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- Obunye ubuso benkulumo, 'Ngidinga isikhala'
- Izimpawu okufanele unikeze umlingani wakho isikhala
- 1.Qonda isicelo sozakwenu
- 2. Thola isikhathi nendawo yesikhathi sokuzimela wedwa
Uma umlingani wakho ekubuza isikhala, ungahle ube nokukhathazeka okuncane ngokuthi kusho ukuthini lokho.
Ubudlelwano bothando noma bomndeni buhlala buphathelene nokudonsa okuncane nokudonsa, futhi futhi mayelana nokuhlukaniswa kwebanga nokusondelana.
Ubudlelwano obuphilile bafunda ukuzulazula kule dichotomy kusenesikhathi ekwakhiweni kothando lwabo ukugwema imizwa yobutha noma intukuthelo. Ngasikhathi sinye, masithembeke, 'Ngidinga isikhala' kungaba ngumsindo wokuqala wencithakalo ebudlelwaneni bakho njengoba kunabantu abafuna isikhala njengecebo lokuphuma.
Obunye ubuso benkulumo, 'Ngidinga isikhala'
Kusho ukuthini uma umlingani wakho ecela isikhala?
Lapha, sizama ukugwema ukugxila 'kusu lokuphuma'. Kodwa-ke, kunabantu abaningi abacela abakudingayo futhi basho abakushoyo, futhi ngalezo zimo, ukucela isikhala kusho lokho nje futhi okusho ukuvalelisa emshadweni.
Yize ingahlaba kancane, ekugcineni kufanele siphinde siqambe kabusha indlela esicabanga ngayo ngaleso sicelo ngoba lokhu kungaba ithuba lobudlelwano langempela!
Yebo! Uzwe kahle. Empeleni, zishaye emhlane lapha, unomlingani noma umlingani ofuna ukwenza lobu budlelwano busebenze ngendlela eyiyo ngokwakha ukuzibophezela okususelwe ekugcwalisekeni kwezidingo nezifiso ezifanayo futhi empeleni kukhuluma lokho, nansi i-jackpot!
Lapha akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani lapho umlingani wakho ecela isikhala. Esikhundleni salokho, kubheke njengesibusiso.
Kepha, kuhlale kunolunye uhlangothi lwemali.
Kuthiwani uma unokukhathazeka okukhulu kobudlelwano nokunamathiselwe okungavikelekile? Ukuzwa ukuthi umlingani wakho ufuna isikhala kungakubangela ukwethuka, ukwesaba, nokwesaba ukulahlwa.
Uma usuvele ulolo hlobo lozakwethu, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ugcwale abanye ngezinganekwane zakho ezidabukisayo bese uzama ukudambisa ukukhathazeka okuzwayo lapho uhlukile kubo. Lokhu ekugcineni kuzobacindezela kude kakhulu.
Ukwenza okuhlukile kubaluleke kakhulu manje.
Izimpawu okufanele unikeze umlingani wakho isikhala
Masiqonde izinyathelo ongazithatha ukusindisa umshado wakho, uma umlingani wakho esho ukuthi badinga isikhala, okungase kungazwakali kukuhle kuwe.
1.Qonda isicelo sozakwenu
Ungacabanga ngokubabonga ngokukutshela abakudingayo bese ubacela ukuthola impendulo ethe xaxa ngokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba nesikhala esiningi kubo.
Uma nisebudlelwaneni obusha, nobabili kumele ngabe nenze ubudlelwano benu baba yinto esemqoka ezimpilweni zenu. Kufanele ngabe usebenzise isikhathi sakho esingu-100% kulesi sigaba esisha sothando, ngisho nokuvumela ukuzibophezela okubalulekile kwehlele eceleni kwendlela.
Ngakho-ke, kunamathuba aphezulu, lapho umlingani wakho noma oshade naye ecela isikhala, bangaphuthelwa ukuzihlalela nabangane babo, kaninginingi.
2. Thola isikhathi nendawo yesikhathi sokuzimela wedwa
Ngakho-ke isinyathelo esilandelayo ngemuva kokubonisa ukubonga ngalesi sicelo ukuthola ukuthi uzakwethu ufuna isikhathi esithe xaxa nini futhi kuphi.
Njengompetha wezithandani, siyazi ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi imibhangqwana igcine ubunikazi bayo ebudlelwaneni futhi ukuba nesikhala kuyingxenye yalokho.
Eminye yemibuzo esiyicela imibhangqwana ukuthi ihlole ukuthathelwa noma ukulawula ukuthi buhlonipha kanjani ubudlelwano nemisebenzi yabalingani babo ngaphandle kobuhlobo obuyinhloko.
Kepha, ukuba nesikhala kwehlukile ekubeni nezinsuku noma amasonto wokuthula ebudlelwaneni. Uma umlingani wakho ecela isikhala bese lokhu kwenzeka, kuzwakala sengathi basebenzise isicelo sendawo njengecebo lokuphuma noma banesitayela samatshe sokuxhumana ngezidingo zabo zobudlelwano.
Ukuba nesikhala sangempela kusho ukuthi bobabili ophathina bangena ngombhalo noma bashaye isikhathi esithile emini noma ebusuku. Basazisa ukuxhumana ndawonye, babelana futhi banakekele ngemicimbi eyenzeka ezimpilweni zabo, noma basenza izinhlelo komunye nomunye.
Bakha indlela eya phambili ebudlelwaneni ngenkathi bevuma ukuthi badinga ukugcina abanye abantu nezibopho ezimpilweni zabo.