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Kukangaki sinaka amarobhothi wempilo yethu? Kuphephile yini ukusebenzisa ilambu elibomvu? Kuthiwani ngokukhanya okuphuzi? Singakuphoqa ukukhanya ukuthi kuguquke kube luhlaza? Amarobhothi ahlobene ngani nomshado?
Indlela ye- “Traffic Lights” ekwelulekeni ngaphambi komshado iphathelene nezingqinamba nezihloko izithandani eziningi ezihlangabezana nazo emshadweni wazo. Inhloso ukuthi kufundiswe ngangokunokwenzeka kuzinselelo ezizayo ukuze zingabi yinkinga uma zenzeka noma zenzeka.
Uma uthando luzokhula futhi luqhakaze, ngabe umshado awudingi isisekelo esihle salokhu ukuthi kwenzeke? Isisekelo solwazi, iqiniso, ukuzethemba, uthando nokwamukelwa kuthuthukisa kakhulu izingqinamba zomshado omude. Uma sizimisele ukubhekana nezinkinga zethu ngaphambi kokuba zibe yizinkinga futhi sithathe izinqumo zokuthi singakwazi yini ukwamukela okungenzeka, khona-ke, futhi kuphela, ngale mfundo, lapho sizolungela ukuqhubekela phambili siqiniseka ukuthi lo mshado uzohlala njalo.
Ukunaka amarobhothi
Endleleni yeLambu Lethrafikhi yokwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado, sicabanga ngezihloko ezingamashumi amabili nanye noma izindaba ezivame ukuhlangana nazo emshadweni. Lezi izi:
- Ubudala,
- Isimo Sengqondo,
- Umsebenzi / Imfundo,
- Izingane,
- Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa,
- Ukuzivocavoca / Impilo,
- Ubungani,
- Imigomo,
- Abasekhweni,
- Ubuqotho,
- Isikhathi sonethezeka,
- Indawo yokuhlala,
- Kubukeka / ukuheha,
- Imali, (isizathu esikhulu esenza abantu bahlukanise)
- Isimilo / isimilo,
- Ukuba ngumzali,
- Ezombusazwe,
- Inkolo,
- Ubulili / ukusondelana
Kunconyiwe - Inkambo Yangaphambi Komshado
Kule nqubo, umuntu ngamunye ozoba umlingani ucabanga ngesihloko esisodwa ngasikhathi, isibonelo, "imali." Ngifaka uhlu lwemibuzo enemininingwane ngesihloko esikhethiwe. Ngemuva kwalokho lowo ozoba umlingani wabelana ngesimo noma umbono abalindele ukuwulandela ngemuva kokushada. Olingane elalelayo akahluleli kepha ubuza imibuzo kuphela, uma kunesidingo, ukucacisela ukuthi ingoduso yabo imi kuphi.
Lena akuyona indawo yokuxoxisana ngemibono. Inhloso ukunquma ukuthi lokho abakuzwayo kwabangaba ngabalingani babo mayelana nesihloko esithile kwamukelekile yini kubo.
Lapho umlaleli ezwa ukuthi basiqonda ngokuphelele isimo salowo abangaba umlingani wakhe, ngibe sengibacela ukuthi banikeze isilinganiso besebenzisa isingathekiso samarobhothi:
OLUHLAZA kusho ukuthi "Ngiyakuthanda engikuzwayo, futhi anginankinga yokuba nale ndlela yokusebenzisa imali> emshadweni."
OKUPHUZU ukukhanya kusho ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda okunye engikuzwayo kodwa ngithemba ukuthi enye indlela engizoshada naye izokwehluka ngemuva kokushada.” Lokhu kuyingozi — njengokukhanyisa ilambu eliphuzi. Ungahle ulunge, kepha ????
BOMVU ukukhanya kusho ukuthi indlela ozoshada naye ngayo kulesi sihloko iphula isivumelwano. Uzizwa uphikisana nokuningi okuzwayo futhi ungakuthola kunzima ukuba nakho emshadweni wakho.
Izindleko Zomshado Ezimaphakathi
Yize izindleko zesifunda zehluka kakhulu, izindleko zomshado ezijwayelekile e-United States ziyakhula kakhulu. Ngokusho kwe- www.costofwedding.com, umshado oseCamarillo, eCalifornia, ngokwesibonelo, ulinganiselwa ku- $ 38, 245 kanti imibhangqwana lapho isebenzisa imali ephakathi kuka- $ 28, 684 no- $ 47,806. Futhi lokhu imvamisa akufaki ngisho nezindleko zekhefu langemva komshado nokunye okwengeziwe! Njengoba kusetshenziswe imali engaka emshadweni, isetshenziswa malini emshadweni? Yikuphi okubaluleke kakhulu, umshado noma umshado?
Ngaphezulu kwengxenye yayo yonke imishado ephela ngesehlukaniso, kusobala ukuthi awukho umzamo owanele otshalwa emshadweni. Kuthiwani uma umbhangqwana utshale imali elinganayo emshadweni njengoba wenza emshadweni? Lokho kungayiguqula imiphumela? Yini edingekayo ukuthuthukisa izingqinamba zomshado ohlala njalo “size sihlukaniswe ukufa”? Ingabe uthando? Imali? Ukuhambisana? Noma mhlawumbe kungenye into? Sazi kangakanani ngempela ngomuntu esikhetha ukushada naye?
Imvamisa, imibhangqwana ehlukanisayo ithi, "Ushintshile (yingakho sahlukanisa)." Isiphetho sabo sithi, "Sahlukana futhi manje sesihlukile." Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abantu abaningi bangavuma futhi babone ukuthi cishe wonke umuntu wehlukile kowakwakhe kusukela osukwini lokuqala lobudlelwano babo, ngakho-ke — ingabe abantu bayashintsha ngempela? Cishe cha. Kepha ngabe sithathe isikhathi sokwazi ngempela lowo esizoshada naye?
Okungenani, ngicabanga ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi sibe nengxoxo ezigabeni zokuqala zokuhlelwa komshado ukwakha uhlelo lokusebenza lokukhomba isisekelo somshado, kwandise amathuba okuphumelela kwawo. Mhlawumbe ukugcizelelwa okusha kokuthi kusho ukuthini ukubandakanyeka kungafaneleka. Njengamanje kwabaningi, ukuthembisana umshado kusho ukuthi “Siyathandana futhi sizoba nomshado omuhle!” Kuthiwani ngomshado omuhle? Mhlawumbe ukuthembisana umshado kusho ukuthi “Ithuba lami lokugcina, elihle kakhulu lokwenza konke engidinga ukukwenza ukuthola izithako ezidingekayo zesisekelo somshado oqinile.”
Inhloso enkulu yohlelo lweLights Traffic akukhona ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izithandani ziyashada yini, kepha kunalokho ukuthi uma benquma ukushada noma sebebukeze lezi zihloko ezingamashumi amabili nanye, bayashada bevule amehlo. Ngokwami ukubona, le nqubo inciphisa isidingo sesehlukaniso. Ngokwenza njalo, sithuthukisa kakhulu amathuba okuthola ulwazi lwangempela, iqiniso, ukuzethemba, uthando nokwamukelwa.