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- Kubukeka kanjani ukuxhumana ngokukhululekile emshadweni?
- 1. Lalela futhi ukhombise indlela abakhulumisana kahle abakhuluma ngayo
- 2. Khulumela phansi ukuze uzwakale
- 3. Yenza oshade naye azizwe ephephile
- 4. Khombisa ukuthi ulalele
- 5. Vumela ukuthula
- 6. Isikhathi sibalulekile
- 7. Hlonipha imibono yoshade naye, noma ngabe awuvumelani nayo
Ukuxhumana kudlala indima ebalulekile kubo bonke ubudlelwano bethu, noma ngabe bungobuchwepheshe noma bomuntu siqu.
Kodwa ukuxhumana ngokukhululekile kuyisici esibaluleke kakhulu emshadweni omuhle. Ukuzijwayeza ukukhulumisana ngokukhululekile emshadweni kuvame ukubhekana nezinkinga ezinkulu ngomlomo, ngaleyo ndlela, kunqandwe izimo ezimbi phakathi kwezithandani.
Ngakho-ke, yini ukuxhumana okuvulekile? Kukhulumisana kahle nangokusobala ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulelwa, noma inkhulumomphendvulwano ikhula ibe yingxabano. Ukuxhumana okuvulelekile ebudlelwaneni kubalulekile empilweni ende yesibopho sothando.
Kungaba umqondo omuhle ukufuna izeluleko kudokotela wezithandani ukuze uqinise ubudlelwano bakho. Leyo enye yezindlela zokuthola umbono ngobudlelwano bakho futhi uthuthukise ikhwalithi yokuxhumana okuvulekile emshadweni.
Abaningi bethu abazi ukuthi baxhumana kanjani ngempumelelo. Kungenzeka singakhululeki ukuveza izidingo zethu, noma kungenzeka ukuthi asazi nje ukuthi kanjani. Ngokujabulisayo, ngokuzijwayeza okuthile, amakhono okuxhumana avulekile nathembekile angafundwa.
Kubukeka kanjani ukuxhumana ngokukhululekile emshadweni?
Ngakho-ke, yini ukuxhumana okuvulekile ebudlelwaneni? Emshadweni onempilo nothando noma ebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo, imibhangqwana ikhuluma ngokukhululeka, ngokukhululekile, futhi izwa ukuthi iphephile lapho ihlanganyela imicabango yayo eyimfihlo kakhulu.
Bazwakalisa ukukhathazeka kwabo nemizwa yabo lapho kuvela ubunzima futhi babonise ukubonga lapho izinto zilungile.
Lapho imibhangqwana yenza ukukhulumisana okuvulelekile bobabili abalingani bakhuluma ngenhlonipho hhayi ngendlela yokubamangalela noma ngezinhlamba ezilimazayo noma ezigxekayo.
Balalela ngokucophelela, bezama ukuqonda ukuthi umlingani wabo uthini ngozwela kunokuphazamisa oshade naye futhi akhombe okungalungile kulokho abakushoyo.
Ekupheleni kwenkulumo, lo mbhangqwana uzizwa uqinisekile ngengxoxo futhi uzizwa sengathi ukukhathazeka kwabo kuye kwaqondwa futhi kwamukelwa.
Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuxhumana avulekile azokuqalisa endleleni yokuba ngumxhumanisi ongcono, ovuleke kakhudlwana nomlingani wakho.
1. Lalela futhi ukhombise indlela abakhulumisana kahle abakhuluma ngayo
Chitha isikhathi ulalele ukuthi abantu obathandayo bawasebenzisa kanjani amagama abo. Izindaba zethelevishini, umsakazo nama-podcast zigcwele abantu abakhuluma kahle abakwaziyo ukuletha umyalezo ngendlela enenhlonipho futhi emnandi.
Khomba okuthandayo ngesitayela sabo sokuxhumana:
Ingabe bakhuluma ngamathoni aduduzayo?
Ingabe babuza izilaleli zabo imibuzo emihle, eshukumisa ingqondo?
Ngabe bayakhombisa ukuthi bayalalela lapho abanye abantu bekhuluma nabo?
Zama futhi ufake izinto ozithandayo mayelana nezitayela zabo zokuxhumana ngendlela yakho yokukhuluma.
2. Khulumela phansi ukuze uzwakale
Izipikha ezinhle zomphakathi ziyazi ukuthi iqhinga lokwenza izilaleli zakho zilalele ngokweqiniso ukukhuluma ngokuthamba. Lokhu kubophezela izethameli ukuthi zivule izindlebe zazo futhi zihlale zilalele. Ungenza okufanayo nakumngane wakho womshado.
Yiba mnene ngendlela okhuluma ngayo nabo. Ngeke nje kudlulise imfudumalo nomusa, kepha kuzobavumela ukuthi bavule izindlebe zabo ukuzwa okushoyo.
Akukho okuvimba ingxoxo ngokushesha kunokuphakamisa izwi lakho, ukumemeza noma ukumemeza.
3. Yenza oshade naye azizwe ephephile
Ukwenza lokhu kuzobasiza nakanjani ukuthi bavuleleke kuwe. Sebenzisa isitayela sokuxhumana esiveza umuzwa wokuphepha. Kanye nezwi elimnene, amazwi enkuthazo angasiza oshade naye ukuba akhulume kahle nawe. “Noma yini ekuhluphayo ungangitshela.
Ngiyathembisa ukukuzwa ungangiphazamisi. ” Lokhu kubeka inkundla yokuthi omunye umuntu avuleke ngaphandle kokwesaba ukugxekwa noma ukunganaki, futhi kufaka isandla ekusondelaneni.
4. Khombisa ukuthi ulalele
Lapho kunekhefu elingokwemvelo engxoxweni, ukuphinda usho ezinye izinto ngendlela ehlukile umlingani wakho asanda kukwabelana naye ngazo kuzobakhombisa ukuthi uganene, ukhona, futhi ngempela ukubezwa. Ngokwesibonelo:
“Kuzwakala sengathi ukhungathekile ngomsebenzi wakho njengamanje. Lokhu okushilo ngomphathi wakho kuzongenza nami ngicasuke. Yini engingayenza ukuze uzizwe ungcono njengamanje? ”
Usebenzisa ulimi olufana nalesi imibukiso:
- Ukuthi uyiqonde kahle inkinga yomlingani wakho, futhi
- Ukulungele ukubasekela
5. Vumela ukuthula
Kwesinye isikhathi sidinga ukucabanga ngalokho esifuna ukukusho ngaphambi kokukusho (futhi leyo yindlela enhle yokuvimbela ukuqhuma kwezinto esingaziqondile.) Ukukhulumisana ngokukhululekile emshadweni akusho nje ukudlulisa amagama. Nikeza ukushintshana kwakho isikhala sokuphefumula.
Noma ngabe udinga ukufaka "Hmmmm .... ake ngicabange ngalokho" ngenkathi uzindla, kukhombisa oshade naye, ukhona futhi udinga nje isikhathi sokucabangisisa ngalokho okusanda kushiwo.
6. Isikhathi sibalulekile
Awufuni ukuqala ingxoxo ebalulekile njengoba uphuma ngomnyango wokuyisa izingane esikoleni. Futhi ungafuna ukumisa inkulumo esindayo uma uzwa ukuthi oshade naye ukhathele ngemuva kosuku olude esehhovisi, noma uthukuthele ngokuthile abakubonile ngalolo suku.
Angeke sihlale siba nokuxhumana okuhle nokuvulekile ngaso sonke isikhathi, kepha singakhetha isikhathi esihle kakhulu, esinethuba elihle kakhulu ukuze ukuxhumana kwethu kwenzeke ngaphansi kwezimo ezifanele.
Yiba nozwelo kushejuli, imizwa, namanye amandla uma ufuna ukusetha imibandela yokuphindela emuva naphambili phakathi kwakho noshade naye.
Lokho kusho ukuthi, uma kukhona okwenzekile okudinga ukulungiswa, ungalindi isikhathi eside. Ukukhulumisana ngobuqotho kubalulekile ukuze kungabi bikho ukucasuka emshadweni.
Ukugxila enkingeni buthule akunamsebenzi.
Vele uqiniseke ukuthi ukhetha umzuzu ofanele ukuvula ingxoxo ukuze uthole umphumela owufunayo ekuxhumaneni okuvulekile.
7. Hlonipha imibono yoshade naye, noma ngabe awuvumelani nayo
Elinye lamathuluzi wokuxhumana abaluleke kakhulu ongalisebenzisa uma wena nomlingani wakho ningavumelani ngokuthile ukuveza into enjengale:
“Ngiyawuqonda umbono wakho, kodwa ngizizwa ngenye indlela. Singavuma ukungavumelani? ”
Le misho emibili itshela oshade naye ukuthi uzwile futhi uyayiqonda. Iphinde ikuvumela ukuthi uhloniphe umbono wakho, oqinisekisa imizwa yakho.
Okokugcina, kuletha umlingani wakho esinqumweni sokuvuma ukubona imibono yomunye nomunye, noma ngabe le mibono ayihambelani.
Le yindlela enenhlonipho emangalisayo yokwengeza okungaba yimpikiswano futhi kukhuthaze ukuxhumana okuvulekile.
Imibhangqwana idinga ukusebenzela ukuthola izindlela ezihamba phambili, ezikhiqiza kakhulu ukwakha ukuxhumana okunempilo emshadweni nomunye. Amandla okubamba ingxoxo emnandi kungenye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuhlala uxhunywe ngokomzwelo noshade naye.
Futhi, ukuxhumana ngokukhululekile emshadweni kuvala igebe phakathi kwezithandani futhi kuqinisa isibopho esabiwe phakathi kwabo.
Qiniseka ukuthi ubeka eceleni isikhathi usuku ngalunye ukuze usebenzise amanye noma wonke amathiphu wokuxhumana avulekile ngenhla. Umshado wakho nomuzwa wenjabulo kuzoba ngcono kuwo.