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- Nquma 'ngegama eliphephile' elivimbela ukukhuphuka kwezimpikiswano
- Sungula incazelo ngemuva kwegama eliphephile
- Ukusebenzisa leli thuluzi kudinga ukuzijwayeza
Kwesinye isikhathi ngesikhathi sezimpikiswano, noma ngabe sazi kahle ukuthi yini okudingeka siyenze, sinezinsuku ezingekho emsebenzini. Mhlawumbe uvukele ohlangothini olungalungile lombhede noma mhlawumbe wagxekwa emsebenzini. Ukuvimbela ukuphikisana akukaze kube yiseyili ebushelelezi.
Uzibuza ukuthi ungazivikela kanjani izingxabano ebudlelwaneni?
Kunokuhlukahluka okuningi okufaka isandla esimeni sethu semizwa nangokwengqondo nangokomzwelo okungasenza singakhethi noma sikwazi ukusebenzisa amathuluzi ethu ngesikhathi sezimpikiswano. Ngakho-ke, yini okufanele uyenze lapho ungumuntu futhi ushibilika, okwenza ukukhuphuka engxoxweni? Kunamathuluzi ambalwa alusizo ongawasebenzisa lapho uhlose ukuvimbela ukuphikisana.
Ithuluzi elilodwa mina nomyeni wami esalisebenzisa onyakeni wethu wokuqala emshadweni lapho ukucindezeleka kwakukukhulu futhi sasifunda ukuthi singasebenzisana kanjani nobuntu bethu futhi sivimbele ukuxabana, yizwi eliphephile. Manje kumele nginikeze udumo lapho kufanele khona futhi bekungukungqubuzana kwami okuza nalombono omuhle.
Yayisetshenziswa lapho izingxabano zethu zazinyuka ziye ezingeni lokuthi kungabe kusabuywa. Ngaleso sikhathi ezimpilweni zethu, asikwazanga ukwehla futhi sasidinga indlela esheshayo yokuhlenga ubusuku nokungabangeli ukulimala okwengeziwe. Amagama aphephile emibhangqwaneni kwakuyindlela yethu yokuxhumana nomunye ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokumisa indawo yesehlakalo.
Nquma 'ngegama eliphephile' elivimbela ukukhuphuka kwezimpikiswano
Indlela enhle yokwenza nokusebenzisa leli thuluzi ukukhomba iphethini engemihle obekulukhuni ukuyiphula. Iphethini yethu engeyinhle yayishubisa impikiswano kuze kube yilapho omunye wethu enyusa izwi noma ehamba ethukuthele. Okulandelayo, khetha igama ndawonye elingenakubangela ukuthi iphethini elibi liqhubeke. Amagama amahle aphephile ayithuluzi elibaluleke kakhulu lokwehlisa impikiswano.
Sisebenzise igama eliphephile elithi "amabhaluni" ukuvikela izimpikiswano. Kwakubalulekile kumyeni wami ukusebenzisa igama elingathathi hlangothi elingenakuthathwa ngendlela engeyinhle. Cabanga ngakho, uma abanye bememeza ‘ngamabhaluni’ empikiswaneni, noma ngabe ukusho kanjani, kunzima ukukuthukuthelisa.
Lisho ukuthini igama eliphephile? Igama eliphephile lazisa omunye umuntu ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha kalula noma sokuma lapho izinto ziba nzima. Lithini igama elihle eliphephile? Igama elihle eliphephile yigama noma isiginali evumela omunye umuntu azi isimo somzwelo okuso futhi idweba umngcele ngaphambi kokuba omunye umlingani eqe imingcele nezinto zikhule ngokungalungiseki.
Ufuna iziphakamiso zamagama eziphephile? Eminye imibono yamagama ephephile ithi “kubomvu” ngoba ikhombisa ubungozi, noma ikhombisa ukuma kakhulu. Esinye sezibonelo zamagama eziphephile ukusebenzisa into elula njengegama lezwe. Noma ngenye indlela, unganqamula iminwe yakho noma usebenzise ukushukuma kwesandla okungasongeli. Amanye amagama avamile aphephile asebenza njengomlingo ngamagama ezithelo afana, ikhabe, ubhanana noma i-kiwi!
Igama eliphephile okuvunyelwene ngalo ngokusizana lisiza umlingani ukuthi aqonde ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuma!
Sungula incazelo ngemuva kwegama eliphephile
Manje njengoba unezwi engqondweni lokuvimbela izimpikiswano, isinyathelo esilandelayo ukuthuthukisa incazelo ngemuva kwaso. Kithina, igama elithi 'amabhaluni' lalisho ukuthi "sidinga ukuma size sehlise umoya sobabili." Okokugcina, xoxani ngemithetho engemuva kwayo. Imithetho yethu bekungukuthi ngubani othi 'amabhaluni', ngomunye umuntu okufanele aqale ingxoxo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Isikhathi esingemuva ngeke sibe ngaphezu kosuku kamuva ngaphandle kokuthi kwaziswe uzakwethu. Njengoba le mithetho ilandelwa, sibe nomuzwa wokuthi izidingo zethu ziyalungiswa futhi impikiswano yokuqala ingaxazululwa. Ngakho-ke, ukubuyekeza iphethini elibi, igama, incazelo yegama nemithetho yokusetshenziswa kwalo.
Ukusebenzisa leli thuluzi kudinga ukuzijwayeza
Leli thuluzi alizange libe lula ekuqaleni.
Kuthathe ukuzijwayeza nokuzibamba ngokomzwelo ukulandela ngakho ukuvimbela ukuphikisana. Njengoba sithuthuka kancane kancane emakhonweni ethu okuxhumana naleli thuluzi, manje asikaze size sisebenzise isikhathi eside futhi ukwaneliseka komshado wethu kuthuthuke kakhulu. Njengoba wakhela lokhu ebudlelwaneni bakho, yazi ukuthi ungaqhamuka namagama amaningi aphephile ezimweni ezahlukahlukene namaphethini amabi asiza ekuvimbeleni ukuphikisana. Zama ukudala eyodwa kusihlwa (ngaphambi kwengxabano).