele okulindelekile komunye nomunye kodwa singakuvezi komunye nomunye, omunye umuntu akanalo ithuba. Bazokudumaza ngoba bazobe bengazi ukuthi ufunani. Ngakho-ke kunengqondo ukwenza umkhuba wokuxoxa ngokulindelekile kuyo yonke imikhakha yempilo nobudlelwano benu ndawonye. Lokhu akusho ukuthi ngoba unethemba lokuthi oshade naye kufanele enze okulindelwe, kepha kuvula indawo yokuxoxisana, ukuxoxisana, nokuyekethisa. Ukuze ukwazi ukuthola indawo ephakathi nendawo, ngakho-ke bobabili abashadile bazizwe bezwakala futhi bemukelana.