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- I-conundrum yokuba ngumzali
- Izindiza ezinophephela emhlane
- Ukukhuliswa
- Ukubeka isibonelo
- Kushiwo izinto eziza kuqala
- Incazelo yomlingani wokuphila
- Ungalinganisa kanjani uthando lwakho?
Ubani omthanda kakhulu, izingane zakho, noma oshade naye? Noma ngubani oza kuqala 'owakwakhe noma izingane'? Ungazihluphi ngokuphendula. Engqondweni nasenhliziyweni yakho, uyazi ukuthi ngubani.
Le ndatshana ayisiyo inzuzo nobubi bokuthola impendulo eyiyo yombuzo obuzwe ngenhla. Kunalokho kuyincazelo yempendulo eyiyo yokuthi kungani kufanele ucabangele ukubeka oshade naye phambili, kusekelwa ngochwepheshe nezifundo emhlabeni jikelele.
Ngakho-ke, ubani okufanele umthande kakhulu?
Ukuphendula ngokuqinile, kufanele kube owakwakho othola uthando lwakho hhayi ingane yakho.
Kungani oshade naye kufanele eze kuqala? Ake sibhekane nayo ngesizathu esisodwa ngasikhathi.
I-conundrum yokuba ngumzali
UDavid Code, umqeqeshi womndeni nombhali we “Ukukhulisa Izingane Ezijabulayo, Beka Umshado Wakho Kuqala,” uthi into engabeka umqondo wakho ekunikezeni uthando olungenamibandela ezinganeni zakho.
Ukwephula izinganekwane zokukhulisa izingane ngezansi kunamaphuzu athile okusekela impikiswano ethi "ukuthanda oshade naye kakhulu".
Izindiza ezinophephela emhlane
Ukunakwa okwengeziwe okunikezwa izingane uma kuqhathaniswa nowakwakho kungathatha isikhathi ukuphendukela enophephela emhlane. Njengoba unikeza isikhala empilweni yomuntu oshade naye, kufanele kube nesikhala empilweni yezingane zakho.
Lapho uzobandakanyeka kakhulu noshade naye emisebenzini yansuku zonke, kulapho izingane zakho zizoqala ukuhlola ubuntu bakhe.
Ukukhuliswa
Inganekwane ukuthi, izingane zidinga ukwakheka okuningi kusuka ekugcineni kwakho ukuze zenze abantu abajabulayo nabangcono. Njengoba igagasi lokucindezeleka kwengqondo lishaya ngamandla, kusobala ukuthi le nkolelo iholela ingane yakho ukuthi ibe yidinga futhi ithembele kunokuba ijabule.
Ukuphatha izingane zakho njengesinqumo sesibili kungaphezu komcabango othile wobugovu; kungenxa yempilo yabo nenhlalakahle yabo.
Ukubeka isibonelo
Izingane zilandela lokho ezikubonayo, noma ngabe kuyimfashini, ukugqamisa, noma imikhuba. Kungaleso sizathu-ke abanye abazali behamba beyofuna izingane zabo, ukuze babelane ngesibopho futhi bagxilise ukufana okuthile bese bebeka uphawu lwentengiso ebudlelwaneni babo.
Ukubeka isibonelo sempilo yakho yothando noma isibopho noshade naye yilokho abazokulandela esikhathini esithile sokuphila.
Akufanele babone imishado ephukile nezimpilo zomndeni ezilimele. Ukuhlonipha nokuthanda nokubeka oshade naye phambili yilokho okungabeka isibonelo esihle sobudlelwano.
Kushiwo izinto eziza kuqala
Lapho usho ngokuzwakalayo izinto eziza kuqala kuwe, izingane zakho zithola umqondo wokuthi umndeni ayingxenye yawo awuphuli.
Iningi le- Imindeni ehola izehlukaniso ayivezi ukuthi izizwa kanjani futhi ubeke noma yimuphi umsebenzi ongabalulekile ngaphezu komshado wabo ochithekayo.
Ngaphandle kwezingane, lapho usho izinto eziza kuqala kuwe ngokuthinta okuncane kothando ngakumlingani wakho futhi, kuza umqondo wokupheleliswa emndenini.
Incazelo yomlingani wokuphila
Lokho abeluleki bezemishado nabaqeqeshi bendlela yokuphila abeluleke ngayo futhi bayincoma ngokuqinile iminyaka ukuthi “Thola isizathu, inhloso noma umsebenzi owenza injongo yomshado wakho.”
Ngaphambi kokufunda eminye imibuzo, kufanele ulethe uhlangothi lwakho olunengqondo. Kungani ungacabangi ngengane njengaleso sizathu sokuhlala ndawonye?
Kungani ukwenza kube ukuphela kwento ebalulekile empilweni yakho? Kungani ungabi yiqembu ngokufanayo? Ngemuva kwakho konke, wedlula iminyaka yakho yobudala, umlingani wakho wokuphila nguye kuphela ozobe ekufanele.
Awuzwakali ukhanga? Kulungile, ake sithathe omunye umbono.
UKarl Pillemer, waseCornell University, uxoxisane nemibhangqwana engama-700 “ngezifundo ezingama-30 Zothando”.
Uthi encwadini yakhe, “Kwakumangalisa ukuthi bambalwa kangakanani kubo ababekhumbula isikhathi ababesichithe bodwa nomlingani wabo - kwaba yilokho ababekunikele ngakho.
Ngokuphindaphindiwe, abantu babuyela ezingqondweni ku-50 noma ku-55 futhi abakwazi ukuya endaweni yokudlela baxoxe ”.
Manje, lokhu kungazwakala kusabeka kancane ngenkathi kufundwa, kepha kuzwakala kubi kakhulu empilweni yamuva, enesizungu, futhi engenalutho.
Ngakho-ke imfihlo yempilo yomshado ejabulisayo ukubeka owakwakho kuqala. Uma ukwazi ukuthola ubudlelwano obunempilo nomlingani wakho, ukuba umzali kuba lula njengomzamo weqembu wabo bobabili.
Uma ngithi iqembu, kungiletha kolunye udaba oludinga ukulungiswa. Abashadile akuwona nje amalungu eqembu ohambweni lwakho lwempilo; bangabathandi bakho nabalingani bakho okhethe ukuhlala nabo impilo yakho yonke.
Izingane zingumphumela waleso sinqumo, ngakho-ke, kufanele uphikelele ukubeka umlingani wakho ngaphambi kwezingane zakho.
Ungalinganisa kanjani uthando lwakho?
Uma usakuthola kunzima ukulinganisela uthando lwakho ngokufanele phakathi kwengane yakho noshade naye, ungahamba ngezinyathelo zezingane.
Ukubeka oshade naye kuqala kulula. Odinga ukukwenza ukubaphatha ngendlela obaphathe ngayo ngenkathi besathandana / intombi yakho.
Izingane zakho zizobona ubuhlobo obunempilo buqhakaza endlini yazo, bube nomthelela omuhle ezimpilweni zazo.
Impilo imatasa kulezi zinsuku, ikakhulukazi uma unezingane, ngakho-ke nezimanga ezincane nezenzo zomzimba kungenza umshado wakho usebenze kahle.
Ngeke kudingeke ucabange ngesihloko ozokhuluma ngaso uma usuvele wabelana ngemicabango yakho ngalokho obhekene nakho.
Ukushada nokuba nezingane akusho ukuthi kufanele uyeke ukuba uhlelo lokuxhasana.
Ubheka ingxenye yezingane yothando. Kufanele nakanjani bathole ukunakwa okuphuthumayo, ngoba zonke izinsuku lapho besebancane zibalulekile empilweni yabo yakamuva.
Yikuphi ukunakwa nothando esikhulume ngakho lapha okufana nemizamo yesikhathi eside, ezinzile neqhubekayo odinga ukuyinikeza umshado wakho, kepha okufunwa yizingane isikhathi esifushane, ukuxazulula izinkinga zazo ezenzeka ngokushesha.
Yamukela ukukhetha okungathandeki kokubeka oshade naye ngaphambi kwengane yakho ngokuya ngothando lwakho nokunaka kwakho. Umzila wawo, uyasebenza!