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- ISINYATHELO 1: Yamukela
- Isinyathelo 2: Yeka ukubeka ubuso obungamanga
- ISINYATHELO 3: Yiba khona njalo
- ISINYATHELO 4: Xhumana nesitatimende esithi "NGINGUYE ..."
- ISINYATHELO 5: Prakthiza Ukubekezela
“Angisathandani.” Ngizwile kaningi ngenkathi ngiseseshini namakhasimende. Heck, ngisho ngisho nami uqobo. Lokho kungewona umuzwa "Othandweni", Kuyini? Luyini uthando? Ebudlelwaneni, ukuba sothandweni kusho izinto ezihlukile kubantu abahlukene. Ngiyazi kimi kuyasebenza. Ukuwa othandweni kusho ukuthi akukho ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo, akukho ukusondelana. Indlu ayikwazi ukuma esisekelweni esingesihle.
AbakwaGottman's, umbhangqwana ohamba phambili emkhakheni wezokwelulekwa kwezithandani, bakhe lo mkhuba wesisekelo esinempilo sobudlelwano obusebenzayo. Ibizwa ngokuthi ubudlelwano obuzwakalayo. Izinhlangothi zendlu zifanekisela ukuzibophezela nokwethembana. Lezo yizindonga ezihlanganisa indlu ndawonye. Futhi uma lezo zinto ezimbili zibuthakathaka, singabheka phakathi, okuphethe izindawo ezahlukahlukene zobudlelwano ndawonye. Owokuqala yiLove Maps. Kalula nje, le yindawo yokuwela othandweni, futhi le yindawo edinga ukunakekelwa kakhulu.
Umbuzo: Uyakhumbula ukuthi nathandana kanjani nomlingani wakho? Iyini indaba yakho yothando? Phambi kwezingane, ngaphambi kokubolekwa kwemali kanye nokuxokozela kokuhambisana nje nempilo yansuku zonke; IYINI INDABA YAKHO YOTHANDO? Yini eniyenze ndawonye? Uyephi? Ukhulume ngani? Singakanani isikhathi enisichithe ndawonye?
Ukuvuselela indaba yakho yothando kubalulekile ebudlelwaneni obukhulayo. Yeka ukuwenza uzwakale njengomsebenzi, bese uqala ukujabulela ukuba ndawonye futhi. Ukulahlekelwa yilokho kwehla kothando akusho ukuthi ubudlelwano kufanele buphele. Kusho nje ukuthi idinga ukuvuselelwa. Chaza kabusha okufunayo nokudingayo. Kusho ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ukuvuswa kokuxhumana okungokomzwelo kuvuswe. Yini leyo? Ungabuza. Lokho kuyasebenza noma empeleni kufundwa ukukhuluma, ukuxoxa nokwabelana omunye nomunye njengomlingani wakho ungumngane osondelene naye ongamtshela noma yini, futhi ngempela ungajabula nabo. Lowo muntu, ongahluleli, usalalela futhi afune ukuqonda, angagcini ngokusabela kulokhu okushiwoyo. Lapho abanye abantu bezwa imizwa, bathambekele ekugoqeni nasekugedleni amazinyo. Lapho amehlo angahle aqumbe. Ngivele ngihleke.
Masikwenze kube lula. Njengabantu, Sonke sinemizwa. Ukuzwa ukuthukuthela umuzwa. Ukuzizwa ukhathele umuzwa.
Imizwelo intambo ejwayelekile esibophayo ngaphandle kokungafani kwethu. Ake sihlukanise igama, Umzwelo- E-Motion. Isiqalo E sisho ukuphuma nokunyakaza isenzo sokunyakaza. Ngakho-ke, imizwa yakho iphume enqubweni ehambayo, futhi ekugcineni ubuhlobo obunempilo, obunothando, obusebenzayo, obujabulisayo. Ukuhamba kobudlelwano ukuqhubeka nokukhuphuka kumnyakazo okhanyayo.
Nayi inselelo yesinyathelo sokuqalisa 5 okufanele usicabangele:
ISINYATHELO 1: Yamukela
Kuthatha ukuvuleleka kunqubo yokwamukela okuhlangenwe nakho okusha okungenzeka kungabi yinto ejwayelekile kuwe. Thola ulwazi olusha ngokwenza okuthile okuhlukile ndawonye noma okuthile ongakwenzanga isikhashana. Noma ngabe ekuqaleni, uyanqikaza ngoba ifayela le-
"Othandweni" umuzwa awukho. Njengoba isiqubulo senkampani yezicathulo zakwaNike sihamba sithi, “Just Do It.” Lokho ukubaluleka kokwenza kusebenze ukunyakaza kobudlelwano ukuze kuguqulwe. Kufanele kube nengxenye yesenzo. Lokho ukunyakaza kwe-E-motion.
Isinyathelo 2: Yeka ukubeka ubuso obungamanga
Lokhu kusho ukuthi qala ukufunda ukwethembeka ngendlela ozizwa ngayo, nozakwenu athembeke kuwe. Ngihlala ngibuza amaklayenti ami ukuthi unjani futhi uzizwa unjani? Izimo ezimbili ezihlukene zokuba; Ukuthi usebenza kanjani kukha phezulu, ngenkathi uzinika isikhathi sokuzihlolela wena nozakwenu okwenza ukuthi ususe isifihla-buso. Okuhle akuwona umuzwa. Okuhle akuwona umuzwa. Qala ukuzwelana nemizwa, ukunyakaza emzimbeni wakho. Umuzwa ukhathele, uthokozile, udabukile, ujabule, ukhathazekile, njll. Hlanganyela kulowo muzwa, bese uqala ukuhlola imizwa onayo ngaphakathi kuwe ukuze uziqonde wena kuqala, ukuze ukwazi ukudlulisa lokho kumlingani wakho; nomlingani wakho kufanele alalele ngokuzama ukuqonda. Ungasabeli, ungaphenduli, ungavikeli, kepha ube lapho.
ISINYATHELO 3: Yiba khona njalo
Ngiyazi ukuthi kunjani ukuba nokuningi engqondweni yakho ukuthi awukho okwamanje nomlingani wakho. Ucabanga ngokulungiselela izingane isikole. Kufanele uyiqedele kanjani leyo projekthi emsebenzini? Yiziphi izikweletu okusamele zikhokhwe ??? YEKA NJE!
Misa kancane, Yehlisa ijubane, Phefumula! Lapho wenza ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo nomlingani wakho. Yiba okwamanje. Lesi yisikhathi sokungazideli. Beka i-ajenda yakho eceleni bese uzinika isikhathi sokuqonda umhlaba womlingani wakho ngaphandle kokunikeza izeluleko noma ukwahlulela ngaphandle kokuthi umlingani wakho acele izeluleko. KHONA!
Yenza umzamo wokuzibeka ezicathulweni zomlingani wakho bese ubona ukuthi ungazizwa kanjani, noma uma ungakwazi ukukhuluma. Buza. Gwema umbuzo othi Kungani. Ayimemi ingxoxo eguquguqukayo futhi emnandi. Buza, "Kwenzeka kanjani?" Yini ekwenza uzizwe ngaleyondlela? Kwenzakalani?" Yiba nelukuluku futhi ubonise ukukhathazeka ngokukhombisa ukuthi ufuna ukwazi ukuthi kwenzekani emhlabeni womlingani wakho. Ngena kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo.
ISINYATHELO 4: Xhumana nesitatimende esithi "NGINGUYE ..."
Izitatimende ze- "I AM" zithatha ubunikazi besipiliyoni sakho, futhi zisusa ukugxila kokudingayo nokufunayo. Cha, ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo akusho ukuthi, “Ngidinga wena .... Bese, ukuxhumana kungavinjelwa ngoba ukugxila kushintshelwa ekusolweni esikhundleni sezibopho zomuntu siqu zalokho“ engikudingayo nengikufunayo esikhundleni salokho okwenziwa ngumlingani wakho akulungile. Isitatimende esiqala ngo- “Wena” singaholela emizweni yolaka, ukuzivikela nokuzihlukanisa.
ISINYATHELO 5: Prakthiza Ukubekezela
Ukuwa kothando akuzange kwenzeke ngokuphazima kweso. Yakha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Yilapho izinzuzo zokululekwa kwezithandani zingena esithombeni ukusiza ukucubungula umbono womlingani ngamunye ukuze aqonde lapho ukuwohloka kwenzeke khona, yiziphi izinto ezingekho ebudlelwaneni obungahle bube nomthelela kubo, nokuthi ububuyisa kanjani ubuhlobo noma buqale ukudala isimo sokuzwana phakathi kukazakwethu ngamunye. Khumbula, kuyinqubo. Yenza isinqumo esiqondile sokuthi ufuna ubudlelwano, futhi uzimisele ukwenza okudingekayo ukuze ube nobudlelwano obunempilo, nothando. Kungenzeka ukuvuselela isici sothando.
Ungakwena lokhu! Thembela inqubo.