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- 1. Ukusondela akusenethezekile
- 2. Uzobona ukuthi awuhambisani nempilo yonke
- 3. Ukungathembeki emlandweni
- 4. Unenkinga yokuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho zezezimali
- 5. Ubusuvele uhlukana
Sekuphele izinyanga selokhu kwaqubuka ubhadane lwe-COVID-19, futhi ukuvalwa kwe-lockdown kwenziwa emazweni amaningi.
Akekho owaziyo ukuthi kuzohlala isikhathi esingakanani, noma ukuthi isintu siyoba kuphi ekugcineni.
Kepha sengingakutshela manje; uma kuphela imikhawulo, kuzoba nokwanda kokuwohloka kobudlelwano ngemuva kokuvalelwa kwemibhangqwana engashadile.
Ukuphupha ngokuchitha isikhathi ndawonye kuphenduke iphupho elibi. Abanye bake bazibuza izici zobudlelwano phambilini, kepha ukuhlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo kuqhakambise izingqinamba eziyinkinga.
Okubekezeleleke kalula kuvele kwaba yisicefe esikhulu esikhombise imifantu kwezokuxhumana nokwehluka kobuntu, kuqeda ukuhambisana kobudlelwano.
Thatha isibonelo, uCarolina, umakhelwane wami, usanda kuthola ukuthi uGeorge, isinqandamathe sakhe, uyamkhohlisa.
UGeorge, kanye neqembu lakhe “labafana,” bancintisane ukuthi ngubani phakathi kwabo ozolala amantombazane amaningi futhi awafake njengobufakazi eqenjini leWhatsApp.
Ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo kwamphatha kabi kwamenza wabuza nothando lomlingani wakhe, ukwahlulela kwakhe, ukuzizwa ephephile, ukuzihlonipha kwakhe namandla akhe okuthembela futhi.
Ngakho-ke lapho konke lokhu sekudlulile, imibhangqwana eminingi izohlola ubungozi bokuba sebudlelwaneni obumuncu impilo yabo yonke noma ukuthatha isinyathelo esinesibindi nokufuna ukwaneliseka kwenye indawo.
Futhi ngibheja ukuthi eyokugcina kuzoba inketho engcono kwabaningi. Ngoba isipiliyoni sempilo ngesikhathi sokuvalelwa phansi asithokozi kubantu abaningi njengamanje.
Kungaba nezizathu eziningi zokwehlukana nothile, nazi izizathu ezi-5 ezinkulu zokwehlukana kobudlelwano babantu abangashadile ekugcineni kwalokhu kukhiya.
1. Ukusondela akusenethezekile
Okuhlangenwe nakho kokuhlala ndawonye kweminye imibhangqwana kube yiphupho elibi. Ezinye izinkinga zobudlelwano zikhuphukile ngenxa yokwabelana cishe ngayo yonke into yasendlini.
Lokhu kukhulise wonke ama-quirk nokungajwayelekile okungenzeka ukuthi ngaphambili bekunganakwa, ngokungafani nabantu abangashadile abaphila kamnandi.
Isikhathi eside kunabo bonke, abantu abaningi basebenzise isikhathi sabo esiningi bexhumana ngokuthumela imiyalezo. Lapho-ke ubhadane lwenzeka, futhi lwaphoqa abaningi ukuthi bahlale ndawonye ngeziphazamiso ezingatheni zocingo.
Lo mzuzu kukwenza uqaphele ukuthi uyini, ukuthi yini abayifunayo, nokuthi bangobani. Okubukeka kukuhle kuyaphela, futhi into engabalulekile engakaze ikukhathaze njengokuthwebula manje iyakucasula.
Iningi labashadikazi abasebasha abebehlala ndawonye bazogcina bezizwa sengathi bahlala nomuntu abangamazi.
Kulabo abasebenza ehhovisi emakhaya bangakudebeselela ukuqonda isidingo sokunaka umlingani wabo, okwenza izimpikiswano ezingadingekile.
Ukwehluleka ukuthola isikhathi nendawo kumlingani wakho kungaba ngesinye sezizathu zokwahlukana lapho ukuphela kokuvala kuphelile.
2. Uzobona ukuthi awuhambisani nempilo yonke
Ukuhambisana okuvezwa kakhulu ukuthi kungani ubudlelwano behluleka futhi bungaba esinye sezizathu ezivelele zokwehlukana ngemuva kokuvalwa.
Bonke ubudlelwano busekelwe esikhathini eside nangekusasa elihlala njalo, kepha lapho ikusasa livivinywa, izinto zihluka ngokuhlukile kunalokho obekulindelekile.
Ekupheleni kwalolu bhubhane lweCovid-19, iningi lobudlelwano luzoqina noma luhlukane.
Imvelo ehlukanisayo ivumele imibhangqwana ukuthi ihlole ukusebenza kozakwethu nge-pragmatism eqinile.
Omunye wenu uzobona ukuthi umlingani wakho akayona into oyifunayo empilweni ngezikhathi ezinzima. Kulimaza eminye imibhangqwana ukuhlala nabalingani abangakwazi ukukhomba imizwa yabo.
Lolu bhubhane luzophoqa abaningi ukuthi babone ukuthi aluhambisani futhi luzolungiselela ukubhekana nokwehlukana ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
3. Ukungathembeki emlandweni
Kuzo zonke izizathu zokwehlukana ngemuva kokukhiya phansi, okumangalisa kakhulu ukungathembeki.
Enye yezinzuzo zobhadane ezifihlekile ukuthi ukuhlukaniswa nabanye kwenza kube nzima ukufihla izindaba zomzimba.
Izikhathi zokusebenza ezinde, uhambo lwebhizinisi, nokuzijabulisa nabangane kuyizaba nje. Iningi lingacabanga ukuthi ubhadane luzozinciphisa izindaba, kepha ngokusobala, iningi labantu lijabule ngokuthi selibe yingozi kangakanani futhi lisazigcina izindaba.
Abantu bazobeka engcupheni konke ukuya ocansini, noma sebenqatshelwe ukwephula isikhala samamitha ayisithupha, ngesikhathi sobhadane.
I-Ashley Madison, iwebhusayithi ebhekelela abantu abafuna izindaba, ibika ukubhaliswa okusha kwe-17,000 nsuku zonke selokhu kwaqala ubhadane. Lokhu kukhuphuka okukhulu kuqhathaniswa nokubhaliswa kwe-15,500 ku-2019.
Ukukhungatheka kobudlelwano kududule abaningi ukuthi babe nezindaba zokuthi bazizwe bephila futhi bangabi bodwa ngalesi sikhathi esinzima. Ngokudabukisayo, iningi lisebenzisa abanye nje okwesikhashana ukuze baphile kulo bhubhane.
Iningi labo litholakala ngenkathi benza ucansi lwe-inthanethi, "bathatha isikhathi eside kakhulu ukuthenga ukudla," bathumelelana imiyalezo yocansi, behamba njalo kusihlwa, futhi bashaya nezingcingo ezixakile ebusuku. Imibhangqwana eminingi izoshiya lapho iphakamisa ukuhlukaniswa.
Njengoba uSheridan abhalile, "Isehlukaniso SeseShayina Esiyisixwayiso Emhlabeni Wonke Ovalelekile." Lokhu, futhi, kuyasebenza emibhangqwaneni engashadile.
4. Unenkinga yokuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho zezezimali
Imali ibilokhu ingenye yezizathu eziphezulu zokwehlukana. Njengoba ukuvinjelwa kushaye amandla ezomnotho nawokwezimali emibhangqwaneni, ubudlelwano babo buyaphela.
E-US, abantu baseMelika abangaphezu kwezigidi ezingama-40 balahlekelwe yimisebenzi futhi bafuna izinzuzo. Ngenkathi inzuzo yomshwalense wokungasebenzi inciphisa ubunzima bezezimali, akwanele ukwanelisa zonke izidingo.
Okubi kakhulu akukenzeki. Ibhizinisi nezinkampani kuzothatha isikhathi ukuphindaphinda, okungahle kwenzeke ngesivinini esincane okwenza kube nzima ngabo ukuqasha emuva ngejubane elibekiwe.
Lapho izidingo zomlingani wakho zingenakutholakalela ukusinda, lo mbhangqwana ulwela ukwahlukanisa ukuthi izindaba zemali yizona zizathu zokuqala zokwehlukana, futhi ubudlelwano nakanjani buzophela.
Ukuhlukumezeka ngokwengqondo kuphazamisa laba bobabili, futhi manje sekuwumbuzo wokuthi ukuhlukaniswa nini kuzophela nini ukuthi uyeke.
Ngokuqondene nabantu abashadile, amacala esehlukaniso azoba mancane ngenxa yobunzima bezomnotho. Izimali zizothatha ukushaya okukhulu kulabo abangacabanga ukubhekana nakho.
Izindleko ezijwayelekile zesehlukaniso zingama- $ 15,000 umuntu ngamunye. Abacebile bangaqhubeka nayo ngenxa yokuwa kwenani lemakethe yamasheya, banikeze ithuba lokuhlukanisa lapho imiphumela yezezimali incane.
Bheka futhi: Ungayiphatha kanjani imali yakho.
5. Ubusuvele uhlukana
Abanye abantu babevele bebonile ukuthi ubudlelwane babo babubenza okubi kakhulu futhi bahlukana ngaphambi kokuba uhulumeni aqale ukukhiya.
Abanenhlanhla bathole izizathu ezifanele zokwehlukana nentombi / isoka labo ngaphambi kokuthi babhekane nenkinga yokuhlala ndawonye. Abanye abantu benza amalungiselelo okuphila ahlukene ukuze bakusebenze kamuva ngemuva kokuba ubhadane luphelile.
Kulabo abakhetha ukuhlala ndawonye kuze kube sekupheleni kwalo bhubhane, ubudlelwano buzobe sebukhiphe izimpi ezingenasidingo.
Ukuhlakanipha okujwayelekile kuseluleka ukuthi singenzi masinyane izinqumo ezishintsha impilo ngezikhathi zenjabulo nezikhathi zokuxineka; ubuchopho bethu bomuntu abukwazi ukucabanga ngokunengqondo lapho bungaphansi kwemizwelo ejulile.
Iningi labantu lizovuma ukuthi uma inhliziyo isiphukile futhi izala, ukunikeza umuntu isikhala kubaluleke kakhulu ekucabangeni nasekuphiliseni, yingakho umzamo wokubuyisana emuva ubancane.
Iningi labantu abahlangana ndawonye okwesikhashana abanalutho abangakusho komunye nomunye ngaphandle kokuthi “hey.” Ubudlelwano obuningi bubhekene nesikhathi esinzima, futhi lezo ezizosinda zizoqina.