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- 1. Fika ekhasini elifanayo ngaphambi kwesikhathi
- 2. Setha imithetho nemiphumela ndawonye
- 3. Buyisana
- 4. Ungaphikisani phambi kwezingane
- 5. Yiba nezimo ekukhuliseni kwakho
Ushade nothando lwempilo yakho futhi manje wena noshade naye anisakwazi ukulinda ukuba ngabazali. Ubheke phambili ngokulangazela ekubeni nezingane zakho nokwandisa umndeni.
Ngemuva kokuba nezingane, uyaqaphela ukuthi ngenkathi ukuba ngumzali kuletha injabulo nokuzibuza ezimpilweni zakho, futhi kwahambisana nezinkinga zobuzali obungazilindelanga. Lapho abazali bengavumelani maqondana nokukhulisa izingane, kungadala uqhekeko phakathi kwalabo abashadile.
Inkinga enkulu ukuthi wena noshade naye kubonakala kungavumelani ngokuthi ungazilaya kanjani izingane zakho.
Oshade naye ucabanga ukuthi uxega kakhulu kanti wena ucabanga ukuthi banesandla esiqinile.
Lapho unomuzwa wokuthi ukuyeka amalungelo kuzokwanela lapho ingane yakho iphuthelwa isikhathi sokufika ekhaya, baba nomuzwa wokuthi ukuwathola kungaba okufanelekile.
Ugcina ungavumelani cishe ngakho konke mayelana nokuba ngumzali– lapho izingane kufanele ziyolala, noma kufanele ziye kuma-sleepovers, ukuthi zisingatha kanjani ukusebenza kwazo kabi esikoleni, njalonjalo. Eqinisweni, ukuphela kwento enibonakala nivumelana ngayo ukuthi okuthile kudinga ukuguquka.
Uhlobo lwezimpikiswano eziqhubekayo lungena kini nobabili. Umshado wakho nomndeni wakho kubaluleke kakhulu futhi wena noma oshade naye awukulungele ukukulahla lokho ngenxa yokwehluka kwesiyalo.
Umbono ojwayelekile uthi, "mina nomlingani wami asivumelani ngokukhulisa izingane", ngakho-ke yini ongayenza ngakho?
Ungalahli ithemba, likhona ithemba ngawe.
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuba ngumzali wokuthi ungathola kanjani okuvumelana noshade naye uma ningavumelani ngezixazululo ezinhle zokuba ngumzali noma ukuthi ungaba kanjani ngumzali njengeqembu 101:
1. Fika ekhasini elifanayo ngaphambi kwesikhathi
Cishe wena noshade naye ninamasu ahlukene okukhulisa izingane. Mhlawumbe omunye wenu ungomashiqela kanti omunye uvumela okuningi. Izitayela zakho zokuba ngumzali kungenzeka zidale umehluko wokuthi ufuna ukuyala kanjani izingane zakho.
Ukugwema izimpikiswano ezingapheli ngalezi zinkinga zokuba ngumzali, kubalulekile ukuthi nobabili nithole ikhasi elilodwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
Esinye sezixazululo ezinhle zokuba ngumzali ukuxoxa ngalokho ngamunye anemizwa enamandla ngakho kanye nangakhoee lapho ungavumelana khona nezinqumo ezithile zobuzali.
2. Setha imithetho nemiphumela ndawonye
Izingane zakho zidinga isakhiwo esilethwa isiyalo ukuze zikhule.
Ukuthola indawo yasekhaya enempilo futhi eqondisiwe, wena noshade naye kufanele nibambisane ekubekeni imithetho yasekhaya nemiphumela yokwephula leyo mithetho.
Cela izingane zakho ukuthi zingenele bese ucabangela imibono neziphakamiso zazo ngenkathi ugcina ukulawula konke.
Njengenye yezixazululo eziphumelelayo zokuba ngumzali, kulula ukuphoqelela imithetho wonke umuntu avumelana nayo.
Buka le vidiyo elusizo yePediatric Psychiatrist uDehra Harris ekhuluma ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene zokubeka imithetho yokwenza ingane yakho ilalele futhi iziphathe lapho ilingisa kaningi:
3. Buyisana
Lapho usuthole imithetho nemiphumela, ungaguquguquki ekuyisebenziseni futhi ukhumbule njengomzali njengeqembu.
Lapho omunye oshade naye eyala izingane, omunye kufanele azisekele. Lesi ngesinye sezixazululo ezinhle kakhulu zokukhulisa izingane ezikuvumela ukuthi wethule ubumbano ezinganeni zakho futhi uzinike ithuba elincane lokuphuma ezinqumweni zakho zobuzali.
Okuhlukile kulokhu uma uzwa ukuthi umlingani wakho ulimaza izingane zakho ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo.
4. Ungaphikisani phambi kwezingane
Ukuphikisana phambi kwezingane mayelana nokuqondisa amaqhinga amashifu kugxila kubo. Izingane zingabaxhaphaza kakhulu futhi uma sebebonile ukuthi abazali bazo abavumelani bangazama ukubadlalisa bodwa ukuze behlukane.
Uma uzwa sengathi kunempikiswano, zinike isikhathi sokuphola. Ungahamba uhambe, uthathe idrayivu noma uphume nje ekamelweni bese uthola okunye ongakwenza.
Vezani udaba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lapho nobabili nizolile futhi ningaxoxa ngezinto ngendlela enengqondo.
5. Yiba nezimo ekukhuliseni kwakho
Izixazululo zakho ezinhle zokuba ngumzali kufanele ziguquguquke ngokwanele ukuthi zishintshe njengoba izingane zakho zikhula. Kukhona ayikho indlela yobukhulu obulingana nayo yonke indlela yokukhulisa izingane. Cabangela ubuntu bezingane zakho njengoba uza nezindlela zokuziyala.
Futhi, yiba nomqondo ovulekile mayelana nendlela yakho futhi ungabi namahloni okucela usizo lwangaphandle lapho ludingeka. Ezinye izimo ezinjengokusebenzelana nentsha edelelayo zingaba ngaphezu kwakho noshade naye ongakwazi ukuzisingatha futhi ochwepheshe bangabekwa kangcono ukusiza ukulungisa izinto.
Ukushiywa kungalawulwa, umehluko wobuzali ungadala izinkinga emshadweni ezingaphazamisa nomndeni wonke.
Esikhundleni sokungaboni ngaso linye njalo uma kukhulunywa ngokuyala izingane zakho, xhumana, uvumelanise futhi uthole okuvunyelwene ngakho ngezixazululo ezinhle zokuba ngumzali. Uma nobabili nisebenza ndawonye, ningakha umkhaya ojabulayo nomshado ojabulayo nophumelelayo.